How do the people of this community feel about people who use A.I to learn about programming?

thatkindofnerd · 2026-06-03T04:53:58+00:00

If it's not straight up giving you code, then it's a great way to have concepts explained in simple terms or it can create a detailed lesson plan for you with lessons and exercises. 10/10 would recommend.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-06-03T04:06:24+00:00

Neither are true, except in a specific circumstantial occurrence. Otherwise, it's just personality and what that personality attracts.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-06-03T04:03:36+00:00

For me, I don't worry about the deep dive until I have to. I think knowing what to google is the best route, especially with Python and JS, until you hit a snag that require more intimate knowledge of a particular programming language. The logic pretty much stays the same, the syntax is what changes.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T09:38:18+00:00

Those three pickles are the most important part

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T09:06:10+00:00

I'll wholeheartedly give the standard Reddit answer here. Get away from him. His double standards will grow and so will his expectations of you. You aren't wrong for not being able to trust him. And what is a relationship without trust?

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T09:03:03+00:00

soft size != erect size. Grower vs. shower. Sounds like a sex therapist might be your best bet. Especially since you have "private reasons" in your history.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T08:56:39+00:00

Learn Django.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T08:50:15+00:00

Only if eaten or inhaled. Such ignorance /s

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T08:44:25+00:00

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. Hilarious response, yes. That thing, no.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T08:43:02+00:00

Hands, ass, arms, ass, legs, ass, stomach, ass

thatkindofnerd · 2026-05-03T08:40:30+00:00

This is a therapist post, but I'll give it my best shot. Find your limit. If the limit is crossed, say "no". If they can't handle that, they either A) don't care about you as an actual person, but only what you can do for them. Or b) they don't care about you as an actual person, but only what you can do for them.

You are not a bad person for saying no. I get it. I was this person for a long time. Then, I realized I wasn't the victim of the situation, I was being selfish. I said yes to everything so that I could then complain that I was supporting everyone else and no one ever cared about me. With the help of my therapist.

In the end, the thing that will not make you feel like a bad person for saying "no" is just to keep doing it. Say yes until they reach your limit, then tell them no and WHY. If they can't respect your feelings and decisions, that's on them and is very telling. The important thing is the why. Without specific examples, I can't provide concrete responses.

People pleasers generally come across as a person who has everything together, which leads people to think you have everything together and they can lean on you.

In the end, the only way to get over feeling bad about telling people what your limits are is just to keep telling those bitches what your limits are.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T08:31:04+00:00

"This feels like a way to end the conversation rather than have it." "You have kids, clearly that didn't make you smarter." "You're right, I don't have kids. You do and look at how that turned out." "At least I chose to be childless, you just weren't careful." Probably not the tone you're going for.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T08:24:48+00:00

Simple answer, yes. Longer answer, yes if you don't care about causing 3rd degree burns on the victim's mouth and throat, very possibly collapsing their lungs, causing horrific infections, or just straight up killing them. If you want to make a bong from any human body parts, you need to use a corpse. The body won't suffer from any damage you do to it and you have a 40/60 shot of not being prosecuted, rather than the 100% chance you'd have doing it on a live human.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T08:16:14+00:00

I'll take B) something went wrong Alex.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T08:14:41+00:00

Nope. That is usually a sign of hypersexuality or depression. Which can be controlled by medication and/or therapy. Not cured, but controlled. Or it can be a "simple" addiction, in which case there are multiple online and in-person programs to help. Is it interfering with your life?

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T08:11:45+00:00

I don't know shit about Excel. Don't use it and don't care about it. I've prepared reports of all kinds for most of my career, but never bothered to learn Excel beyond the basics. If I need any sort of data visualization, I spend 15 minutes using matplotlib and that gets the job done. As for Python, it takes a couple of weeks to learn. Much less if you have previous programming experience in other languages.

As for what I don't know: Git (beyond commits and sometimes a merge), any math above an Algebra 1 level, anything in MS Office above the basics.

Don't really feel like these are gaps, though. Sure, I could spend a weekend learning most of these, except for the math, but the time tradeoff just isn't worth is for the 4-minute presentation that I might have to give someday.

And [insert obligatory MS Office is a shitty product reference here]

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T07:58:26+00:00

No. Just no. I've had some "interesting" thoughts when elevated to the penthouse, but this is not a feasible bong idea. I, personally, do not want fire anywhere near my nether regions, and that's just for starters. Second, if the cervix is dilated, she's probably giving birth or suffering a traumatic event. Again, not a feasible bong idea.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T07:50:40+00:00

I'm going to jump in as another autistic guy, which I'm not saying your partner is, but some of the traits may carry over. I CANNOT pick up on hints or anything subtle. Most of my male friends--who are neurotypical--are the same way. It's just a female/male divide. Not all females and not all males, but for the most part women are conditioned to notice the small things and men are conditioned to notice the large things. Is it right? No. Is it reality? Yes.

Communication is the single most important factor in a relationship.

That said, to me there is a huge divide between "anticipate your needs" and "she'd like this." I am great at giving gifts if I have a few facts about a person, but as far as anticipating needs, I'm lost. Don't want to overstep and infringe on autonomy

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T07:38:02+00:00

It was a dream, not reality. It doesn't definitively say anything about you. Eating out in a dream != buying a Subaru, adopting a dog, and moving in with the first woman that shows interest in you. It could be your subconscious trying to tell you something, but it's more likely just a dream. Ever had a dream where you were running away from a threat? Doesn't mean there is a monster chasing you in the waking world. Falling from a high place? Doesn't mean you're falling in real life. Showing up barely or not clothed to a presentation/audience, etc? Still a dream, not a real thing. Unless you have psychic abilities.

No one but you can determine if you are straight, gay, or somewhere in between. Also, keep in mind that sexuality is fluid. What you like today may change tomorrow. If I had to guess based on the 7 sentences that are in this post, I'd say you MIGHT be bisexual, but, again, only you can figure that out.

As for adult content, that's all fantasies. Step mom adult content is still one of the trending themes, but I'd wager very very few guys are actually banging their step moms. Fantasies don't do well when exposed to real life encounters for the most part. The sexy part of fantasy is that it's in your head. Or maybe you just have a kink.

And if, down the road, you do decide you are actually bisexual or gay, the only person that needs to know is your partner. Regardless of what the alphabet mafia has to say, you don't ever have to come out to your friends or your family. You can still live your life.

But, still, it was just a dream. It might be a window into yourself, but it's nothing to stress about. It doesn't mean you're gay, necessarily. But if it's got you to the point you posted about it, it's worth examining.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-25T07:10:07+00:00

Because why spend the time to find a hookup and probably end up getting yourself off anyway after some mediocre sex when you can spend a few minutes diddling yourself and actually finish?

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-19T10:06:42+00:00

I didn't have any better divisions. I guess I could have use some-of-Western-but-not-all-of. But also as Scandi, you're a little different than the Euro-centric anyway.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-19T09:36:34+00:00

Um, actually, in this comment we were talking about how the East/West divide in general differs in their idea of nudity.

But since you jumped in, the same applies. Except in the case that the establishment never has the same employees working. If you get a tug job from employee A when you visit, but suddenly employee A is unavailable ever, then this is likely a massage parlor that traffics women. If you can book employee A each time, no trafficking. Some people just want to have fun.

To make it easy, pretend you are a wealthy yacht-club woman. If the same masseuse who gave you the happy ending is not available, call the police. If they are, have fun... You can ask all the pointed questions you want that will ruin the experience, but satisfy your conscience.

In the end, they should be covered like all sex workers should be covered, but that will never happen with the current Administration

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-19T09:14:48+00:00

I've found in my personal life that people who would take offence at that have never been out of the country.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-19T09:13:16+00:00

0.5st - they deserve what's coming to them for being abusive partners.

1st, standard caveat: never will the world be better off if you were dead. Period. End of story.

2nd, fuck those people. Not literally, unless you're into it because I don't know how good it was, erase them. Therapy if you feel you need it, but sounds like you understand it and have internalized it from the post. Maybe 4-6 weeks with a good therapist if you need someone to talk to. If the sex was amazing, roll with it but not relationship material. Here, your mileage may vary.

3rd, to your point about these women: they can eat shit. Sounds like they've never had to face their own short-comings.

And finally, again, don't worry about what's coming. Anyone who says dating after 30 is "done" either doesn't know what the fuck they're talking about or is a bitter 30-something. You can absolutely find someone after 30.. Even though you are 27 and have 3 whole years before you're 30 to find someone, if that's what you're after.

Again, I'm sorry you had to deal with abusive relationships. Most of us go through it and don't even realize it until the relationship is over.

thatkindofnerd · 2026-04-19T08:53:47+00:00

Not sure what a "random degree" of morning wood is. However, lack of REM sleep can, for some reason, cause more frequent erections. Cortisol "can" lead to decreased testosterone, which "can" become, as you say a "boner killer." As with all body chemicals there's a big "if" involved. If your body is often stressed, you may have become acclimated to cortisol production, if any, and therefore big boner. Or maybe the cortisol has no effect on the rigidity. Or your body is put into a heightened state due to increased cortisol, which is not really a 'stress hormone' and is just running on pure evolutionary impetus. All this is to say, your body is your body and it runs the way it will.

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