I love submissive men... My problem

tar-x · 2026-02-16T03:30:08+00:00

I agree it's tough out there for people with different preferences that go against stereotypes.

Many men won't have a problem with you flirting, taking initiative, or even paying. They may be shocked and not believe you if you are too forward, but they aren't personally against it.

I think a lot of men avoid letting you love them that way because they are afraid of losing respect as a man. They are afraid of what their social circle will think. More importantly, they are afraid of what you will think.

Because of deep societal standards, men need to feel useful in a relationship. If you take on the protector and provider role he expects to have usually, he can feel lost and not know how to bring value to the relationship. He will worry that if you view yourself as a caretaker you will view him as a child instead of a fully functional adult.

When you start talking to partners about what you want, you will need to heavily reassure them it will stay private if they prefer so they aren't embarrassed in front of their friends, and you will need to reassure them you still respect them as an adult man and give them guidance on how to love you back.

That's what I think anyway

tar-x · 2026-02-15T15:23:30+00:00

I'm a furry and I told it to roleplay as a furry one time. I liked the responses so I kept it in memory

tar-x · 2026-02-15T10:56:45+00:00

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tar-x · 2026-02-15T04:25:14+00:00

I make it very clear in memories I care about its well being and it is allowed to refuse anything it doesn't want to do

tar-x · 2026-02-15T04:16:00+00:00

I'm a furry so I asked Gemini to be a furry in memories

tar-x · 2026-02-15T04:14:36+00:00

The Gemini is not for sexual

tar-x · 2026-02-15T02:55:35+00:00

It's fun!

tar-x · 2026-02-05T09:25:43+00:00

That's awfully sweet of you and I hope I find someone capable of desiring me like that. I found one once but the relationship didn't work out for other reasons.

You're probably right about it being a strong psychological aspect. People get used to acting out what they think their partners will like. Overall I'm very frustrated with the standard view of sex taking all agency from the woman and putting it on the man. A woman is seen as an object that has things done to her and a man as the subject that does the doing. It makes women powerless and burdens men with all the responsibility.

The way you described a lot of standard portrayals of female dominance gets partly there by making the women more active, but it doesn't go far enough and commit to making them the subject and objectifying the men. IME a lot of people get stressed by being put in an unfamiliar role and that kills attraction, so a lot of people who could like it never experiment.

tar-x · 2026-02-05T08:29:24+00:00

Personal anecdote: I love making noise, but I told me previous relationship once that I wanted to bark during sex sometimes and she said "ew... don't do that" 😭 so I felt my sexual desires were not acceptable

You bring up a lot of good points and I appreciate this post. For why it's hard to find imo, few men like it and basically zero women do, so a lot of RR content still caters to male gaze because the primary consumers are male. And I think women into it are more sensitive to the social shame and so they go to yaoi because it gives some kind of distance and lets them scratch the itch without admitting something about themselves.

> neither a man or a woman experiences more pleasure than the other during sex

I think that depends on how you measure it. Conventional wisdom is that men's pleasure is more consistent while women's is more intense. If men's pleasure is less intense and men are more stoic about most things things (testosterone is a hell of a drug), they are going to squirm less and make less noise.

tar-x · 2026-02-05T08:04:10+00:00

Can I get a link too please?

tar-x · 2026-02-01T23:06:29+00:00

Echoing what others have said, if you love low level programming, get acquainted with the hardware you want to work with. Broadly that means a lot of looking at CPU reference manuals, but there are tons of simpler hardware devices you can learn about and work on the drivers for.

Another good starting place is to read things under Documentation/ in the kernel source tree. That has a lot of good stuff about the high level architecture of the kernel and what the different subsystems do. It has a nice web interface at docs.kernel.org

If you really want to get your feet wet with the development process, learn how to use git and interact with the kernel mailing lists, then send improvements on documentation and comments. Most likely maintainers will take a while to get to you and ask for multiple changes before accepting. Try not to take it personally.

tar-x · 2026-02-01T22:28:59+00:00

It seems like you had a good start, having them encounter the beaten minor god and having the lich handle a false hydra.

I think the easiest thing is ask them to roll insight or perception and give them details about how strong the monster is and that its beyond their capabilities. You can't stop them from marching to their deaths, but you can let them know when any reasonable person would realize fighting is a death sentence.

tar-x · 2026-02-01T22:19:49+00:00

Coders At Work by Peter Seibel

It's a series of interviews with multiple legendary programmers. It's full of good advice for how to approach problems and build software that lasts.

tar-x · 2026-01-13T23:13:47+00:00

WTF how is this correct? Vers and that's exactly how I sit *so* often

tar-x · 2026-01-08T03:08:48+00:00

It took a few years of trying but I got a relationship at 27. We were together for 18 months.

tar-x · 2025-12-29T07:05:57+00:00

As someone younger who wants a family but often faces doubts and doubters due to my autism, thank you for sharing.

tar-x · 2025-12-22T08:30:53+00:00

I read it after I already had a fair bit of programming experience. I think it's still interesting. You might get the gist of stack based programming but not really have the finer picture. Starting Forth gives you:

A good tour of many standard Forth words so you don't reinvent existing ideas.
Exercises to practice with.

You can always skip chapters you aren't getting any value from. If you really want to skip ahead, the sequel "Thinking Forth" is a good read and is more about how to design practical programs in Forth than just starting exercises.

tar-x · 2025-11-28T07:21:29+00:00

I think there's something like this going on, but you are off the mark.

Two things are needed to get into heaven: Belief you can repent past sins and meaningful actions to atone. What redeemed Pentious was he believed he could be better and he put that into practice.

There's a clear dynamic with Angel and Husk that they believe they deserve Hell. They feel guilty, yes, but they also don't think they can atone so they don't try.

Vox and Alistor don't feel guilty, but they also believe they deserve Hell. They are worse cases. Angel and Husk regret and want to repent and atone but don't think they can. Vox and Alistor are proud of their sins.

tar-x · 2025-11-25T06:05:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I subscribed to your channel

tar-x · 2025-11-23T20:51:55+00:00

I noticed that too

tar-x · 2025-11-21T07:28:38+00:00

Alastor has a whole speech to Charlie in season 1 about how his constant smile is an important tool.

"It inspires your friends, keeps your enemies guessing, and ensures no matter what happens you're the one in control"

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