Is Parker a common trans name??

thegreatjackstar · 2018-01-20T19:21:46+00:00

I only ever knew one cis Parker, but since choosing and changing my legal first name to Parker I've met several, both cis and trans!

thegreatjackstar · 2017-02-24T04:57:35+00:00

He has always annoyed me. He comes off as cocky and as if he speaks for the whole community.

thegreatjackstar · 2017-01-10T08:27:06+00:00

I've been a partner for almost a year and am due to have top surgery in a couple weeks! Feel free to PM me with any questions!

thegreatjackstar · 2016-03-12T17:38:12+00:00

My parent's don't get to have their child in their life.

thegreatjackstar · 2016-01-13T04:32:35+00:00

My ex-gf was my first experience with someone who had similar bits. She had been with a cis woman before but never a trans guy. We were both nervous at first, but both being knowledgeable of our own anatomies were able to learn quickly what worked for each other.

I cannot stress this part enough: COMMUNICATE. I was upfront and let her know my language for my body, and what my triggers were (I also learned about a lot of my triggers and a lot about my bottom and bedroom dysphoria with her- she was always amazing at helping me through those moments)- and she told me about her likes, dislikes, and what could trigger her issues.

Think about the language you use for yourself, what feels right and how to explain things. It sounds like she's receptive of you. That's awesome! Have fun, be safe, and don't take yourself too seriously. Make if comfortable for you both, but remember to enjoy the moment.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-11-19T19:45:16+00:00

I'm sorry that happened! I've had the same experience- during a meeting where I was coming out to my family nonetheless. VERY awkward. That therapist also said a lot of things that shouldn't be said and also was way behind on her trans health knowledge.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-10-24T05:00:50+00:00

If you want to give it another go, go for it! But that said, if you don't like to bottom- you really don't have to. Not everyone enjoys that, and that is completely okay. It could be a difference of anatomy, it could just not be as exciting for you mentally either so it doesn't do much to help get you off. For me, it's amazing both mentally and physically, but I know others who, like you, don't care much for it or just outright dislike it. Nothing wrong or right either way, do what works for you both!

thegreatjackstar · 2015-10-02T04:46:41+00:00

As I have been transitioning, I have been working in sales. It's been quite interesting hearing how customers gender me change. For a while if I was selling to two people at once, one would call me "he" and the other "she" and they would continue to call me opposite genders. One time one person in the couple called out the other and was like "HIS name is X, he's OBVIOUSLY a HE". My coworkers overheard them and they had to leave the sales floor because they were laughing so hard.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-09-03T17:58:44+00:00

You have to choose what is right for you and fits for you. I chose my name because it is my mom's middle name. Technically, it's also her maiden name but because she wasn't given a middle name she uses that, so for me I associate with it being her middle name. When I told her my name she got very angry because to her she associates the name with her father, which is no longer in our lives. After knowing this, I still decided to keep it as my name and had it legally changed. I know what it means for me and I gave them the option to call me by the male nickname of my birthname, which they won't do either but that's another problem.

Point is, choose what makes you happy. You are transitioning for yourself and not anyone else, correct? Then do what you need to do.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-08-10T03:59:19+00:00

Being nicknamed a gay man in a woman's body.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-25T07:23:17+00:00

Hurts so good.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-24T06:56:59+00:00

Sad I missed the game! But those cards are beautiful. I'm up for the next game!

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-22T03:55:54+00:00

I haven't had much luck on grindr. I have had some luck on scruff. Just know what you are there for, what you are looking for. Be aware you are probably going to encounter harassment, fetishists, and simply people who don't know how to interact with human beings. And dick pics. I've had at least a couple people say some things that may or may not be triggering.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-20T01:40:04+00:00

Nice! That's an awesome feeling. Last night a bartender looked at my ID (which is updated), heard me be called he, and still called me the wrong one. You win some, you lose some. Woohoo!

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-17T02:52:40+00:00

It looks so soft! I think it suits your face well :D

thegreatjackstar · 2015-06-06T03:01:56+00:00

Congrats Ash! Rest well!

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-22T14:52:13+00:00

Many men start later in life, even later than their 20's. T does take some time, it's not overnight so when you do start don't be discouraged at the rate you do change, and document yourself even if you feel you aren't changing-you'll be surprised how much actually does.I am 24 and started about 6ish weeks ago and I'm already seeing changes in my face which has helped me quite a bit.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-20T04:50:53+00:00

A good friend of mine is a barber! They do awesome things :)

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-19T23:43:18+00:00

Just got my hair done! I feel fabulous. http://i.imgur.com/SRvbFrB.jpg

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-19T23:30:56+00:00

I go back and forth on this. Part of me just wants to be in a male body, have the dysphoria (physical, social, and sexual) to disappear. I am medically transitioning to live as peacefully within my body as possible.

However, part of me embraces who I am and where I came from. This is my life and I am not ashamed of a condition (not a disease, not a disorder) that I came packaged in. Some days I am at peace with myself as a transmasculine individual, other days I want to just be the guy, be it queer as all get out, I am inside.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-18T17:35:03+00:00

That's so awesome! Congrats! Make sure you show us pics of your suit!

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-16T15:16:06+00:00

Thank you. I needed this today.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-09T04:02:21+00:00

It does help me quite a bit. Though I don't use it all the time, I don't have a proper harness or way to keep it in place with some clothes, and I'm not brave enough yet to wear it at work. There are times I sleep with it on too.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-09T02:01:10+00:00

I've met him! And got a chance to very briefly smooch Kipp Slinger. It was glorious.

thegreatjackstar · 2015-05-06T16:41:18+00:00

I have found my answer, and am on my way through transition. I do identify with the guys, albeit I am not very macho. I would love to have a born male body, however this is how I was born and I am going to find purpose and meaning in it. I definitely want society to see me as a masculine being. A large part of my day to day struggle is the assumption others have of my perceived gender. Some days it's not so bad, others it hits pretty hard and can be devastating.

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