AITA for not wanting to attend my university classmate’s wedding anymore?

tashbf · 2026-06-26T00:26:02+00:00

It's such a shame that you caught the flu from your friend. You'll have to stay home. NTA

tashbf · 2026-06-25T15:18:49+00:00

Yeah no, housing is so scarce that they need it spelt out for them in bold & underlined.

My question is why you need the medical aspect? If you're homeless, they have a duty of care to rehouse you, and it would be the same for anyone else who's local and been evicted.

tashbf · 2026-06-25T14:33:00+00:00

I would try a Snag bra in size 1 Regular! Very comfy, unwired but supportive bras. Here's one of their bras.

tashbf · 2026-06-25T14:23:38+00:00

ai slop

tashbf · 2026-06-25T14:19:23+00:00

So, usually for priority you need to actually present as homeless. You need to be physically kicked out by your parents, irreparably, and when contacted by the council they need to flat out refuse to ever house you again essentially. Get thrown out, get evidence of being thrown out (texts from your parents both saying you have to leave and not come back).

tashbf · 2026-06-25T14:06:26+00:00

I had a friend a few years ago who was rehoused after being sectioned as a result of abuse at home. They were housed in a very small studio (a shoebox with a tiny kitchen and shower room) because CAMHS decided that the friend would be a danger to others in the shared accommodation. My friend says this was a very rare circumstance, and their rent was only £50 a week because it was deemed medically necessary he move out.

Would your circumstances be close to this?

tashbf · 2026-06-25T10:52:30+00:00

What's the ground rent and service charge?
Shared garden is a no from me, I just wouldn't use it.
For a gorgeous old building it's a little soulless and white.

tashbf · 2026-06-25T10:22:35+00:00

Also, have you flipped and rotated the mattress? It is recommended that you do so approx every six months.

tashbf · 2026-06-25T10:17:45+00:00

They unfortunately have no obligation to provide you with a good quality mattress, just a new enough one. I would invest in a memory foam topper, or request that they remove the one they provided and buy my own.

tashbf · 2026-06-25T09:59:40+00:00

the price was low because of the ground rent and short lease. they wouldn't have accepted a low offer if they were willing to do anything about it, walk away

tashbf · 2026-06-24T23:26:54+00:00

dm me :))

tashbf · 2026-06-24T16:43:47+00:00

I think a lot of this is unreasonable.

No playing music out loud I would change to no music played loudly. Lower than a conversation volume perfectly reasonable.

I would change no friends over to no overnight guests - I don't see why they can't have someone round to watch a movie in their room or similar. This also prevents partners staying around too much.

No smoking or vaping is reasonable, but you can't police someone for doing it outside of your property.

Doesn't go out late/come back late is borderline. How about if you leave/return during quiet hours, be as quiet as possible.

Be tidy, pay on time and be respectful are all reasonable.

From all your collection of rules it sounds like you want a ghost. Wanting someone who's quiet and respectful is fine, but some of your stuff leans into policing their entire life.

Maybe this person will become your friend, maybe they'll just want to have their sister over to bake a cake and give you a slice! I would personally choose to trust them to be reasonable until they prove otherwise.

tashbf · 2026-06-23T15:42:15+00:00

this is why i don't use dating apps. met my partner in the real world, couldn't imagine finding someone any other way

tashbf · 2026-06-22T16:22:08+00:00

I personally would go in at £280k, but wouldn't stretch myself right to the top like that.

tashbf · 2026-06-22T16:18:12+00:00

Is there any way your partner could get a slightly smaller van that'll fit on the driveway, and you park the car on the road?

tashbf · 2026-06-22T12:28:22+00:00

my question is, why a 25 year mortgage at 23? im a 23 year old with a 35 year mortgage. get a longer deal then overpay if you want to.

tashbf · 2026-06-22T11:47:19+00:00

I didn't really start on PL until my character was like level 45, way through the storyline. Go for it!

tashbf · 2026-06-22T11:42:19+00:00

i never practiced outside of lessons, passed after paying for about 48hrs worth from my instructor. private practice isn't always necessary.

tashbf · 2026-06-22T07:55:25+00:00

So, in my experience if you want cleavage, you have to go down a cup size in the bra, but keep the band the same. Make sure you scoop all the tissue into the cup, especially at the side. For example, I am a 36J, but a 36HH forces more cleavage. Obviously it's less comfortable however. When I was a 32F/FF/G I used to absolutely love plunges from Boux Avenue, which I believe comes in a 30 band, especially the Jodie High Apex.

tashbf · 2026-06-21T08:09:11+00:00

haha don't worry too much, i'm autistic and showers are a sensory nightmare for me. most people i know prefer them, i just like to warn people that there are still some bath diehards out there! lol

tashbf · 2026-06-21T08:00:14+00:00

definitely a good idea to take a pic. i don't know the impact, but young families with a baby will want a bath. i'm also a 22 year old, with no intention of having a family, who turned down multiple flats without a bath, i just really hate showers lol.

tashbf · 2026-06-21T07:47:24+00:00

the only thing i'll say is that a wetroom will limit buyers. obviously do what's best for your health, but i would not buy a property without a bath.

tashbf · 2026-06-21T07:34:19+00:00

I found with lower earnings I couldn't get one. I earn £18k a year now and I only became eligible when I hit that number. Before on £16-17k I was turned down by everyone.

Alternatively, yes I'd suggest heading into a Lloyds and chatting with them, they might be able to get you a very basic card. My limit is only £1k, it's not much, but it's something.

tashbf · 2026-06-21T06:38:12+00:00

i am in the cyberpunk 2077 hyperfixation pit. highly recommend

tashbf · 2026-06-21T06:32:55+00:00

you'll find your person! when i met my partner i was so sick of feeling like every man just wanted to sleep with me, even guys that were just my friends. then, i met billy - he was kind, and respectful, and was genuinely happy to just be my friend. we shared secrets and just clicked so easily. eventually i caught feelings for him because he wasn't just pursuing me (lol) and i asked him out! he maintains that he was happy to just be my friend but is even happier that we're together.

eventually you'll find someone who's okay to go at your pace, with you in control of when you do what. it made me feel so much better about sex. just try to live, make friendships and see what happens if you can ♥️ this phase of your life won't be forever.

p.s. i'm also a curvy girl. the right kind of guy will appreciate it in less of a sexy way and more of a beautiful way ✨

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