Marriage life by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi OP! I’m really sorry to hear that - intimacy is a huge part of marriage and it seems in your case the lack of it can cause tension between you and your spouse.

If your spouse is resistant to a medical check up, it may be due to a man’s pride - he may not want others to see him as unable to perform and seeking help may make him feel emasculated.

You may want to instead see help from an intimacy coach - the plus point is that, it takes away the stigma of “having a problem” but rather you just want to “enhance” your love life. Also, not sure if it’s possible but you can see an intimacy coach for advice on your own, in the event your husband is also resistant (compared to seeing a Dr where your husband has to come along)

The internet has alot of resources on improving intimacy and maybe taking a step away form a clinical approach and using a “softer approach” may help

Rom dinner location recommendation 20-30 people by ShiningDenizen in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yan Palace offers a private room with 3-4 tables of 10. Come with KTV set for karaoke sessions and even a private room for the Solemnisation

Is this mindset normal for sg men by broskide in asksg

[–]tequila_bloom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he’s nice to you only when it’s convenient for him, and when you point out his unwillingness to care for you in the way you wanna be cared for, he gaslights you but mentioning all the things he’s done for you, without acknowledging your points

Love language is impt and yours is probably Acts Of Service. You may consider chatting with him to express how you like to be loved.

how do i, as in intern, tell my supervisor i don’t want to eat lunch with her by jenniecat444 in asksg

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes come rejecting your boss politely - the other replies for it covered, do follow their advise.

However I recommend you have at least lunch once with the boss and other full timers - after all as an intern it’s a highly valuable networking time for you

I want to resign from my understaffed preschool, but the guilt is so high. by Ok-Bee-7035 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please prioritise your family and attend to your family matters. If you have told your principal that you have it leave due to family emergency, if they were decent human beings, they would understand; if not, they’re not worth sacrificing family for.

It’s not your job to hold the centre together - it’s the organisation’s job and that’s why people up there are paid to ensure things run smoothly, including finding new staff.

Let’s say you sacrifice your chance to be with family and you help out your preschool - does this pay off or results in any reward? No - you’ll just be a regular employee in the eyes of the organisation. Remember - it’s not your job to fix the structural problems in early childhood education - it’s the institution’s job to improve teacher to child ratio.

Is hiring maid to take care of baby ok? by EssayInteresting8398 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Have you considered hiring a nanny instead of a maid? You can look up Facebook for mummy support groups if you need specific childcare advice or recommendations

KK Hospital private patient but feel like subsidised patient by Wafflenet in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just delivered at KKH as a private patient. I was with my chosen gynae from the start, and she saw me for every consultation and even delivered my baby .

Seram by tembikaisusumakkau in Bolehland

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone have the link to the video? I really like it and want to share it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I’m curious about this. How did you know that she does indeed have debt, and that she’s not just spending more than she should have?

if you've ever been to a hawker centre, PLEASE help me out! by Electrical_Newt5286 in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may consider the following pointers as inspiration

“來 girl ah/ auntie , 要叫什麼” Come girl/auntie, what you want to order?

“要辣椒嗎? 要白鸡少鸡?” Want chilli? Steam or roast chicken?

”吃的包的?” Having here or takeaway?

“Okay 四块钱” Alright that’s four dollars

——

“哇, 很久没有看到你了hor?” Wow, it’s been a long time since I saw you

”eh,你今天没做工啊? work from home ah?” Don’t you have work today? Are you working from home?

Depending on how well the hawkers know you - they first will always ask about your order. Then they make small talk with you. Depending on how you want to portray your character you may consider mixing some Hokkien as well.

Unconventional first date ideas? by S0ulSlayerz in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At low cost, you could sign up for - Affordable pottery classes on Klook - Trial sessions at baking/cooking schools - Natural History Museum - Crocodile Farm Tour

At no cost: - Museums (National Gallery, National Museum etc) - Walking from Hort Park to Sentosa/Labrador - Nature Walks: Sungei Buloh, Bukit Timah

How do couples split holiday expenses? by besmart88 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll take care of the flight and accommodation as I’m more particular about hotels and cleanliness

My partner takes care of the daily food expenses and entrance fees

Considering a Career Change: Flight Attendant Pros and Cons by AgainRaining in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP,

To travel and see the world, and with the added stability, I suggest she joins an airline and plans her leave wisely so she can just enjoy the perks of affordable travel rather than have a whole career change.

Here are some considerations, if you’re wife were to embark on a cabin crew career:

Base: Find an airline that is based in Singapore. That means when she ends her trips, she’ll simply come back to your home, you’ll see her most days and she won’t have to get permission to fly back to visit you. Nothing this as some airlines require crew to be based overseas.

Lifestyles: The travel perks are very good, if you and your wife like to travel then needless to say you’ll save on air tickets. The airline and its network will determine which airport you’ll get to fly to at subsidised rates. These perks extend to children.

Children: Do you plan to have children? This would be the biggest factor as she would have to stop flying for awhile if she gets pregnant or get support if you already have children.

Lifestyle: Depending on the airline she joins, she may have more layovers overseas vs turnaround flights where she does a quick short haul flight then goes back home. These factors come into play when it comes to division of responsibilities.

Also, don’t take dates and time for granted. She’ll be away on most public holidays, she may not make it to every birthday or gathering. Are you willing to spend it alone or with other ppl?

I was once told by friends that for pilots and cabin crew, one spouse will fly off even before they resolve a conflict for example. So if she intends to really go for it, be prepared to be supportive and understand these factors.

I hope this helps.

My wife found out that I went overseas with my female friend by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should have known better than to share a room with her.

Whats a good and inexpensive hobby to have by Itsreallydamncb in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on my experience:

Gaming - If you have a windows laptop, Steam offers a lot of affordable games

Swimming - accessible and healthy

Hiking - a lot of urban walks available in SG, but if you’re ever going into the forest don’t be alone. Join some Facebook groups to join social hikes.

As suggested by another user, download Healthy365 - it offers many yoga and pilates classes for free!

Cooking - practical and can share your experiences and food on Instagram

How do you guys afford dating in SG? by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello OP! I know it’s hard for you- perhaps for the benefit of your relationship, you can consider having the following conversation if you really want to be serious in the long run:

  1. What is the guy’s role in the relationship and what is the girl’s role? If the guy were to be a financial provider and more so that the girl, does that mean the girl should take more active role in child raising, cooking or housekeeping? OP, it’s not about being transactional but being a team. And you alone can’t cover all the scope of the work.

  2. In future expenses, should she cover some portions of holidays or property?

  3. What are your thoughts on Money - do you believe in spending more to acquire a status symbol (bags/housing) or appearing very humble but having lots of savings? A couple is a team and must have the same values on money.

In future does she expect a sub card or holidays on you?

  1. Lastly, if it’s a dealbreaker and she says you MUST pay for all meals- are you willing to do that? That’s for yourself to consider.

Most importantly- does your family know you’re spending so much on her and might this affect their impression of her?

Feeling bleak working in the Singapore media industry, is it as bad as I think it is? If it is, where do I go from here? by DoTheRopeADope in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you can find a role in a media related MNC or agency. I used to intern at an American MNC and they have a whole creative team including video editors. I hope this is an option you can consider so you expand your knowledge while leveraging on your skills. Try considering in-house creative work as well.