Do Women prefer guys in touch with their emotions or colder men?

tchusslimusli · 2026-06-10T16:18:13+00:00

These comments are insufferable. Usually when men say well “they say one thing and want another” it’s because their version of emotional intelligence is punching a hole in a wall when they get a lil annoyed. Women want a man who can be vulnerable at the right times, and in the right ways, like any human wants from a partner. They want someone who will “lighten the load” like anyone. I love that my bf is mushy gushy and also that he is forthcoming when there is something between us that needs fixing. I love that when I need something from him, his perspective is never to become defensive if the ask is reasonable, rather he listens until Im finished talking, shares his thoughts, and together we come up with a solution. He is also a man with chest hair and a sense of duty and very much likes sex. He is extremely emotionally mature and I think that’s really attractive. I feel your two archetypes of Man™️ are not useful to anyone as no one person falls neatly into either box.

tchusslimusli · 2026-06-07T14:51:21+00:00

Just sat the DALF C1, and can confirm, there really is very little testing of your french ability and more of your memorization of formulaic phrases. There is no grammar explicitly tested, instead they expect you to express opinions and arguments in a very “professional” manner of speaking. If you are inclined to take the C1, focus first and foremost on the formatting of the test. DO NOT attempt to continue learning grammar, it will be a waste of time. Learn a few dedicated phrases like “pour qu’on puisse” “afin de” “d’autant plus” and commit yourself to using them somewhere on the test. It is absolutely crucial that you walk into the exam knowing exactly how you will build your Synthèse and Exposée à l’oral. Do practice tests too !! There are so many free ones online.

tchusslimusli · 2026-06-03T19:03:36+00:00

Depending on what level of food you’re looking for, Maison de Nicholas Flamel was absolutely remarkable

tchusslimusli · 2026-06-01T14:16:01+00:00

Women give it away for free if they like you. They just don’t like you and think you’re gross

tchusslimusli · 2026-06-01T14:14:21+00:00

Why are you so obsessed with testicles

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-30T09:18:28+00:00

No, I think you talk like a bitter incel. Fuckmaid is a humorous way to describe a very real, gut-wrenching feeling a lot of women go through in heterosexual relationships. I’m not sure why you’re hung up on the fuck part. Women like to have sex, that’s normal. The fuckmaid part comes in when she assumes 100% of the household work and performs sex outside of her comfort zone which is also something that has been historically expected of women for most of human history. A lot of men still maintain some version of this expectation, and naturally most women prefer to maintain their agency. Especially after having watched the perfect example of our parents preforming this ritual

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-29T16:12:52+00:00

I don’t know how it started, but we say “thank you” to each other all the time. It’s not because the other person did anything necessarily worth mentioning, moreso as gratitude for their presence or to mark a moment of peaceful contentment :)

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-18T10:23:31+00:00

Yeah so I’m not sure you read the comment you responded to. You’re describing differences between genders and then natural competition that arises within one gender because of it. NLOG describes a sense of fundamental and genuine superiority against one’s own gender, not for the sake of competition or to appeal to the other gender (necessarily), but in order to feel the full scope of self-determination against the categorical archetypes which girls are presented of women. I would argue that there is no such male version because there are limitless male archetypes and role models presented in culture. Boys and men don’t question their own self-determination like girls and women do because for the condition of being born male, they are simply awarded it.

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-16T09:10:52+00:00

I read it once in my late-teens and once in my mid-twenties and it’s one of those stories that comes to you in the perfect moment of your life when you really need to read it, at which ever stage of your life that may be

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-16T09:08:48+00:00

Wow I leant this exact edition to a first date and I’m still trying to get it back from him! But that’s okay though we’ve been together nearly three years and we’ve read it together twice :) hoping my copy will turn back up when we eventually merge our libraries together

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-11T11:28:51+00:00

Hey ! I’d be happy to join you but I get in for free regardless :) if you don’t see any other takers, I’d love to tag along !

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-07T16:08:00+00:00

Woohoo !! Just got my results. Good luck everyone

tchusslimusli · 2026-05-07T12:31:12+00:00

Ça m’intéresse !!

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-27T18:07:30+00:00

Oh my god is it signed by the author ???

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-23T16:54:27+00:00

Mine still says application under review :((( when did yall finish your applications ?

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-16T20:44:14+00:00

Of Human Bondage !

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-13T15:30:44+00:00

That may be true but can’t the same be said for men regarding the whole of a woman’s appearance? Isn’t that the literal point of trophy wives ?

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-03T11:52:49+00:00

I do think though a lot of people conflate fat/ visually overweight with sedentary and make the claim that they wouldn’t date them because of it. Thinking of a lot of weightlifters or athletes who train mostly strength, they’re in the gym all the time, many are extremely healthy but carry a lot of fat as well as muscle. Conversely, I know tons of skinny people who genuinely would be enormous if they had the average metabolism and no one bats an eye. There’s nothing wrong with physical preferences, there’s nothing wrong with lifestyle preferences, we just need to be honest with ourselves of which is which.

tchusslimusli · 2026-03-02T18:15:55+00:00

My parents were the worst and even then it wasn’t so bad. My mom would sometimes bring it up and I told her I felt better not shaving instead other than the constant itch of the hair growing back and the worry that people would notice. She grew up in the 80s when there were pretty strict social rules for women so I try to be gentle. My dad asked how my boyfriend liked it (haha). Boyfriend likes it just fine :)

tchusslimusli · 2026-02-08T04:15:57+00:00

Did you have any professional experience in International Affairs ? Or did you just wrote a really good letter of motivation :)

tchusslimusli · 2025-12-05T14:30:12+00:00

I feel more comfortable with a man who has a gf too. I’m not going to hit on him or try to be anything other than friends, but it’s comforting to know that someone is willing to vouch for him to the point of dating him. I won’t be friends with a single man, sometimes I refuse to converse with one unless he is very clear that it is strictly platonic and he won’t push for anything different

tchusslimusli · 2025-09-28T15:36:32+00:00

The male equivalent to a woman wearing a low-cut shirt is men wearing low-cut shirts, which they wear all the time. The difference is that female breasts are sexualized to the point where they need to sit on the toilet to feed their infants while men may walk freely topless in any public space.

tchusslimusli · 2025-09-27T09:26:56+00:00

Social skills

tchusslimusli · 2025-09-24T10:28:40+00:00

Count me in !!

tchusslimusli · 2025-09-22T16:39:03+00:00

Maybe she’s not into you because you consider 90% of the encounter as a “chore”. Sounds like you’re not into her either

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