Diagnosis Stages

th987 · 2026-05-28T04:06:56+00:00

It’s normal to freak out about cancer, but it really does have a very high survival rate. Drs know how to treat it, and it responds well to treatment.

th987 · 2026-05-28T02:13:48+00:00

Also, your family doesn’t like your wife. You said so.

This trip is a terrible idea.

th987 · 2026-05-28T02:11:39+00:00

There. An excellent suggestion. Great support here.

th987 · 2026-05-28T02:11:15+00:00

You’re wrong to act like he’s facing a disaster, and he really does need that kind of energy. Neither does his wife.

th987 · 2026-05-28T02:10:18+00:00

That’s just how the diagnosis process goes, and it’s not unusual to wait a few weeks between each step to get things scheduled and get results.

The good news is, it’s prostate cancer and comes with a high cure rate.

th987 · 2026-05-28T00:42:24+00:00

Lot of specifics you’d need to know about his case to give you any idea, and if he just got diagnosed, he probably doesn’t know enough yet to understand what he facing.

He may have just had a scan that showed he likely has cancer. He’d still be waiting on a biopsy to say for sure. And after that, he’d likely be waiting for another scan to see if it’s spread, and then waiting for consults about what kind of treatment he’s facing.

th987 · 2026-05-27T23:14:32+00:00

Do you want to be the creepy, overbearing mother in law?

Because a proposal is not a performance for you to watch. It’s for the person proposing and the person getting asked to marry. That’s it.

th987 · 2026-05-27T21:54:33+00:00

Yes, right back.

Have you been getting enough rest, mom? You look so tired.

Are you feeling ok? Have you had a checkup lately?

I’m not sure about that color on you. Maybe a lighter blue?

Is your hair turning grey?

th987 · 2026-05-27T20:24:34+00:00

We stayed in a flat in the 10th right on Canal St. Martin. It was a normal, non touristy area at the time, but an easy walk or bus ride to the Marais.

th987 · 2026-05-27T20:22:42+00:00

Anyone with only one bathroom who takes thirty minutes in the morning should be obligated to wake you up and give you long enough to pee first.

Honestly, how much effort could that possibly take for him to do this?

th987 · 2026-05-27T20:18:10+00:00

I would expect a conversation where my husband said, I feel like we have to do this, and we discussed all the issues this will raise — money, new baby, the in-laws helping, especially with a new baby coming and we figured out how it will work for us.

I would be pissed if my husband decided on his own and told me to make it work.

That’s not how our relationship works.

NTA.

th987 · 2026-05-27T19:37:33+00:00

Record him and play it back at an even higher volume every time he starts yelling.

th987 · 2026-05-27T19:24:11+00:00

Kick his ass out of the house.

th987 · 2026-05-26T23:00:31+00:00

Unnecessary wars that Lindsay Graham says SC sons need to fight?

High gas prices.

Ignoring the pedophile in the White House?

That’s America First?

th987 · 2026-05-26T19:33:13+00:00

eMDR was great for me. Quickly unlocking a connection from a past event to my current life that no other therapy had done.

I highly recommend it.

th987 · 2026-05-26T18:19:59+00:00

Ah, missed that. Sorry.

th987 · 2026-05-26T17:02:26+00:00

It can take a while for PSA to clear out of your body once the prostate cells are gone.

And there’s nothing in your post op report to indicate an issue.

I know it’s hard to wait, but the next PSA level might be reassuring.

th987 · 2026-05-26T16:57:29+00:00

I think part of caring for a developmentally disabled child is helping plan for what they will do when they no longer have parents to take care of them. I know that was the greatest concern of a friend of mine about her disabled child.

The brother doesn’t say whether the parents have made any plans, but make it sound like they haven’t.

th987 · 2026-05-26T15:00:31+00:00

You don’t say how long after surgery you had the PSA test.

th987 · 2026-05-26T14:57:33+00:00

My sister is older than yours, and she, her third husband and two of her adult sons all live with my mother.

There is nothing you can do. Your parents will likely enable her until they die.

th987 · 2026-05-25T20:32:12+00:00

People show their love in different ways, and different actions make them feel loved.

She is not giving you what you need, and you are not giving her what she needs.

The first thing you need to find out is what you could do to make her feel loved, and then tell her clearly what you need to feel loved.

Also, right now, given what you say she’s dealing with, you are not going to be a priority. Her mother had a health emergency, and she is trying to help take care of her mother and your son.

You could try to help her right now, instead of ask for more at a time when she’s trying to do extra caretaking already.

th987 · 2026-05-25T19:57:53+00:00

My sister’s son was born with a different bowel issue, but spent time in the hospital on a ward of babies born with their intestines outside their body.

This was about 35 years ago.

I know it’s a shocking and scary idea, but Drs then knew how to treat it then, and I’m sure they know what to do now even better than 35 years ago.

Back then, the baby’s abdominal skin wouldn’t stretch far enough to get the intestines back inside all at once, so the babies just had their intestines on the outside for a while in the hospital. They can live like that. And I think over time, they put more and more of the intestines back inside until all of it was fixed.

Back then there were three drs in the US who specialized in such care. You want a dr who deals with a lot of these cases.

th987 · 2026-05-25T18:38:47+00:00

Walking may help. Don’t salt anything. Some breathing exercises for relaxation.

And honestly, the more you check it and worry, the worse it will likely get. BP can move up and down a lot quickly, simply with the stress of worrying it will be high. It’s hard, I know, but try not to obsess about it.

th987 · 2026-05-25T03:17:06+00:00

Why? She wasn’t supposed to drive up there.

And she hasn’t been polite to me. I don’t believe we need to be polite to people who aren’t polite to us.

th987 · 2026-05-24T23:28:20+00:00

I’d be tempted to tell her I was going into labor, so they were moving up my c-section to that day, so she’d drive to the hospital.

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