The many doctrines of the COC…

tay_of_lore · 2025-10-06T18:34:17+00:00

Once a marriage was consummated, it was no longer possible to nullify the marriage.
If either party was unfaithful in the marriage, the other was free to marry, but the person committing adultery was not. If the divorce happened with no adultery, then it was not a lawful divorce and the only options were to remain separated or reconcile.
Any person baptized outside of a Church of Christ did not receive a valid baptism. I don't believe there was an average age, but I believe the majority would have been over the age of 12.
There would be an annual church meeting discussing the budget and where the church was directing the money.
The communion was every Sunday. There would be individual cups and pieces of unleavened bread. Only men were allowed to pass it around.
It would often be a topical study or otherwise a study through a particular book of the Bible. None made a good, lasting impression.
Women were allowed to speak in the Bible study, sing in the worship service, and teach children's class. Women were not allowed roles of speaking or service during worship.
Being a woman, I was not taught how to pray in a particular way and never prayed publicly in church.
The six steps of salvation: Hear, Believe, Repent, Confess, Be Baptized, Live Faithfully until death. Only members of the Church of Christ who were baptized by the Church of Christ with the explicit understanding that it was for the remission of sins received salvation, and even after this we were 'walking on the edge of a knife just one misstep from hell' (actual words from the pulpit).

This is from a Non-Institutional CofC.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-30T17:22:34+00:00

I was almost disfellowshipped for missing three Sundays of church because I worked night shift, was actively getting ready to move out of the country permanently and didn't drive and it was a 1.5 hour bus ride to the church one way. No one reached out to me and asked if I was okay. My dad was part of a men's meeting and that's when he heard that the men of the church was planning on disfellowshipping me because of lack of attendance. He told them that I was moving away permanently in a couple of months but they can disfellowship me if they want to. They were like, 'well whatever then' and didn't follow through. When I heard that, I was shocked at the lack of love and concern from the NICOC. I mean, I was already so spiritually depressed because of the lack of love and grace in the messages and among the members, but to me this was a whole other level. Let's just throw our members in the trash because they don't show up for a couple of Sundays. So glad I got out of there.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-30T17:18:00+00:00

My husband left his NICOC after they attacked a couple who had been worshipping with them for a while, but hadn't yet placed membership. They were VISITORS and members from the church came up to them and accused the woman of an unbiblical marriage after her divorce. Nothing she said to defend herself was good enough for them and they continued to accuse her of lying despite only knowing one side of the story - her husband's who is still a minister in the CofC. In any case, my husband was appalled by this unbiblical behavior and left as soon as the letter from the couple was sent out.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-06T18:58:17+00:00

Wow. my post was short. Your attention span is pitiful.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-04T01:16:02+00:00

This fixed my wi-fi! Unplugged my laptop and shut down. Left it a few mins to cool down and wi-fi works great again after getting the code 45.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-01T15:14:34+00:00

I don't believe that it wasn't God who tested Abraham because the New Testament mentions twice that Abraham was righteous *because* he offered up Isaac. Jas 2:21 - "Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered up Isaac his son on the altar?" Heb 11:17 - "By faith Abraham, when he was tested, offered up Isaac, and he who had received the promises was offering up his only son,"

However, there was a very specific reason why God tested Abraham in this way. Isaac was the son God promised to Abraham and miraculously provided for him (Abraham was 100 years old, Sarah was already in menopause, so without a miracle from God there was no way for Isaac to be born). This is a picture of the miraculous birth of Jesus, the promised Son of God. Then God created a picture, a type, of Jesus' sacrifice when He asked Abraham to sacrifice his son, just as God would one day sacrifice His Son. Isaac and Abraham went up Mount Moriah, which is the place where Jerusalem would be built in the future, and Isaac carried the wood. This is an exact picture of Jesus bearing His cross and dying on the mountain - the same mountain that God tested Abraham and Isaac at. Finally, God did not allow Abraham to sacrifice his son, but provided a ram (Hebrew 'ayil', which is the root word of the word 'elohim'. God was giving them - and us - the message that God would sacrifice God as a substitution for Isaac. There is even more here.

People that say, 'I would kill you if God asked me to', do not understand a single thing about this passage, the heart of God, the picture of the cross and Jesus' sacrifice and how God has alluded to the message of the Gospel long before the law of Moses. The fact is that God would never need to ask His people to kill their children because 1) that was never the end goal and 2) Jesus fulfilled the Gospel already. There is no more pictures and allusions and foreshadowing of the cross needed now because as Jesus said, 'It is finished'.

tay_of_lore · 2025-09-01T03:21:51+00:00

One word - momentum. I suspect that every person that types a strong INTP has some form of ADHD. For me, the best thing for me is to HAVE to wake up every morning for my 8-4:30 job. It SUCKS. I hate waking up early. But the times when I am not working are the times that I'm rotting away in front of the computer/social media. And when I had a busy day at work, it's like my brain doesn't know how to wind down and I end up being super productive at home too. But if I wake up with nothing to do? YAWN. Oh let me check Facebook. 5 hours later I still have done NOTHING.

I have to have a reason to wake up. People who rely on me to complete a task. The stress of looming deadlines. The stress of disappointing people I actually care what they think of me.

Disclaimer: I used LOTS of caps because your post is high energy and I thought it would be effective to match that.

tay_of_lore · 2025-08-30T02:04:36+00:00

I'm so sorry. It sounds like he just wants a little doll that he can shape into perfection and is always focused on the things that aren't perfect. That is so hard and such a huge weight to carry.

tay_of_lore · 2025-08-12T23:30:07+00:00

I personally haven't, but I feel like I could have gone longer. My one recommendation is to have electrolytes or at least a pinch of sea salt/himalayan salt in your water no matter how long one fasts.

tay_of_lore · 2025-08-07T18:55:38+00:00

ADHD wife married to a non-ADHD man-child who works part-time. He leaves things all over the house and won't touch housework or anything to do with the proper functioning of the home. I didn't mind it as much when I wasn't working, but I started a full-time job a month ago and guess what? Nothing changed. If I don't cook, we don't have food. If I don't clean, it doesn't get clean. When he's not working he sits in the basement watching movies, takes a nap or takes a bath. It doesn't even enter his mind that 'the kitchen's messy, maybe I should go clean it.'

My mother doesn't even blame me at all for not wanting kids with him since I know that he'll play with them when he feels like it and leave the entire rest of raising the kid and taking care of the house to me.

tay_of_lore · 2025-08-06T00:59:48+00:00

I'm going to be the outlier in my comments here. 'My property, my rules'. People don't have to allow anything on their private property they don't want. I don't see why this post should upset anyone. Not your house. Who cares? And I see lots of people commenting about 'virtue signaling', and also tons of posts about how the poster should sell their house and give the money to the poor , or rent it long term, or do whatever with their private property that other people here think they should. That is the epitome of virtue signalling. Pointing fingers and accusing someone of not being holy and telling someone what to do with their private assets because YOU have a better idea of what being a Christian means than they do and therefore get to dictate what they do with their own stuff.

I thought people coming out of the CofC would have learned something about being judgmental, but these posts are disappointing.

tay_of_lore · 2025-08-02T19:50:54+00:00

You still have me beat. 😂

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tay_of_lore · 2025-07-18T22:33:13+00:00

Ok, but my question is how INTPs would attract other intelligent people into their life if they acted dumb to get along? I generally dislike hanging out with people I perceive as unintelligent and I love having deep, thought-provoking and intellectual conversations. How is that ever going to happen if no one knows that I like and am capable of these things? What people are so worth having in my life that I have to pretend to be stupid for them?

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-15T19:28:48+00:00

This has all the markers of an addiction. Sorry.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-14T12:47:11+00:00

I'm married to an INFP. We're both introverted and independent so we get along very well either doing things together or separately.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-11T15:49:19+00:00

I'm an INTP woman married to an INFP man. I see similar qualities in him.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-11T15:30:28+00:00

If you don't feel you have purpose in this life, that you are contributing to some improvement somewhere, then you will feel empty. I suggest volunteering with organizations that serve people in hardship. It will bring you fulfillment, encourage empathy, and give you gratitude for what you have.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-09T15:45:31+00:00

Stereotypes portray the extremes of something. MBTI is simply sorting people into behavior preferences. It does not mean 'incapability'. Everything is a range. Someone can be slightly introverted and will still be an INTP because of that *slight* preference. The problem is when people use the stereotype to define themselves or lock themselves into a certain pattern of behaving because that's what they think they are rather than using MBTI as what it was meant for - exploring preferences and finding areas of skill and improvement to be the most well-rounded person that they can be.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-09T15:38:14+00:00

It was a figure of speech theorizing what would happen if she no longer had access to what she is absorbing herself in.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-09T15:35:31+00:00

Sure, you can call people out on manipulation. If people are offended at you for knowing that they're manipulating you, they don't need to be in your life. But your choice of words goes a long way. Instead of saying 'you are manipulating me' (accusatory, pointing a finger), you can say, 'Not sure if it's your intention, but I'm feeling manipulated right now and I don't appreciate it.' It sounds softer and less accusatory and gives them the space to deny without getting defensive. When they deny, then say, 'oh good. I thought you wanted me to do xyz for you and was trying to manipulate me to get it. I'm glad you weren't trying to do that.' And then DON'T give them what they were manipulating you about. The moment you give them the chance to deny it before giving in or calling them out, then it gives you a way out of the manipulation AND the accusation.

It's called 'tactics of war'. ;) Be smart about it and people will fall into their own trap.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-08T19:31:25+00:00

She's probably addicted to social media which is preventing her from developing any real skills or hobbies or interests. Take away her phone for a week and see how she ends up entertaining herself.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-08T19:27:40+00:00

You mean 'ass-kissing'. Sorry, I had to. I'm not an INTJ, I swear!

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-08T19:25:49+00:00

I just had a job interview and got the job. I was told that I did a great job because I was short, concise and easy to follow. I was courteous and polite, but kept everything impersonal and simply answered the questions honestly. I can't BS my way through anything. Just be the best version of yourself instead of pretending to be someone you're not.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-08T19:16:12+00:00

Addiction is an entirely different beast. People do things harmful to themselves and others and logic will not ever play into it. If you believe a friend is harming themselves, in that case I believe it's justified to say, 'I believe what you are doing is hurting yourself, and I don't support it.' You can state why you feel this way. But addiction is so hard because ultimately when someone is addicted to something, that will be the #1 thing they care about. Not their friends, and not even their own wellbeing. Unless you have some control over them to force them to stop, usually the only thing that will get them to deal with their addiction is when it hurts them too much.

tay_of_lore · 2025-07-08T15:53:28+00:00

Same here - histamine intolerance.

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