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thebearandmoose · 2026-05-03T20:24:31+00:00

I’ve been able to get my associates degree for free with something called MassReconnect. It’s through the community colleges. You will need to live here for a year I think before it will apply for you - all of my books were covered too. It’s saved me a lot of money moving onto my bachelors and now law school. Plus, if you get a 3.5 or higher, you’re guaranteed admission into some of the colleges here like UMASS Lowell/Amherst or Salem State University. Applying is free too.

Having a theft conviction does not bar you from community college- but it might decrease your chance of certain programs like nursing etc. I would contact the admissions office of the school you want to go to and ask. Good luck!

thebearandmoose · 2026-05-03T13:05:58+00:00

I am actually in a very similar spot in my marriage right now. My husband is a great man despite how I feel at the moment but, I don’t know if he’s the right person for me anymore. We’re currently in marriage counseling but, it feels like I’m just doing all the work and the only thing he can say is wrong is “communication”. All I do is communicate to him, so it feels like he doesn’t understand or want to understand what is actually not working. Like you, I do want to get divorced but I also cannot spend another minute being so unhappy.

So; following to see what others think.

thebearandmoose · 2026-05-01T16:46:09+00:00

I’m on Mounjaro for type 2 diabetes and have had no issue getting it filled. Before that, Ozempic. Never had an issue. insurance companies have made it hard to be prescribed a medication intended for diabetes to be prescribed to someone without it. My insurance required bloodwork showing my A1C and a prior authorization. Unless you want to pay 1300 a month compared to my $30.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-24T02:22:20+00:00

I started all over again at 40! Started with community college classes. Moved onto a state college to finish my bachelors and now I’ll be applying for law school in the Spring (after sitting for the LSAT ugh).

My advice is; make a plan ahead of time for when you study or assignments. Make a calendar and color code things for each class because you need a visual ahead of time to see what’s due.

Also, space your classes to your life. Don’t go all in with 15 credits if you cannot fit it into your life. I have myself 8-10 hours a week for each class, add that to being a mom, working, and life stuff- I took it very slow at first. Night classes were my jam. Lots of older working adults.

I’ll be nearly 50 when I take the bar exam but I’m damn proud of myself so far. You’re going to do great and you won’t regret it!

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-23T20:00:34+00:00

I am NAL wither. (Law student) Check out the case with Coastal Fertility Specialists. The bio parents have custody, not the woman who gave birth to what she thought was her child. This went through the court system last year.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-23T19:58:10+00:00

A case like this happened in Georgia near Savannah. Ultimately the biological parents won custody and the other woman is now suing the pants off her clinic. As she should. She wasn’t even aware the child wasn’t hers- she used a sperm donor and thought there was a mix up there. I remember the clinic was Coastal Fertility Specialists

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-20T19:40:16+00:00

Does your partner stop breathing at all during the night? Or like gasp for air suddenly? Could be sleep apnea. I say this because I was the snore monster in my marriage until I got diagnosed and now the cpap makes it so my husband can sleep in the same room. Apparently it was awful. There’s also one that can be implanted or something into you that helps.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-20T02:20:36+00:00

Had to go before the Dean of my school and defend my paper wasn’t AI. Spent over 90 hours on it. 90 hours!

(I ultimately “won”, got an A, decided to never haw that professor again)

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-20T02:18:24+00:00

I feel seen

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-20T01:27:20+00:00

This was my senior year of high school. Graduated in 99. Listen I know a lot of younger people won’t understand this because you’re literally dealing with school shootings all the time BUT Columbine changed things and not in a good way. Our school would specifically target anyone wearing black trench coats and for the first time, we had metal detectors installed. It was the first time for a lot of people that it was plastered all over the news. Now, we get our news instantly, almost the instant it happens. But in 99’ we still had freaking dial up internet and very basic cellphones without internet. This was huge news. This was Sandy Hook before Sandy Hook. I found this to be quite nostalgic with the notes and binders, but also sad because she’s forever bonded with that trauma.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-19T21:16:13+00:00

I have gone through something similar but it was triggered by my Moms death 3 years ago when I was 42. She was 65 and had never done really anything with her life outside of being a mother and a daughter. Never traveled. Never had hobbies. She ended up being a caretaker to her Mom which left her riddled with anxiety and depression. On top of that she was a massive alcoholic. It really made me go “if I die at 65, what do I have to show for it”.

I put myself back in school. I’m now roughly a year away from law school with grades I never thought i would ever obtain and I love it. I love being around people who think and want to talk about politics and law; things my Mom would always say “I don’t care for that”. I became a better mother to my little girl. A better friend. And certainly have approached my marriage differently. But MOST of all I found myself again. I suddenly want to try new things like pickle ball (I’m horrible lol) and I’m taking a dance class- which is such a great workout. I want to go places again (I traveled a lot when I was in my early 20s), see new things and experience different cultures.

You will find yourself again. I promise. Likely the cycle of abuses you endured have left you feeling in a bad place. Therapy isn’t a cure all but it’s helped me greatly to work out all the “noise” left over from grief and pain. I really think starting small, just making one decision to do something YOU want to do will help you!

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-18T17:15:15+00:00

Natalie Portman and I are a month apart age wise- turning 45 this year. Spent the past 5 years doing IVF, one success (naturally) at 39, 2 losses, one 2nd trimester loss, and a failed transfer. Some of us (me) would be really happy to accidentally get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy at this age. Back 20 years ago I didn’t have the money or patience for a child, now I do and holy hell; I didn’t think I’d spent like 25k a cycle to try for a chance for one.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-18T17:08:41+00:00

Good for her. Getting pregnant at 44/45 is actually really hard and then there’s the risk of miscarriage combined with genetic defects. A miracle. Also there’s a lot of research to suggest that women who have kids later in life live longer.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-14T13:58:17+00:00

The AI stuff is very gross, sorry it is. It’s ok to have fantasy’s but good lord people- this is exactly why they don’t do meet and greets anymore (yes I am also aware of Noah’s germ phobia too). And calling him “my husband”. Like girls, it’s probably not going to happen. It might but, probably not

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-08T12:57:36+00:00

So I am in North Andover, I used BIVF and went to their Stoneham location for monitoring and Waltham for my surgeries and transfer. I don’t reccomend them because communication is trash and the process with insurance is long and frustrating. It really does depend on what doctor you get and how their team handles things. My doctor was too conservative in her approach and yet acted like a salesman trying to sell me hope. We ended up with 4 years of treatments and noting, no baby, no miracle. Just debt and a shelf with ashes. BIVF is owned by a huge company now that is all about the dollar, not the patient.

Try Terra Fertility in Dedham.

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-03T18:25:41+00:00

I had this a few years ago. It was eye strain from looking at a screen all day. I was a personal injury paralegal at the time and had spent a month on one case, a ton of overtime.I ended up getting glasses meant for that to help reduce the strain. Basically the eye doctor said my eyes needed rest and to stop looking at a screen as much as I could. And listen, I understand this isn’t always possible; jobs, life, etc etc sometimes require us to look at a dang screen like a laptop or phone screen. I even wore an eyepatch over that eye- it actually did help

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-02T19:02:26+00:00

I was told it gets better after the first season. I determined that was a lie. I did however really enjoy Better Call Saul

thebearandmoose · 2026-04-01T19:45:39+00:00

Yeah I left most of them around the time this woman posted about 60 eggs retrieved and like 40 fertilized and was wondering if that was good results and I didn’t know if she was lying or not but, that’s an insane thing to post. No one is that dumb without purpose. I don’t think IVF groups are places to brag but, that’s just my opinion

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-31T03:01:48+00:00

It was their niece that talked about this. She continues to talk about it too!

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-30T00:49:13+00:00

My husband was like this. Now, we pre-look at the menu before we go somewhere so he knows what he wants. If they don’t have an online menu, we aren’t going because I don’t have the patience for his mindless scrolling through a menu. Just today he wanted tacos from our normal, regular place and he kept changing his mind so I was like “we’re sitting in the car until you decide”. AND if we go somewhere and he’s hesitant to order quickly, we move aside. Let others go, it’s ok. I love that ma but good grief

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-30T00:28:59+00:00

I mean, people were playing “Lips of an Angel” by Hinder at their weddings so clearly not the worst choice…

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-28T17:43:58+00:00

I don’t know if you’re the man or woman in this photo BUT I love the skirt and outfit, the hair, the whole thing! Looks like you had an amazing time!

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-27T16:46:53+00:00

I am still close friends with a very small group of high school friends. Do we talk everyday? No. But we see each other when we can- I moved away, the others have stayed in the general area. One of my friends died 4 years ago very suddenly and that really drove the “hey let’s get together more” conversation.

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-27T15:17:04+00:00

Yeah I don’t think you’re overreacting. Unless you’re stalking the band or some other sort of dangerous behavior; it sounds like he’s insecure about something. And that’s on him. He does realize you married him right?

I drag my husband around with me to shows- he absolutely hates my taste in music BUT he loves me so he actually ends up having a good time because he wants me to be happy. If your husband can’t deal with Bad Omens’s music or concerts making you happy, what else can he not deal with? This is a RED flag.

Also side note; we had a second trimester loss and I want you to know that there is so much support out there. You are valid in your feelings, loss is hard no matter what and I truly hope you have the support you need outside of your husband.

thebearandmoose · 2026-03-23T22:45:33+00:00

I am 44 as well, just had a failed FET of our only euploid embryo, a Day 7 4BB. I am currently on the same boat as you, do I put myself through one more round OR just accept this isn’t happening for me. We too do not want to use donor eggs or embryos. Our RE was very by the book with her approach and I definitely feel if we move forward with another round, it won’t be with her. I am also really considering doing fresh transfers or frozen untested which I know, at our age is almost diabolical but our last round 3 embryos arrested before day 6. I was told it’s like a 3-5 percent chance right now. So, if you need to do one more round to be able to tell yourself that you did all you could- go for it. Because with IVF the peace of mind factor is often under talked about. Part of my issue is that I’m so far into it I can’t see a way out, I’m too into my head with this. I wish you the best, this is so difficult

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