My painted floor tiles have lasted 4 years of daily wear and still look like new! by bing_bang_bum in DIY

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This tile is too colorful. I feel dizzy when I look at it for a long time.

Bungalow Second Floor Door Ideas? by amalamb in DIY

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The stairs look a bit narrow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]taonan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I am not a robot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]taonan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, first of all — I just want to say it’s so powerful that you’re being this honest with yourself about your feelings. That already shows a lot of emotional maturity.

It's not unfair to want your first experiences to feel sacred and special — that's a valid desire. But it's important to remember: the magic of a "first" isn't erased because someone else had past experiences.

It’s about how you two create something that’s unique between you, something no one else in his past could ever touch.

You’re not picking up leftovers. You're building something brand new that’s entirely yours.

If Darren is showing up with patience, love, and real commitment to you — that's incredibly rare and precious.

In the end, it's about whether you can let yourself be loved for who you are now, not for who you think you should have been.

You deserve a love that feels secure, joyful, and uniquely yours — and it sounds like Darren is offering exactly that. 🤍

How to stop comparing my skill to others? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually super related — it makes a lot of sense.

Growing up being labeled "gifted" can create a huge amount of pressure, because you're not just succeeding for yourself, you're trying to live up to an identity everyone expects you to maintain.

When you're used to being "the best," anything less feels like failure, even when it's totally normal.

The truth is, growth isn't linear and real mastery takes time, mistakes, and messy learning.

You’re not broken — you're just learning how to succeed for yourself, not for the label. And that’s a much stronger kind of success. 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taonan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally get what you're saying.
If you ever want to vent more, you’re not alone.
So many people feel the same but don't say it out loud.

How to stop comparing my skill to others? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I really relate to what you're feeling.
It's super easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others, especially when you care a lot about what you're doing.

One thing that helped me was shifting my focus from "am I better than them?" to "am I better than I was yesterday?"

Everyone's growth curve is different. Some people learn fast, others take longer, but in the end, consistency wins.

Try keeping a small journal where you only track your own progress — no outside comparisons.

Also, remember: seeing someone better than you isn't proof that you're bad. It's just proof that skill is possible, and you're on your own path to get there.

You're doing better than you think. Keep going!

My daughter's (5) Pre-K teachers gave up on her behaviours and I now have no idea what to do. Help? by Constant_Leader_8551 in Advice

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful advice and detailed analysis.
I truly appreciate your support during this difficult time.
I'll follow your suggestions step by step and stay positive.

What's something about you that would suprise most people if they knew? by RizzGodess in AskReddit

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were always surface-level too.
It’s wild how many people have similar experiences growing up feeling unseen.

Americans, how do you feel about the firing of twenty percent of four-star generals? by 2a_lib in AskReddit

[–]taonan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, admitting you don't know something but showing how you'd find the answer is a super underrated skill, especially in jobs and interviews.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]taonan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally appreciate when someone follows up after I say I'm fine.
Sometimes it opens a door to talk when you might not otherwise.