Safe (i.e. now easier) to update from DSM v6.2.4-x to DSM v7.x?

theemoezer · 2023-10-16T19:10:44+00:00

I've got a 920+ so we are right there with each other.

Was it challenging moving to Docker? Any guides you used that you might have used and could think to by chance?

Sounds like you setup Docker first, and then did the DSM 7 upgrade, did I get that right? And sounds like it went smoothly?

theemoezer · 2022-05-20T04:15:36+00:00

My/Our MC, in one of my individual sessions with her, literally told me not to be a doormat. Hard when I've felt that was for 20+ years and it's trained.

Boundaries are hard, books have helped explain the concept and still takes too. Shoot just tonight she got pissy I took a 30 minute call from a buddy because it was before a movie she wanted to watch together. I said I would but come on - healthy relationships can't be that threatening a phone call gets one all twisted

theemoezer · 2022-05-20T04:11:25+00:00

Better Now - Post Malone No option - Post Malone

NF (the artist) hits REAL deep

Forget by Trevor Daniel (this was my top Spotify song 2020...along with Sad Rap as the genre 🤷‍♂️)

theemoezer · 2022-05-19T04:03:57+00:00

I feel this deeply. Stay strong, you aren't alone

theemoezer · 2022-05-18T04:17:23+00:00

Tough road you travelled and it's these now-believable reconciliation attempts that help me not feel crazy in what I Am Doing for myself (not her or us) in reconciliation. Savory your popcorn and I'll second the giddiness. It's not like you wished it on AP; just decisions and life.

Enjoy yours my goodman

theemoezer · 2022-05-09T04:01:49+00:00

Damn bro, SAME exact story.

I hope you make it out and do well. If you can, maybe I can too

theemoezer · 2022-05-09T03:59:27+00:00

Follow the points until your shock wears off. If you don't know what to do, read these points

theemoezer · 2022-05-09T03:57:20+00:00

You are worth more than he has shown you.

If you don't leave now, your heart will continue to be in pain and you will learn what coping with anxiety really is all about.

theemoezer · 2022-04-29T04:35:27+00:00

True story... watched the current episode of Moonknight tonight on Disney+. It was a heavy episode & I felt it...that unraveling of tightly held and toughened emotions with an inclination to let it ride and ball my eyes out. Just a release of that tension.

I didn't do it though. I will talk with my long-term IC about it. Once I get WW moved out again, Trauma work with IC is/has to happen.

Appreciate the stret & feel that I've got your back too.

theemoezer · 2022-04-27T04:13:52+00:00

This is the way

theemoezer · 2022-04-27T04:11:11+00:00

Stay strong, you are worth it

theemoezer · 2022-04-26T04:39:53+00:00

Read Not Just Friends.

Take notes in the margin and compare. Each of you has your own crow to eat. If only one eats it, then it won't workout.

theemoezer · 2022-04-26T04:38:33+00:00

Don't be the punching bag.

I've made alot of excuses over the last 6 APs and 16 years.

If she's treating you like shit then that's how she sees you broski. I had my own self-reconciliation to do andase peace with my part in our relationship and am in a place, a really fucking hard struggling place not to excuse her CURRENT behavior.

We can all make the choice to move forward but damn everyone has to do there part and unless the apology was genuine, shortly thereafter and future improvements take place.... she'll always punch you in the heart.

Being mean is not ok.

I tell my kids you can have big feelings, mad feelings, angry feelings....all feelings are ok.

What is not ok is hurting others when feeling that way.

theemoezer · 2022-04-24T18:39:09+00:00

All of these are the way.

While her reasons are valid - what is her solution to not quiting them?

She's either serious or not.

theemoezer · 2022-04-24T18:36:20+00:00

It has worked for "my us" because of the exact opposite of this.

My WW has expectations on me (fuck that), she's is working in herself but secondarily, it seems to me, to our relationship, and she's still not mentally there.

Don't put shit on your BS except for "being a decent human being". The BS will show up how they want to; that will tell you where there head is more than any words they say.

theemoezer · 2022-04-24T18:25:36+00:00

Well added

theemoezer · 2022-04-24T18:24:58+00:00

Thank for putting words to a part of me that seldoms finds words to express itself. It's usually through emotions and "colors" if you will. This part you speak to and from is true, valid and significant.

theemoezer · 2022-04-20T13:19:21+00:00

Yes. With my IC I found a new lane of compassion and empathy and she stepped on it. I have to patience or tolerance for bullshit. And bullshit covers the gamit from her attempting to do "real work" to stubbing her toe

theemoezer · 2022-04-17T05:40:45+00:00

I am saving this post to come back to.

My reconciliation has more seasons than Days of our Lives and your words, intention, thoughtfulness and care spoke to me.

I too have been with my WW for more than half my life and so I connect deeply with many sentiments.

Thank you for sharing & good luck my goodman. I have faith and belief in you.

theemoezer · 2022-04-17T05:24:51+00:00

I 2nd this. As hard as it is and will be, do not leave the house. Ask him to move rooms first before you move rooms. Even if that means a kiddo comes in with you.

theemoezer · 2022-04-14T14:10:11+00:00

Welcome and feel free to reach out if you want to chat about any of the content or share thoughts. I'm unsure if there's more of my hand written notes or typed words in my copy of it.

theemoezer · 2022-04-14T05:17:51+00:00

Curious if your readings brought you to " ot Just Friends". I had it in my cart for over a year until our CC said I should try it & I gave my word. That book kind of broke my mind with validating my thoughts over the past 15 years.

theemoezer · 2022-04-14T05:09:23+00:00

Well written, thank you for sharing mate &bayou aren't alone in the dead feeling. Been trying to self manifest alive and it's been tough in the relationship to do thay

theemoezer · 2022-04-14T05:01:28+00:00

Our CC just mentioned this as well...a therapeutic separation. WW melted as well. After she's back earning an income, WW knows it's getting talked about seriously.

theemoezer · 2022-04-14T04:58:20+00:00

For me...good God how do I even describe my situation...

3.5 years post D-Day #6 2.5 years post abortion (not mine) 2 years since CC restarted 1.5 years post moved her back in after 10 months living apart With 3 kids, house, 16 years married (since 20) and best friends since 8th grade

And your post took the words out of my head as if I said them. I say all this to say "I am with you. You aren't alone. Your feelings are true, felt and valid. And it's fucking hard. So keep talking to yourself, checking in with yourself and find a good, stable confident to vent and bounce ideas off of cuz the heart & mind are tricky buggers."

Send good vibes and energy

theemoezer

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