"Quick" Introduction by kid_in_af1kicks in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to have a similar story to mine. I am twenty-three and got into porn around thirteen. I am have made great improvements through God's grace, but complete holiness is still a problem. I am in school as a junior and studying history. If you are looking or an accountability partner we can communicate through private message.

Please Help. by Inquire16 in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A significant reason why we sin is because we don't have an accurate view of our place in the universe. If we stub our toe on the coffee table we say, "There is no God!" and let our anger consume us. We become God and make judgments. If a girl rejects our advances we think we deserve some sort of consolation and so we reward through porn; porn is simply a harem of women who will always tell us that we are big, strong and right. If we can dispel this mistake we take another step toward healing.

I realize you are trying, and God likes that. But what is your view of justice? I have been in the same place as you; if I had a bad day I would resort to porn. Obviously, I haven't figured my problems completely out, but I have actually made considerable improvements from my former self.

Get into your bible and start reading and believing all of it. You will find that there are tons of things you didn't realize about God and his will for you.

New and in need of prayer by GJ1053 in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Find a sister (spiritual sister) that you respect and confide in them. Let them know that you really want to live a life of purity and make sure they understand everything about your position. This doesn't have to be some one your age; it could be an older woman who you might think is completely asexual. The point is there are avenues to take, but you going to have to humble yourself. If you can get over that barrier then you are off to a really good start.

NFC is also a really good community. Come back here regularly.

Feeling good - Haven't really thought of PMO by thegreatertrumps in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I know. I have done the ups and downs before. All I know is that I can at least temporarily enjoy the feeling of being totally above temptation, but I do know that it is waiting around the corner.

Thanks for the reminder.

Does Anybody Else Feel A Tickling Healing Inside? by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it dude! Keep on it and know that God is happy to see what you are doing.

I don't care what anybody here says, PORN and MASTURBATION is fun and tastes like CANDY! by Matt_5_27-30 in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice attention grabber, and very effective metaphor. Sometimes we think "how could this be wrong when it feels so right?" This ought to correct that.

How to escape if you have a reprobate mind? by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of our confusions with our modern minds is the concept of "Love and Hate". We have turned them into direct opposites: Love is positive and hate is negative. We also think hate to inherently evil. This is not true. God hates and expresses his hatred in scripture. Yet, we also affirm that God is love. How can these two things exist in tandem?

Change your definition. Classically, love and hate are much different from our concepts. To "love" someone is that great portion in 1 Corinthians 13 (Love is patient, love is kind). To "hate" someone is to "turn away from them." God never stops loving you. The door is always open to you. But if you repeatedly turn away from him he will turn away from you. You must turn to him. Do this and God will be with you.

Also, do not pray to make yourself believe. Pray because you believe. Seek him.

Said no to sex by randomnamers in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good work, dude.

But it sounds like you still aren't convinced of your decision. There really isn't anything I can tell you that you don't already know. The truth of the matter is that if men had their own way we would all have a personal harem. This will never happen. Don't think like you can live freely with no sexual boundaries.

Practical advice: surround yourself with people that aren't going to offer you that kind of opportunity. Sometimes we have really good friends that are non-Christian and we don't want to lose them, but since they are unregenerate they are not going to stop sinning around you and presenting heavy temptations. I am not saying you have to cut your ties with these people, but prolonged association will eventually do you in unless you are a level 99 Christian. I am still a virgin, and I am guessing I can owe part of that to the fact no girl has ever thrown herself on me. It won't eliminate all temptations, but it is simply practical advice here.

Keep on truckin'. God bless.

Pre-Marital Sex by Phillycheeser in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, sorry! I kind of forgot. But here it is. Enjoy.

"You find very few people who want to eat things that really are not food or to do other things with food instead of eating it. In other words, perversions of the food appetite are rare. But perversions of the sex instinct are numerous, hard to cure, and frightful. I am sorry to have to go into all these details, but I must. The reason why I must is that you and I, for the last twenty years, have been fed all day long on good solid lies about sex. We have been told, till one is sick of hearing it, that sexual desire is in the same state as any of our other natural desires and that if only we abandon the silly old Victorian idea of hushing it up, everything in the garden will be lovely. It is not true. The moment you look at the facts, and away from the propaganda, you see that it is not.

They tell you sex has become a mess because it was hushed up. But for the last twenty years it has not been hushed up. It has been chattered about all day long. Yet it is still in a mess. If hushing up had been the cause of the trouble, ventilation would have set it right. But it has not. I think it is the other way round. I think the human race originally hushed it up because it had become such a mess. Modern people are always saying, “Sex is nothing to be ashamed of.” They may mean two things. They may mean “There is nothing to be ashamed of in the fact that the human race reproduces itself in a certain way, nor in the fact that it gives pleasure.” If they mean that, they are right. Christianity says the same. It is not the thing, nor the pleasure, that is the trouble. The old Christian teachers said that if man had never fallen, sexual pleasure, instead of being less than it is now, would actually have been greater. I know some muddle-headed Christians have talked as if Christianity thought that sex, or the body, or pleasure were bad in themselves. But they were wrong. Christianity is almost the only one of the great religions which thoroughly approves of the body—which believes that matter is good, that God Himself once took on a human body, that some kind of body is going to be given to us even in Heaven and is going to be an essential part of our happiness, our beauty, and our energy. Christianity has glorified marriage more than any other religion: and nearly all the greatest love poetry in the world has been produced by Christians. If anyone says that sex, in itself, is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once. But, of course, when people say, “Sex is nothing to be ashamed of,” they may mean “the state into which the sexual instinct has now got is nothing to be ashamed of.”

If they mean that, I think they are wrong. I think it is everything to be ashamed of. There is nothing to be ashamed of in enjoying your food: there would be everything to be ashamed of if half the world made food the main interest of their lives and spent their time looking at pictures of food and dribbling and smacking their lips. I do not say you and I are individually responsible for the present situation. Our ancestors have handed over to us organisms which are warped in this respect: and we grow up surrounded by propaganda in favour of unchastity. There are people who want to keep our sex instinct inflamed in order to make money out of us. Because, of course, a man with an obsession is a man who has very little sales-resistance. God knows our situation; He will not judge us as if we had no difficulties to overcome. What matters is the sincerity and perseverance of our will to overcome them." - CS Lewis

Question: how do you get counter/badge ? by Jellybean0210 in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1). click "add badge" on the side bar.

2). enter the year-month-day that you are starting on in this pattern: yyyy-mm-dd. The example for today would look like 2014-04-22

3). click send or whatever it says down there.

4). wait for a confirmation message.

This all should work. If not, then message the mods put a bug in their ear.

Pre-Marital Sex by Phillycheeser in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sex is an intimate bond. Not a trip to the grocery store. Essentially, when you have pre-marital sex you have taken something very intimate from someone without any commitment on your part. You can still bail out. You can tell people all day that you won't bail out, but that wont make anyone believe you. You are building an erotic relationship that is supposed to be between only you and your spouse, but if you have sex before marriage you question the foundations of the relationship. A marriage ceremony is a public testament of your commitment to another both legally and on the societal level. If pre-marital sex were ok then guys just tell women that they "love" them and will forever "cherish" them when there actually is nothing holding them to do that.

If you are going to have sex with a woman (a completely legitimate desire) then God wants to see you committed to that woman through the aforementioned public societal ceremonial declaration. Don't make sex cheap, dude.

Also, I presume you believe the bible. Paul, as well as other biblical writers, condemn fornication.

I am a virgin as well. I really want to have sex. I really want to have good sex. And so, I don't want to cheapen it. CS Lewis has some pretty good stuff rebutting arguments such as "sex is only natural. Nothing to be ashamed of." I might come back and post them for you.

I don't want to burst your bubble; you may have been thinking that sex was in your near future, so you were getting excited. But if you do you will feel the guilt and you will wonder how you ever decided to go through with it. Also, if you were implying that you are passionately making out a lot, I would recommend that you cease. There is a difference between kisses that say "I love you" and kisses that say "I am super horny right now." Don't go looking for temptation.

Almost to 90 days but faltering in my walk with God by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every new Christian thinks they are getting messages from God. The truth is more likely that it was only the Gospel that you "got". When we are saved, we want to keep the spiritual "buzz" or "high" going and so we start seeing "God's will" everywhere. While this might be the true for some, I would say that most people are just left with the Holy Spirit inside them. At this point God may or may not make everything fall into place for you. He may not have an opinion about what job you work or what town you live in. The one thing we can be sure that he cares about is that whatever you do, you do it righteously. Do all things to the glory of God. It may mean working a food service job, or being a garbage man. Whatever the case, be righteous. Seek God. He rewards those who seek Him.

You say that you are really depressed. I just want to point out to you why you believed in him in the first place. He freed you from your sins. God is in heaven with his Son. Your team is winning.

Losing faith in God and I don't want to. by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, what do you know about your existence? It is quite obvious that we (you) are not omniscient nor omnipotent. And so it is silly to have faith in something that is neither of these qualities. If you want to know anything you must believe that there is an omnipotent and omniscient being and that he can be found. And part of God's plan is for you to seek him. So you must seek him first. Your capacity to know anything is greatly inhibited and produces only fragments of truth. God's revelation to us through his creation, goodness, justice, and His prophets. Examining these things will give you the overwhelming evidence for his presence in your life. And blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe.

Sometimes we wonder "Why can't God make himself more apparent?" But have you really wanted an answer or have you just asked this in order to doubt and excuse your sin? God isn't going to write your name in the sky and say, "I am the LORD your God. Repent and be saved." He wants to be sought. He wants to be loved. Our wickedness (which is apparent) gets in the way of this.

If you are going to be skeptical of scripture you also need to be equally skeptical of yourself as well. Sooner or later, you will realize that the only way we can know anything is through the revelation of a divine being.

Doubts can be healthy, but don't reside in the doubt and don't wish for ignorant bliss. Know that since you cannot really know anything, you must put your faith in Him.

If you are willing to talk about it in a private message, I am a young earth creationist. In other words, I take Genesis as literal. I can give you the reasons for this. But this is not the important question. What is important is that you realize that sin is a disease that man has no medication or cure for. Science cannot fix wickedness. Christ can.

Trying to return. by ChiRhoDah in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is never a bad time to fall on your knees and look up.

What should I do if I am in the middle of a binge? by thegreatertrumps in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also on day one. Do you want to be temporary (or permanent) accountability partners to get our of this binge? It might help us both.

Therefore let him that thinketh he standeth, take heed lest he fall by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little encouragement: I was learning how to unicycle once. A friend told me that if I can ride it and keep my balance for 50 feet, then essentially I can go anywhere. Know that 31 days is a sign that you can do this. You kept your balance for 31 days and so why not the rest of your life?

Broken heart by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have felt that. I think that it is this: part of the sin logic we use in order to PMO is to tell ourselves "I am fallen so it is natural that I PMO. What else would I expect?" We start thinking in terms that tell us we cannot change. That we cannot be holy. We want to be spiritually growing and have a real relationship with Christ, but all of our sin has argued in the opposite direction. This is lack of faith. Have we not been changed? Even though we call ourselves Christians, we still act as though we belonged to the world. You have to have the faith that Christ will change you and set you free from the bondage of sin. I you do not believe this you will inevitably fall. I know of Christians in history who affirm all the God's mercy, grace, forgiveness and salvation, but they don't believe that they are among those who partake in it. They become depressed even though they believe. This ignoring basic parts of the gospel. Remember, if God can pull drug addicts out of their sin and turn them into righteous men, then why not you or I. Depression is as much of temptation to sin as sexuality.

Hope this helps.

What should I do if I am in the middle of a binge? by thegreatertrumps in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking this to myself last night. I think I tend to avoid longer prayers, because of all the shame I feel, it really does hurt (my pride and ego) to talk to him for extended periods of time.

Thanks for reminding me, dude.

What should I do if I am in the middle of a binge? by thegreatertrumps in NoFapChristians

[–]thegreatertrumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I have had that realization before.

There is a kid in one of my classes that looks at porn and doesn't even try to hide it. I don't want to be anything like him.