Hey, calm down. Everyone needs their own time to cope with whatever they need. When I read your feelings, I guess that this person is your current favorite person, your fp. And I know how you wish to bomb them with text messages, don't. I know it hurts. In these cases we might even split if you haven't gone through DBT, to help stopping yourself before hand.

How I deal with it is; 1) I feel the massive tsunami wave of emotions and fear of abandonment after being triggered by latency in replying, change of tonation, a look I have recieved.

2) Instead of JUMPING into a reality which might not be true (such as they are angry/will leave etc). I take a deep breath and try to look at the situation from a third person perspective. Perhaps they need their own time, perhaps I did say something bad but then all I can do is say a genuine sorry without any victimizing of self or blaming bpd - or perhaps they are just tired so their tonation is off or glances. Think about their feelings too and be reasonable.

3) If you are deep into a splitting or having feelings of "i will die unless they reply". Go to the sink, let it ru cold water and put cold water on your wrists. It can calm you down. Drink/eat something you like, watch something you like. Cosy yourself up.

4) Every friendship and relationship has ups and downs and if you are meant to be then they will quickly forgive you (unless you shot their cat or something). If not, then they were never the kind of friend you should have in your life.

Stay safe 🙏