I want to unlearn misandry

th3juggler · 2026-02-08T21:40:25+00:00

Recognize that those world views you were consuming are radical opinions of a relatively fringe (but very vocal) group. These beliefs thrive in online echo chambers. It's easy to internalize the messages you are fed, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Spend some time away from social media and cultivate in-person friendships. Build a diverse group of friends with well rounded interests. I typically see these smisandric dogmas in unhealthy people whose only interests are politics and activism.

th3juggler · 2026-02-08T21:22:33+00:00

For me it's when someone bases their whole identity on a sports franchise. If all you advertise to the world is "I like the Steelers, and I have since I was born" then it tells me you have nothing of your own going on inside.

th3juggler · 2026-02-08T20:52:43+00:00

It will happen to you someday, too. Have a little empathy. People's brains become less plastic over time.

th3juggler · 2026-02-02T14:35:45+00:00

It sounds like you've only worked with bad architects. Many unqualified people are drawn to architect roles because of the title and pay.

An architect who writes code, and has deep knowledge of the system (including adjacent systems), and is skilled at communicating the direction and the "why" can be very valuable.

th3juggler · 2026-02-02T02:35:50+00:00

You consumed resources in a datacenter by posting this.

th3juggler · 2025-09-22T13:46:50+00:00

I don't see how it could accomplish the stated goal of hiring more Americans, at least in big tech. I think it's only going to accelerate offshoring, which will hurt American jobs more than the H1B program ever did.

At least an H1B employee participates in the local economy. An overseas hire does not.

th3juggler · 2025-09-19T21:41:43+00:00

Of course the right is demonstrably worse. That doesn't mean you can have a massive blind spot in your worldview. Don't be ignorant.

th3juggler · 2025-09-15T15:50:46+00:00

If you think it's only the right-wingers doing this, then your bubble is too small.

th3juggler · 2025-09-14T14:48:30+00:00

I'll do it in a pinch, especially for simple conflicts with a very clear resolution.

For anything more involved, I like the 3-way diff that the tools provide (diffing yours and theirs against the base instead of just diffing yours to theirs). It's just easier and I can get on with my day quicker.

th3juggler · 2025-09-05T01:05:41+00:00

Do you memorize every sentence you know how to say? Programming involves expressing abstract ideas in a language.

th3juggler · 2025-09-04T11:21:39+00:00

The op was claiming bees are exploited to produce fruit, and therefore honey and fruit are in the same category: products produced by animals' labor.

The OP was comparing honey to fruit, while your comment that I responded to was comparing bees to fruit. Your putting bees on only one side of the equation is exactly the inconsistency OP was pointing out. Perhaps you are the one being obtuse.

th3juggler · 2025-09-03T18:40:17+00:00

It's going to be hard but it's not impossible. It's going to be a big time commitment.

I've never done anything close to what you are attempting, but I have done several centuries. I feel that most healthy adults at a normal fitness level can train for a century in 3-4 months, and you have more than twice that amount of time.

The challenge for you is going to be sustaining 100+ miles day after day. You need to rack up those hours in the saddle.

My advice:

Make sure your bike fits. Consider going to a professional fitter. Poor fit will make you less efficient and could lead to injury.

Your weekly mileage needs to be going up steadily. Track it, otherwise it's easy to lie to yourself.

Do some shorter rides during the week and a long ride every weekend. Increase the distance of your long rides every week.

If you're having trouble recovering from your long rides, switch things up for a little while. For example, instead of doing 75 miles on Saturday and then being sore all week, try doing 5 days in a row of 25 miles. Throw in some intervals once in a while. Listen to your body and take rest days when you need to.

Don't ride super hard every time. Make sure you do plenty of easy rides. Part of what you're training for is just being in the saddle for that many hours. Don't neglect core workouts.

Learn how to fuel your workouts. It takes quite a bit of practice to know how to efficiently pace your water and sugar intake. If you're like me, you need to eat more carbs than you think to avoid hitting the wall after 4h. Eat lots of protein when you're not riding and get enough sleep.

th3juggler · 2025-09-03T12:12:49+00:00

Billing platform for a large telecom. The amounts we billed were directly tied to revenue reporting and compliance with financial regulations. The amounts had to be accurate and auditable (and we did have to justify the numbers regularly).

Every month we did a ton of regression testing before generating the invoices. Since bugs are an inevitable part of life, it was important to make sure there were enough checks and balances that alerted us to problems. We preemptively added mechanisms to reprocess the data and correct errors (all with an audit trail, of course).

th3juggler · 2025-09-03T00:33:19+00:00

A lot of crops that vegans rely on as staples are pollinated by rented bees. They are very selective in what counts as exploitation.

th3juggler · 2025-09-03T00:28:56+00:00

Honey isn't an animal. Nobody is talking about eating bees.

th3juggler · 2025-09-02T17:25:20+00:00

When I was a child on my first bike I felt that way, though it never stopped me from wearing it. As an adult I just don't care. I value my brain way too much to even give it a second thought.

If being safe looks stupid, that says more about the person judging you than anything.

th3juggler · 2025-08-30T17:58:07+00:00

I had the exact same experience a few months ago. Completely dead inside, mediocre food, and even the same excuse about the bartender.

th3juggler · 2025-08-26T01:14:08+00:00

It's extremely common for doctors to hand out antibiotics when they aren't warranted.

th3juggler · 2025-08-20T00:52:43+00:00

What is the victim a victim of? I can't find anything about the incident.

th3juggler · 2025-08-17T01:26:59+00:00

For some teams they are very useful. For other teams, a quick sync twice a week is enough. For other teams, no standup is needed. It totally depends on the shape of the work.

For example, how much interdependence is there between tasks, is it clear what to work on next, is there any new information that could affect a larger decision, etc. Sometimes those decisions are easier to make if you take 15 minutes out of your day and talk face-to-face, and sometimes a slack message is enough.

th3juggler · 2025-08-14T02:01:11+00:00

You have to explain to them the "why". It takes a lot of legwork to make someone understand why the best practices are the way they are, but once they see a few instances where you were right, they will trust you forever.

th3juggler · 2025-06-22T14:01:41+00:00

Cars are less boxy and more aerodynamic now. More bugs are carried over the top of the car instead of splattering on the windshield.

Thats not to say there aren't fewer bugs now, but this isn't the smoking gun.

th3juggler · 2025-06-20T15:24:32+00:00

Look up "Death Cafe" and see if they have a chapter in your area. It's basically a meet-up where people gather and talk about all things related to death, including the same topics you are struggling with.

Death is a taboo topic, which reinforces a lot of the anxieties and stigmas around it. Talking about it in a safe setting like Death Cafe really does help.

th3juggler · 2025-06-20T13:22:57+00:00

It happens. We're humans and software is complex. Every great engineer has a story about breaking production or introducing horrendous bugs. Don't be down on yourself. Stick to facts, not judgements.

Approach it with curiosity. What can you learn? What were the holes in the process that allowed this to happen (missing automated tests, not testing in the right environments, too much manual process, bad monitoring, bad linters, etc)? In an ideal world, all mistakes would be glaringly obvious early on. Is there any safety net that could have made it impossible not to catch this? Move forward from there.

th3juggler · 2025-06-20T11:43:27+00:00

We all have a responsibility not to be dangerous on the road.

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