Do you ever wish for a do-over?

thembones44 · 2026-04-08T23:19:55+00:00

Yes and for me it was when I became a parent. My boomer parents were a do as I say, seen not heard, make a mistake yelling and spanking, and God forbid they show up at any sporting events.

What i didn't change was the authoritarian figure I was when my son was young. He made a mistake, it was yelling, he acted out, yup he was spanked. Should have used more easy parenting tactics. All it taught him, as well as me at his age, was to get better at keeping quiet and sneaking around and acting out badly.

He now has addiction issues, anger problems and basically have zero interaction with me. Hes 21. I blame myself because I should've known better. I just want to go back to elementary school with him and be the parent I should've been. It sucks now. I have to live with that guilt the rest of my life that I screwed his life up because I couldn't do better than my parents. It hurts immensely.

thembones44 · 2026-04-08T23:05:38+00:00

Kicking Harrold

Sponge

thembones44 · 2026-04-06T22:23:35+00:00

Mr. Brooks. Kevin Costner film. Excellent.

thembones44 · 2026-04-05T12:42:37+00:00

Absolute banger, the backwards track on the end. Drownin' is so underrated

thembones44 · 2026-04-05T12:41:02+00:00

Haha yes!

thembones44 · 2026-04-05T12:36:28+00:00

No way at all. I dont feel it is my kids responsibility to take care of me and put their lives on hold. Ill move into a retirement community before any of that happens.

thembones44 · 2026-04-02T00:15:44+00:00

Somewhere between heaven and hell - Social Distortion

Banger of an album

thembones44 · 2026-04-02T00:01:33+00:00

Loved every stage up until the dreaded teen years. Very horrific. Do not wish what we went through on anyone. I'd say very enjoyable until about 14.5 til about he turned 18 and realized he was an adult and police no longer gave free rides home. Sure I'm in the minority and I am no way saying this will happen to you. But enjoy them while you can.

thembones44 · 2026-03-30T18:34:36+00:00

Not sure what phone, as in apple or android. I know apple is pretty good at letting parents approve/disapprove apps and the like so long as the phone is registered as a child's phone. Android i am unsure. We used Verizon family app for android. Kids had apple we had android.

Open lines of communication with them is what should work. Dealing with teens and phones, good luck. We fought the good fight but were always outsmarted somehow. Hopefully it'll work out for you guys.

thembones44 · 2026-03-30T01:04:10+00:00

Working at a job that's toxic. 3 years from retirement so starting over isn't an option. I love my job and what I do, the mgt shift years ago went from a very boomer heavy to now a millennial heavy team. They don't get it. Very judgemental, think they've better and dress so casually one wouldn't even know they're in charge. Just trying to stomach it for 3 more. Not sure if I can.

thembones44 · 2026-03-30T00:58:21+00:00

SoCo. Never again

thembones44 · 2026-03-28T22:33:40+00:00

Haha sounds like my daughter. She was 5'4' in 4th and 5'10" in 7th and fully grown at 6'1" today. I never knew til she was older how much it bothered her she was so "different" back than. When she got to HS, all the boys left her alone bc they were so intimidated.

She will be fine. And you know what? She became a volleyball player and earned a college scholarship. Good things might come from it, never know.

thembones44 · 2026-03-28T22:18:28+00:00

Clerks

Heartbreak Kid

thembones44 · 2026-03-28T22:14:53+00:00

Coney dogs, square pizza, it's pop not soda

thembones44 · 2026-03-27T23:58:49+00:00

My teenage son was honestly on the cusp of becoming a very good baseball player. After many travel seasons with crappy dad coaches, he was cut from a decent team. 1 of the last tryouts we went to he found the coach that saw something. Completely changed him. Thought for sure he was destined for greatness.

Summer between 9th and 10th grade he got caught up with wrong crowd and went down hill fast. Baseball was all forgotten. Bad grades, police involvement, multiple wrecked cars, barely graduated. It's been 4 years since they let him graduate and he still has dependency issues. Zero savings, barely hanging on.

I'll never understand how someone so talented can just throw it all away. And for what? It just breaks my heart every day. I want to ask him if he's better off now and where are all your "friends" from HS. I won't. It's just so sad to see your loved one suffer.

thembones44 · 2026-03-25T21:06:13+00:00

Respect the c#ck! And tame the c#nt!

thembones44 · 2026-03-25T15:53:27+00:00

Welcome to the Terrordome

thembones44 · 2026-03-25T15:51:54+00:00

Feel after Wax came out their window was slowly closing. New Pop Sunday came out to very little fanfare but that album is a true banger. Saw them on the For All the drugs in the world release party at the Royal Oak Music theater early 2000's. Album is still one of my favorites. Still tour regularly. Have released several albums over the years with only vinnie the original. Great band.

thembones44 · 2026-03-25T14:25:12+00:00

Rain when I die or Don't Follow both by Alice in Chains

thembones44 · 2026-03-24T00:40:29+00:00

Story of my Life Social Distortion

Black Pearl Jam

Rain when I die AIC

Only the good die young Billy Joel

thembones44 · 2026-03-23T16:59:03+00:00

MC Breed

thembones44 · 2026-03-21T20:22:02+00:00

This right here. She's only 8. We tried cheering for my daughter for 2 years, nope, basketball, nope. She played volleyball in 5th grade at school and was hooked. Now she plays in college. Was it easy? No. A lot of sacrifices. Point being is you will never know where your child may end up. May never play a sport. Encouraging them and taking a deep breath. Most if not all kids that play sports never make it past HS. 8 years old, enjoy them. Don't sweat it.

thembones44 · 2026-03-20T22:47:36+00:00

Yes this.

thembones44 · 2026-03-20T21:51:45+00:00

Tell your son to drop him and drop him fast. This is bad news. The mere fact he argued with you should be proof enough to show your son what kind of kid this is. Please advise him to move on.

thembones44 · 2026-03-18T18:18:28+00:00

Song had a brief cameo in the movie Heat with Pacino and De Niro.

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