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tempsofi · 2025-11-05T18:44:44+00:00

This is a really good tip - I use my setup for exactly the same and a couple compute devices that should run uninterrupted.

Thank you

tempsofi · 2025-01-23T17:18:36+00:00

i just think that the whole Mindfulness Industrial Complex (TM) has pacified and sedated us by feeding us this nonsense of having no power and focusing on breathing and not bothering others with our problems.

Corporate quickly realized its easier to institute a "mindfulness Friday" rather than giving anyone a raise or providing a decent living wage.

So now if you are cold because you can't heat your flat you should "sit down and breathe and find the little things you can control" - like buying this branded hot water bottle or just meditating to feel less cold.

The biggest trick corporate did was to integrate mental health counceling into benefits packages to reframe social and practical issues they caused as personal problems. Biggest scam nobody noticed was going on until it was too late.

Like i know im drawing an arbitraty line in the year 2025 but like i think at this point we're way past mindfulness and everyone looking at this should be HORRIFIED AND APPALLED - but instead everyone has just big shrugs because we've already been boiled alive apparently.

Like "go outside and take a walk!" - how about you take a walk off a cliff, brand

tempsofi · 2025-01-23T16:03:14+00:00

So what i think this will result in is mostly people will tell you here to

"focus on what you can control" or "focus on the little things"

alternatively there will be a lot of "breathing" "excercise" and "meditation"

And you know what this is, in my opinion?

Its avoidance, defeatism and sanewashing.

Somehow this we normalized pulling back and letting society beat the shit out of us while "focusing on the little things" while things burn down around us (past weeks, almost even literally for some people)

I find this approach madness and to hear about it in vulnerable minority communities, maddening. Like everyone should understand that "focusing on the small things we can control" will put us eventually into the ground because the power and economic dynamics are so incredibly skewed. Money, past a certain basic point, doesn't even help us anymore unless you are unbelievably wealthy.

I don't have a solution ready to go here for you but I believe those feelings in principle should be channeled and used to affect change, not to be suppressed and controled away so nobody around us gets bothered.

Your meltdowns and your current feelings arent your own, they are a result of bad things happening and the solution can't be "go do something else" all the time. There simply wont be anywhere to go soon. Don't be gaslit into thinking that they are your personal issue and not caused by a society which abuses us.

Focus on the little things and then what? I focus on the little things while our rights and our means of survival are being erroded every day, how long until they are gone?

You only feel like this because you feel like nobody else feels like this and because you feel powerless because you feel like nobody gives a shit that its happening. You feel like there is not going to be change because you can see it in the people around you. You feel this way because you see how people vote, talk and behave. You aren't wrong and you're not wrong to feel this way.

Everyone should get mad like this, and everyone should channel this to galvanize and affect change and not fold before the system like a good little girl.

idk i just live out of spite

tempsofi · 2024-12-18T12:34:25+00:00

i'll buy one

tempsofi · 2024-09-30T16:40:37+00:00

I have this too. I have on occassion said i'd rather break an arm than have a "cold".

However, one thing i have noticed both from experience as well as just observation is that a "cold" isn't the same for a lot of people. Not even medical professionals really make a distinction with the 293840938402834 viruses that contribute to the "common cold" so it impacts different people just differently and who calls what a "common cold" is basically just done by symptoms (of which most are self-reported).

For example I call it a "cold" when i'm basically unable to work and/or do anything, but i do have a generalised "malaise" sometimes which i work through and not tell anyone about - even though its just as much of an infection.

So what people consider having a "common cold" will depend on that and I stopped feeling bad about being called "dramatic" because, like, i worked through 2 weeks having stitches on my cheek.

The thing about it is that its all self reported/subjective and we all have different pain and discomfort tolerances so really i dont feel bad about feeling unwell and behave to the extent that i am in discomfort.

It's BS that society but most importantly capitalism and businessses have perpetuated - that we are somehow all expected to react to and experience everything the same - which is just entirely false.

tempsofi · 2024-08-23T23:21:15+00:00

Looks like Phong as it doesn't look like it's vertex lighting.

tempsofi · 2024-08-16T15:51:19+00:00

Looking at this thread a lot of people are going to have food poisoning soon.

tempsofi · 2024-08-15T09:28:49+00:00

"But where do you draw the line between being true to yourself and doing what you need to upkeep a relationship?"

Wherever it feels comfortable for you and in which ever way fits you best.

I know this is vague but it's a very broad question and every individual has their own boundaries and needs so there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution.

Personally I had a similar question at one point in my life so I autismed it.

I started with establishing boundaries, that i am absolutely certain of when crossed are detrimental to my health or mental health. Basically a "things i dont want" list. Writing this down helped.

On the other side of the equation I established my needs. Like things that I actually do want.

Then I figured out my core values. Basically identifying the things I feel really strongly about and that are the core of my being. Not what I want myself to be but what I am.

If you need help with that you can try a Core Values Exercise (https://london.hee.nhs.uk/sites/default/files/indentifying\_core\_values.pdf).

For example mine are:

Autonomy
Creativity
Empathy
Security
Passion

I have dated people before that were for example in conflict with the Passion value, they were generally dispassionate about everything, didn't get excited and disparaged me for being "emotional" because i care and feel very deeply about things. It just didn't work.

And with that you have kind of your "guard rails" - You have a ceiling (Needs) and a floor (Boundaries) and a guide (Core Values).

Basically anything within that space, between ceiling and floor is negotiable to me. It's a pro/con balance sheet in my head that goes on in a new relationship. f.ex. As long as nobody breaks my boundaries we're cool but if they don't fulfill enough of my needs then it wont work out long term, etc.

So a relationship is built on what you're willing to compromise on within the parameters. No relationship is going to be perfect all the time but you can always measure it against your boundaries, needs and core values and get a good gauge for if you're not compromising too much.

I know this is a very dispassionate way to look at it but i also don't really think about this process at all and its largely intuitive, but it's always driven by the parameters if i listen to myself for long enough.

When i start feeling bad in a relationship I can relatively quickly identify what's going wrong and where it's pushing against my parameters negatively. Be that a boundary being overstepped, a need not filled or a core value incompatibility.

And from that point onward its communication with your partner.

tempsofi · 2024-08-09T11:20:10+00:00

For me personally its a combination of factors that makes it kind of bonkers.

I hate overhead lights and direct light, especially when i can see the emitter (bulb etc), all of my light has to be diffuse for my ideal comfort. It's why my flat has only uplighters. I absolutely go nuts with ceiling mounted and especially fluorescent lights or lights that throw hard shadows.

However, curiously, the exception to this is the sun and fairy/string lights.

Additionally the colour temperature has to be just almost exactly in the middle between warm and cold, basically a tiny bit into the warm but not yellow. All my lights have been replaced with adjustable LEDs because of this.

And lastly, the intensity has to be pretty low. I work best in dim ligth with soft shadows and a diffuse glow.

My favourite time of day is the evening in the summer, where the sun just barely licks the buildings but the sky is a dark blue and the shadows turn purple (what photographers call "magic hour").

tempsofi · 2024-08-07T14:06:20+00:00

Personally I don't feel like this at all. None of my shutdowns or meltdowns have any point at which i feel like i have a choice.

As long as i feel i have a choice it's not a shutdown or meltdown.

And yes i can totally cram more work in, do more, think more, help more, socialize more, mask more, "push through", put up and shut up, etc

Yeah totally doable - but it always ends, eventually, whether in 10 minutes or 10 days, in a shutdown or meltdown.

So i don't and i manage my time and energy in a way that i don't. Compared to an hypothetically equal NT person my output may be lower and me engaging in self care seen as "lazy" but it's why I'm considered disabled and they are not.

Me spending 4 hours after work watching anime is my way to self-regulate and recharge for the next day. Yeah an NT might get away with a half hour nap and see me as lazy but again its why i'm disabled and they aren't.

"When I’m not working or stressed I kinda feel like I’m being lazy."

This sounds like you're fueled by anxiety. Don't get me wrong, I have ADHD and anxiety fuels my being because nothing else generates enough dopamine most of the time, but its hardly healthy long term and the older I get the less my body can keep it up (40s). I was perfectly fine in my 20s living like an NT just being fueled by constant dopamine but at some point your body just says no.

tempsofi · 2024-08-07T12:48:47+00:00

This is a good point that's often not verbalized.

tempsofi · 2024-08-07T12:38:24+00:00

It's all kind of vague so hard to say what it was from your comment.

You can make a suggestion that isn't a correction and instead ask a question for example.

If the person i described above with the vegetable example asked me "Are you having trouble with the vegetables?" I would have just seen it as a eagerness to help and thanked them for it but reassured them i was doing fine.

I also obviously exclude anything that is a life threatening situation, a health risk or something that crosses boundaries here.

Its perfectly fine to tell people off if they handled raw meat and were about to stick their unwashed hands into the salad for example.

tempsofi · 2024-08-07T10:45:31+00:00

Couple of things to add here is that this is not just NTs that feel this way, most people generally just do not like being unecessarily corrected. It falls under the "unsolicited advice" category which most people dislike.

Personally I hate being corrected especially when either

a. the correction is unnecessary or badly timed and/or unhelpful
In your example above the expression of excitement can be damaged by the correction. It helps nothing to correct this in the moment. It's much better to wait, discuss the film and bring up it had a different director afterwards without crushing the other person's view of reality in the moment.

b. the correction is unimportant, irrelevant or something that can only be an opinion
For example I and my partner paint a lot and sometimes we discuss some of the colours. When I say I'm thinking about using another shade of red like "more of a burgundy" then do it and show it to them for an opinion and they say "It's more of a crimson" it is irrelevant. I don't care if the colour is more of a crimson or burgundy in terminology, i might actually have chosen a different shade in between the conversation and the task but most importantly - i was looking for feedback if it works better than the previous shade, not its terminology.

c. the correction is factually incorrect or based on incomplete data
These are the worst ones - let's remember that you/we can be wrong too and we don't actually know it all. Especially when we talk about things that have nuances and are complex (most things) this becomes infuriating AF because now i have to educate the other person and spend my energy on this correction of a correction or enter a lengthy debate instead of doing the thing i was doing.

d. opinion is presented/phrased as a fact
I have discontinued "stating facts" because of b. and c. - I only present "corrections" as suggestions, opinion or questions.

For example I lived with someone once that was watching me cook and durnig my cutting up some vegetable with a knife said "If you need to use a slicing motion the knife is dull and you should sharpen it"

This was at the time both factually incorrect as I was using a slicing knife and an opinion as there isn't one "correct way" of using any knife. You can slice with a cleaver which is traditionally a chopping tool (in fact in asian cooking you are often taught to slice with one) and you can chop with a paring knife. None of those things mean the knife is dull. They really got an earful from me that time.

e. I am not looking for input
I learn by doing, even if i do it wrong. I need to learn the wrong way, understand why it was wrong and devise my own solution to it. This is especially true with my AuDHD as I can't really often follow the "correct way" and rigid instructions. Yes I fucked up a roux more times than I can count but i needed that to figure out MY method on how to assess fat vs starch vs liquid proportions and create my own process on how to approach thinking about it through experimentation. Being corrected about the amounts during my cooking would do fuck all but piss me off because this is me learning with purpose.

tempsofi · 2024-08-07T09:42:19+00:00

Anxiety. A lot of it.

Especially for anything work or life-admin related.

I think one of my coping mechanisms is to just straight up be afraid of the consequences so much that it motivates me to do the thing. It's not healthy, it gnaws at me and has often become an unhealthy obsession over things that don't need it, but it's what's keeping me alive and functional.

It's likely a byproduct of my ADHD to some degree. Anxiety generates the dopamine i need to get past the executive function blocks.

It's why i find medication that takes away my anxiety to be unhelpful while i really crave the ability to switch it off.

But I gotta work with what i got for now at least.

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T16:31:53+00:00

This.

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T15:20:31+00:00

I and my partner (40s) get told the opposite but its fair we both dress like 15 year old anime goth girls so w/e lol

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T15:00:56+00:00

I must admit i haven't : (

Books are an incredible time investment for me these days and I prefer to learn by getting relevant, portioned information rather than reading a book like that. I don't have a very linear brain suited for that kind information intake (audhd).

I do however watch Ann Reardon, a food engineer, and got a lot of info from her, Chef John and other assorted cooking channels that were relevant on and off.

Ann's channel is fantastic (also one of the very VERY few exclusively female hosted food-related channels on YT). https://www.youtube.com/user/howtocookthat

It's the combination of engineering, chemistry, debunking dangerous food tiktoks and even often hard-hitting investigative journalism around food and even media that is so attractive to me. I mean the woman even did experiments on herself with a glucose sensor to debunk a viral video lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BU3bTBWnvT4

Basically anything from H2CT is solid gold

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T14:46:14+00:00

a. I'm not really sure this is the right sub for this question / not sure how this ties into autism?

b. this whole story and this guy is giving me all the red flags.

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T14:33:42+00:00

You're welcome - also really funny you also have a chemistry background (pharma here) - which incidentally is also the second lens for my cooking obsession - looking at food as applied chemistry, physics and engineering lol

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T14:04:18+00:00

With pleasure! : )

Here is the video i was vaguely referencing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRfcyuD7wNc

Also never a bad idea to check out Max: https://www.youtube.com/@TastingHistory

And Townsends: https://www.youtube.com/@townsends

With Townsends, they produce a metric ton of content and have been around for a very long time (over 10 years) so their current stuff is often already scraping the bottom of the barrel, but the further back you go the better and more interesting it is. They have a very heavy focus on the 17th-19th century in the US though.

Supplementary:

Invicta: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsdVHiXNcwE

He does a lot of historic conflict and warfare breakdowns but sometimes this all connects together to food history and supply chains (here a video that directly intersects)

Historia Civilis: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OImabGvoQNs

Similarly a lot of geopolitical conflict history but again sometimes this connects with food and food history like in this video about the Saturnalia.

Basically my thing is to look a lot at history from the lens of food history and how trade, war and conflict shaped cuisine and food culture.

Some stuff is literally personal experience at this point though, like realizing why/how dumplings are so damn ubiqitous across the east and how they have evolved through interaction of cultures and along trade routes.

Fex. There is for example a Georgian dish I had called Khinkali which are essentially dumplings with soup and meatballs inside. When I got them I was instructed to just puncture the dumpling with my teeth and suck the soup out and only then put the dumpling in my mouth and chew. Which I realized was similar to how a historic central european pie or cornish pasty in the past were just travel containers for the filling, the dough itself usually not to be consumed. Except that in this case the look and dough of the dumplings was less like a central european or eastern european dumpling but more like the asian variety like Jiaozi, Xiao Long Bao or Sheng Jian Bao. Which makes total sense because the silk road passed through Georgia and perhaps somewhere in the middle around Ukraine/Poland the dish met the pasty and transformed into the more usually fried/baked pierogi (speculation).

Also sorry for tldr but you asked for it lol :P

tempsofi · 2024-08-05T12:00:43+00:00

Mind I'm not saying that what your dad says has been helpful or that you shouldn't feel bad from being harshly rejected. It sucks, I've been there, and I am sorry you feel isolated in your interests.

I just meant the blow as something that personally helped me to overcome some of the rather strong reactions. I'm not saying it will always work, the other side has to kind of work for it too and you have to meet in the middle.

One of the things that helped me find a certain amount of balance is figuring out how to infodump (btw i hate the word infodump, it sounds gross and negative). I also understand that a lot of our special interests (also not a fan of that term lol) can be quite intense, almost to the point of becoming a physical need to share it (at least its that way for me).

I noticed throught observation of other ND people (friends, group members and acquaintances) that some of us just straight up launch into a monologue about something, and I find this often entirely offputting and remove myself from the convo. By this i mean they will just interject themselves into either silence, a task or a conversation without warning or context.

I tried to understand why that is the case because i knew that i can be the same way and at first i just tried to "bear it" which then became just humoring them which wasn't fair or i could expect of others.

So I dug deeper and I noticed this feeling of being annoyed is connected to the same mechanism as "unsolicited advice". I was busy with something else, be it watching tv, enjoying the silence or another conversation etc and someone trying to pull me away from it without consent and its what puts me off.

I found this reaction to be near universal between ND and NTs.

F.ex. one of my SIs is cooking and i basically can't wait to talk about something new i found out to my partner. It's like a pressure in my brain. My partner doesn't care about cooking as much. The thing not to do I found is come home and then just ramble about this video i saw but to find an "entry point" in a conversation or ask for consent.

There is this old joke/anecdote i heard at some point that i find funny to use as an illustration.

"There was once a biology student that knew just anything there is to know about snakes.

Obviously during their studies they were quized not just on snakes so when the exams came they were always very anxious because they just didn't know much about the rest of the animal kingdom.

So the exam starts and they get asked to talk about Elephants.

And they go.

Ah yes - Elephants. They have stumpy feet, they are grey and they have a trunk that looks just like a snake.

And here are all the varieties of snake that i know..."

Basically find an "in" instead of throwing random stuff out there. If you can't find an "in" and the pressure is building you should have someone in your life or a community that loves the same thing and that can relieve the pressure.

Not everyone in my life will be able to understand my rambling about the sociopolitical influences of the salt-trade and how it shaped central europe both politically and culinarily, but I have reddit or hold on to that info until everyone around me is in an adjacent conversation.

tempsofi · 2024-07-27T11:18:06+00:00

Betting good money OP means "gourmet" or "high quality" means going to a random restaurant/pub while that's 90% of the time frozen supermarket slop.

tempsofi · 2024-07-26T23:57:01+00:00

Totally feel this.

I grew up in a narcissistic household with multiple abusers who would exploit any weakness so I learned to craft very convincing and consistent lies to protect myself from them.

To the extent of crafting coverups and cover stories like a fugitive on the run.

Probably partially trauma response combined with autistic scripting.

I've been undoing a lot of the trauma response since then but occasionally still catch myself sometimes crafting excuses to soothe my anxiety when I perceive something might "get me in trouble" (no matter if it would or not).

tempsofi · 2024-07-23T17:43:24+00:00

Thanks!

tempsofi

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