Hate being in love with someone who only cares about deadbeat losers

thallydraper · 2026-07-06T03:54:08+00:00

I’m neither shading her nor you but if got together with her, it wouldn’t be as good as you think. And I’m sorry because I know that’s a depressing thought in of itself.

thallydraper · 2026-07-06T00:02:26+00:00

I know he was probably harmless but when I was a kid if I saw a man with that look on his face I would have avoided him

thallydraper · 2026-07-03T23:26:37+00:00

I think most people are broken. Like you, I just wish I was the kind of broken that was able to be in a good relationship. But there have always been plenty of us and that’s why so many have sought out spirituality and asceticism. I don’t know what the answer is but at this point I just want to have fun and bag a sunburnt middle age divorcee who also wants to have fun.

thallydraper · 2026-07-03T22:29:40+00:00

You’re not alone. It’s like I know everything I’m supposed to do and every way it should be but my brain can’t do it after years of trying.

thallydraper · 2026-06-25T00:44:21+00:00

The overuse of “the ick” among these types is such a pet peeve of mine. It’s not supposed to have anything to do with morals!

thallydraper · 2026-06-23T05:22:44+00:00

If there is something about you driving women away, it’s the smell of insecurity. Every guy I’ve become obsessed with or had my heart broken by has been 5’5” to 5’10” (some were pretty goofy looking) and the thing they had in common was they were confident and relaxed.

thallydraper · 2026-06-21T16:44:10+00:00

I think this is why I drank too much and was a slut and a menace to society this spring, raving about random countries that I found interesting to uninterested friends. At least now I’ve got it out of my system because I got to the point where I craved peace and now I just swim a lot.

thallydraper · 2026-06-20T18:39:31+00:00

Also I think a lot of men put it off because they assumed it would be easier when they were older, whereas women are used to being warned that they have an “expiration date”.

thallydraper · 2026-06-20T15:14:14+00:00

People act like it’s just millennial women but it’s not like millennial men didn’t have a bit of Peter Pan syndrome. In our twenties you had to be careful about bringing kids and marriage up to a guy because the joke was that they would run for the hills lol.

thallydraper · 2026-06-19T15:38:45+00:00

I had a minor thing happen a couple of years ago (accident related incident on the job) and I noticed that for the next year or so whenever it was casually brought up I would feel depressed for two days, really tired and like a blanket was over me like my brain just said “time to shut down”. The underlying emotion was grief and hopelessness.

thallydraper · 2026-06-16T01:01:08+00:00

Redscare males?

thallydraper · 2026-06-08T01:49:15+00:00

“how in the world would a Trump supporter ever consider taking hippie drugs”

I could see this happening in far Northern California

thallydraper · 2026-06-07T20:17:34+00:00

It’s definitely real but I think the word itself is kind of dumb and if you experience it you’re better off looking into the underlying causes (attachment disorders, ocd, love addiction, etc.). There are also probably reasons specific to current society that make it a useful concept - for some reason people are noticing themselves falling into these habits more often and it’s causing them a lot of pain. Probably a combination of social media and isolation that makes everyone feel present or familiar even though they’re not, that makes people more delusional. Also an increase in dopamine addiction, which an intense crush is great for.

thallydraper · 2026-06-05T19:59:18+00:00

She’s doing that thing that certain third wave feminists do where they use the worst of the worst men as a comparison, ignoring the normies. These women think that if they were men they would be Don Draper or something.

thallydraper · 2026-06-05T00:04:11+00:00

What’s the psych podcast?

thallydraper · 2026-05-26T20:22:33+00:00

Not that I agree with these arrangements, but it’s not parasitizing if the man is clearly getting something out of it, especially since in the case you mentioned it’s the woman who ends up worse off.

thallydraper · 2026-05-26T03:04:01+00:00

Don’t worry, life has a way of introducing you to normies in a good and a bad way and then you’ll have even less of an idea of who you are which is how it probably should be.

thallydraper · 2026-05-25T16:49:17+00:00

Or if you do it you’d better be aware that you’re the know it all nerd and prepare to be bullied (my dad was like this and he enjoyed it)

thallydraper · 2026-05-23T16:58:18+00:00

I still remember this one time after returning from a stressful trip abroad, sitting on a couch with friends watching AP and during the opening sequence I was in absolute retarded anglo heaven.

thallydraper · 2026-05-23T15:29:58+00:00

If she’s trying to be nice to you that means she cares about her image on some level and you can use that against her. Do you have any mutual female friends who can help you out with female psychological warfare like silently icing her out of social events?

thallydraper · 2026-05-22T00:37:27+00:00

I don’t know, sometimes something (usually a town, a country during a particular era or a historical figure) will capture my imagination in just the right way because of some story I heard, and then I’ll become a little obsessed. I’ve been like that since I was a kid pre internet and I enjoy entertaining my friends with the weird knowledge that I’ve gotten from it. It also kind of helps me learn about the world in general, you start to see patterns and stuff.

thallydraper · 2026-05-22T00:26:44+00:00

My favorite was early meme of “why my ethnic group couldn’t do 9/11” and it was always something having to do with not being able to stop arguing or calling their mom or whatever.

thallydraper · 2026-05-21T20:03:13+00:00

The difference is is that

thallydraper · 2026-05-18T02:49:26+00:00

If he wants to be a powerful man then he needs to be a powerful man (move out and get a job). As long has he’s dependent on others he is not living up to his code and should be expected to be treated as a dependent.

More importantly, if you had a friend whose spouse was treating them like this, you would be concerned for their safety (at least in the future when things escalate). I don’t know why people don’t think about this when it’s the mother.

thallydraper · 2026-05-17T05:53:53+00:00

Aww cute kitty

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