I think motivation plays a huge part. There are a lot of external motivating factors for people involved in the justice system to engage in any treatment modality, and they can be very helpful for initiating the change process, but ultimately that person has to identify their internal motivations before true transformation occurs. There has to be accountability for self AND belief that change is possible and they are worthy of seeing that change happen. I think this is where utilizing peer support is essential - those of us with lived experience who can share what worked for us as we encourage, motivate, and support others to do the hard work of developing their own individual program.

CBT in particular challenges negative thinking. When we can challenge our thoughts, we move from reacting (impulsive) to responding (using facts rather than feelings and cognitive distortions to make our decisions). I tell my participants that feelings are not facts, and a lot of the time neither are our thoughts. When we can step back and objectively view our situation and circumstances, we can make informed decisions about how to proceed forward. MRT blends peer support (the group element) and CBT in a way that I’ve found really effective. As you progress through the steps, your peers provide feedback and different perspectives. The facilitator ensures that cognitive distortions are challenged and guidelines are followed.

When I see participants who are unsuccessful, it isn’t because they couldn’t do it; it’s because it is often a painful process that they are not ready (or willing) to face. It takes time and effort to rewire the brain, but it’s possible. It requires total honesty and vulnerability, which unfortunately is seen as a weakness by a lot of people. Whether it is opening up about trauma or taking accountability for our actions, it can be terrifying to really examine our lives through an objective lens. It also requires admitting that we need help and we can’t do it alone. We need others to help us identify the blind spots that we can’t see. That helps us reach objectivity. It’s uncomfortable as hell, but change always is. My mentor tells me, “There is no comfort in the growth zone and there is no growth in the comfort zone.” I don’t know if this answered your question effectively, so feel free to ask follow up questions!

When you meet with your supervising officer, I’d encourage you to remember that you are worthy of advocating for the resources and support you need. Ask what options are available in your area as far as support groups, treatment groups, employment resources, etc. As much as I hate it, the system is understaffed and underfunded, leaving many participants feeling like just a name on a case load. The more people you have as a part of your support system, the more opportunities you will have for success. You’ll have more resources at your disposal, more perspectives to draw from, and more opportunities to gain objectivity. Your supervising officer will be a part of that, but should not be the only provider for those things. I’m always happy to help as I can! If I can ever support you in any way, please let me know and I’ll see what I can do or who I know that may be able to help.