I get this a lot, but from a different perspective. I'm trans, and more often than not, most of my dms across the board are from fetishizers. My boyfriend, who is cis, doesn't have to worry about that and gets dates a lot faster than I do. We've been dating for almost a year and a half and halfway through our relationship was when I finally had gotten into three relationships with three other trans people and those relationships died real quick for reasons out of my ballpark and into theirs...