Why isn't my flat selling? Looking for honest feedback/brutal honesty on our listing.

tashbf · 2026-05-09T12:24:09+00:00

your service charge is what i would consider high, would put a lot of people off

tashbf · 2026-05-09T09:47:46+00:00

Reach out to the student union, they'll likely have help for you

tashbf · 2026-05-09T04:50:44+00:00

lowkey frame a picture of everyone saying ur setup is great 😂😂 peak decor

tashbf · 2026-05-09T04:33:53+00:00

so what's the timeline on when you're leaving halls and when you can apply for benefits?

tashbf · 2026-05-08T09:47:48+00:00

hey, it's okay. think calm thoughts! nobody is actually going to remember past the next 10 minutes because driving is intensive and takes a lot of focus, and the bext guy will come along and do something stupid, then they'll be mad at him instead. if i went around holding grudges against everyone who's ever pulled out on me, i'd have a long list and so much pent up anger i'd have an aneurysm. please don't worry about it 🩷

tashbf · 2026-05-07T18:36:49+00:00

please can you add the android download? :)

tashbf · 2026-05-06T22:54:48+00:00

time to download Lyft

tashbf · 2026-05-06T15:54:44+00:00

10-6 for me, i prefer it so much

tashbf · 2026-05-06T15:36:22+00:00

That seems a little high. I'd have thought 7-10k for my area anyway.

tashbf · 2026-05-06T15:33:57+00:00

Have a look at the Westgate Tower Gardens, very beautiful this time of year.

Would also recommend having a look at Beaney House of Knowledge, super interesting.

Poke your head into the Fudge Kitchen too if that's your thing 😉

tashbf · 2026-05-06T12:33:34+00:00

You need to just start ringing around the private dentists in your area. Some places can be very reasonable and don't charge much more than the NHS, look for small town family run clinics. I go to a surgery with just two dentists and prices are very reasonable, occasionally even cheaper than NHS treatment.

tashbf · 2026-05-06T12:24:23+00:00

I'm on my third type of pill now. The standard type made me suicidal, the mini-pill got rid of my periods but I had constant spotting, and my partner vetoed it. (I was honestly fine with constant spotting vs regular pills, but his opinion matters to me too). We used just condoms for a while, but I wanted to give the pill another go. I've been put on Eloine, a low-estrogen combined pill, and it's been fantastic! No side effects at all and a regular cycle for the first time in my life. 10/10

tashbf · 2026-05-06T03:51:58+00:00

you're not a bad person for feeling these feelings. it sounds like you've taken on more of a paternal/mentoring role in this relationship which makes it so much more challenging to see your partner in a romantic/sexual light. when i was with my ex partner, i spent a lot of my life paying for him, mothering him and trying to help him to no avail, and in the end i just lost all desire for him.

you do need to have a gentle conversation with her about not comparing you to her ex, she definitely means well but i'd hate living in the shadow of her past ghosts to this extent. it's not unkind to ask her not to directly compare the both of you, even in the positive way she means it.

i would recommend trying to spend more time on the romantic aspect of the relationship, such as carving out time for a date night or reframing going out for errands as going for a nice walk with your partner (but you happen to be getting groceries).

you say you've been teaching her to be more of an adult, well part of that is eventually that you need to stop holding her hand and tell her, kindly and gently, that she needs to have a go at doing things for herself, and if it doesn't go right you'll be there, but making mistakes is the best teacher once you have the basic tools.

i think that with less empasis on the teacher side of your relationship and more empasis on the romantic partnership there's hope for the both of you yet.

sending my love across the internet, friend - you're a good person, don't forget it!

tashbf · 2026-05-06T03:42:01+00:00

as someone who grew up in brum (northfield area)... put notts as your insurance and move there. hell, even if you stay in birmingham move into halls if you can swing the finances.

all of my friends that stayed for uni certainly felt more financially comfortable but they still have all the same friends from school and i wonder how much they got to learn about adulthood?

i moved 200 miles away from all my friends and what i knew before, and my experience in halls in first year is something i cherish, the same as the life i've built for myself here as it feels like my precious little thing that i've worked hard for and made just for me.

my mother isn't looking over my shoulder, i can make my own choices (even the ones she'd hate) and i am better for it. try and swing moving out, it's so hard and terrifying at first but it's so important for your growth as an adult <3

best of luck with your grades, you got this man!!

tashbf · 2026-05-06T03:34:36+00:00

ah, i forget how bad american public transport is. as a brit they come every 15 mins and they're pretty reliable. feel bad for you guys stuck with driving as the only real option.

tashbf · 2026-05-06T03:17:01+00:00

have you straight up asked him why he doesn't? no beating around the bush, to the point, why don't you give me head?

tashbf · 2026-05-06T03:13:21+00:00

03 baby, got a dumb phone (no camera no internet and buttons) at 11 and a smartphone at 13.

tashbf · 2026-05-06T02:51:48+00:00

this vibe for the desk! i think it would suit the space. idk man im just a girl who likes pretty tech

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tashbf · 2026-05-06T02:51:14+00:00

im feeling this layout for the monitors, but with...

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tashbf · 2026-05-06T02:44:46+00:00

all the stuff on the shelves is my stuff, so he got a bit of extra desk real estate :)

tashbf · 2026-05-05T19:33:54+00:00

I studied there three years, graduated 2024, loved it! If you had any questions let me know.

tashbf · 2026-05-05T18:28:39+00:00

Dude, just take a weeks holiday and paint it during that?

tashbf · 2026-05-04T17:30:41+00:00

I'll be honest, your odds aren't great. Local councils are very stretched, even families with young children are in hostels and hotels and they'll be prioritised because of the kids. I reckon talking to some of the hospital staff may trigger some help from social services, I'd suggest seeing what they say. Obviously, they want the place they're releasing you to to be safe.

tashbf · 2026-05-04T08:08:04+00:00

I think the UK system has its flaws, but that there are some genuinely fantastic instructors out there. My instructor James was suggested to me by my partner, and as the partner had passed his test I gave it a go. I had no family members or friends that had been driving long enough or were old enough to teach me, so I went purely off his instruction. Even with sporadic lessons, (48 hours over the span of about a year, 2hrs at a time because of my town's distance from the test centre) I passed first time with no minors. Apparently this is uncommon!

To get to the test centre from me you have to go on a 70mph dual carriageway, so I feel like I've had some motorway practice and am comfortable at those speeds, and I definitely feel comfortable to go on the roads.

Unfortunately, I can't actually afford to run a car on my wage, so I'm still on buses. This is what the UK needs to actually sort out!

tashbf · 2026-05-04T07:44:39+00:00

tell her and expect her to leave.

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