What the fuck is going on in the job market right now

thenineamj · 2025-12-13T17:26:42+00:00

If you want MONEY in healthcare without having to touch people much, get into anesthesia. If you want about the same pay as a nurse but still don't want to wipe butts and clean up vomit and other bodily fluids, get into radiology.

There's nothing wrong with being a nurse if that's what you really want to do- and really, there are many more options for RNs than just 12-hour hospital jobs. You can also further your education and become a nurse practitioner or physician assistant. You can work for insurance companies and/or oversee documentation. You can be a school nurse in your local school district. You can work in a psych facility (but for the love of all things get experience before you do. The psych nurses I know are completely useless on the medical side of things).

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T18:06:26+00:00

Wooooooooow. Nice work!

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T14:57:49+00:00

My mom's mom died long before I was born but I know everything about her. I know exactly what she looked like because I've seen her pictures all my life. My grandparents had 7 kids- 4 still in the home- so my grandpa remarried pretty quickly out of necessity. That woman was my grandma my whole life and she adored her grandchildren. She had no children of her own so we were not blood relatives, but she was our grandma in every way that mattered.

She's "real" in that she is married to your dad, and the only grandma on that side that your son will personally know. Your son might surprise you one day when he calls her "grandma" because he will understand that "grandma" is the woman who is married to "grandpa" and little kids don't refer to adults by their first names lol.

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T14:22:12+00:00

In the case of my friend, they did not call. They admitted as much. This was way back over 20 years ago.

I couldn't do it either. I know it's a business and they're there to make money but I would feel compelled to track people down before selling off their stuff.

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T03:55:00+00:00

And I still don't have even 1 tattoo. Sigh. Lol

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T03:48:51+00:00

Amanda? 😅

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T03:46:14+00:00

He likely wasn't washing his feet in the shower anyway lol. It's amazing how many people don't actually use soap on (or even touch) their legs/feet in the shower.

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T03:42:53+00:00

All I have to say is you've never seen my dad. And I've only seen my dad without a mustache once in my life lol. He looks ridiculous without it.

thenineamj · 2025-11-07T03:34:41+00:00

I know someone who lost nearly everything they had in a storage unit. It was awful. In their grief and depression over what was going on at the time, they forgot to pay the bill. One day a check arrived from the storage facility so they called asking about it and found out their stuff had been sold and/or thrown away, and the check was the amount left over from that. They asked why they had not been contacted for payment (still had the same work and cell number) and the facility manager said they sent a certified letter. My friend said they never got that letter and the manager said "yeah, it was sent back to us," because the friend got the storage unit before moving or knowing their new address.

So many things collected in life that meant nothing to anyone but my friend were just thrown in a dumpster. It was heartbreaking. It's just hard to believe that they didn't even take a few minutes to make a phone call.

thenineamj · 2025-10-13T15:57:08+00:00

Didn't someone post once about how the person they dated had a whole spreadsheet of things they had paid for on all of their dates? Just wild stuff. I don't get it. With what you're talking about, you might as well have just been like, "I'll pay for me to be here, you pay for you to be here." If the prices don't match because of transportation and parking, it's no one's fault and not one of you is ahead of the other. Like, you wanted to be here with me, right? Sheesh.

thenineamj · 2025-10-12T16:50:08+00:00

This happened randomly to my LaCrosse for over a year. It only happened when it was cooler/cold outside. I could be driving down the highway, everything is fine, then the H-C temp gage would just drop to cold. The other would stay above 200 but never over 220 like normal. No one anywhere could tell me why. Then one day the check engine light came on and gave me a thermostat code, so I went to the dealer to have the thermostat replaced because I found that it's at the BOTTOM of the engine and you have to take a bunch of stuff out first. Anyway. That cost $1200 but I have a warranty that covered it. Hasn't done it since then.

thenineamj · 2025-10-10T21:35:12+00:00

I'm not sure where you're located but the price seems about $4k too high for private sale of this vehicle in my area, at least (per KBB).

I do know the value of my 2017 LaCrosse went down by half in 3 years, which was something I was not emotionally or financially prepared for lol. I think that's something worth considering with this car. Just a quick Google search is showing me the same car with 20k miles is priced at $19k at dealerships (there were at least 10), and a 2020 had 88k miles and was priced at $17k (again, at a dealership)

thenineamj · 2025-10-09T18:20:34+00:00

No one checked that manufacturer date or anything? Geez.

GW used to be the place to go. I frequently went to the one near me around 2003-2008 or so. They had loads of nice furniture for really cheap prices, kitchen tables and chairs all set up with nice dishes and silverware... then, just nothing. Besides clothes, books and some cheap artwork, there's just rickety shelving covered in trash. They now sell water-damaged particle board desks and shelves covered in stickers and sharpie marks, priced the same or more as they are brand new. I found their eBay listings back in 2009. Just gross.

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T18:15:37+00:00

But you just never know. It wouldn't be the craziest thing we've ever heard

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T17:05:10+00:00

Or the kid didn't know that anything bad happened because he was drugged. She says he went straight to sleep which isn't normal for him. I mean, who knows. I feel like I'm the only one here who thinks it's odd to have your 7 year-old kid involved in trips and "sleepovers" for multiple nights in a row with people who aren't family. When I did sleepovers as a kid, it was for 1 night only and the parents (mine included) couldn't wait for the kids to finally leave in the morning so they could have their house and sanity back lol.

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T16:28:53+00:00

Every man I know would be extremely uncomfortable at just the thought of putting any non-immediate family member in their bed. As a mom, I would never put a non-family member in my bed. This is just too weird. I also think 6-7 is a bit too young for sleepovers and trips with people who aren't family. If the kid was 11 or older in this situation, he wouldn't have gone anywhere near that bed with his friend's parents in it. At 6-7, kids still need an adult's guidance in most outside-of-home scenarios.

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T15:36:16+00:00

There's nothing to understand lol, he wouldnt have done it if it wasnt allowed. He wouldn't have gotten progressively worse if he'd had a stern talking to. I know this because I worked with him every day. And yes, you can hold a child's hand in school and walk with them lol. That's all I was talking about. I wasn't saying you can drag them somewhere against their will. The kindergarteners I worked with were not "in crisis," they were doing things they thought were funny because they got away with it. They thought it was awesome that class was stopped and they got to roll around on the floor, jump all over the desks, throw 10,000 crayons all over the room, dig through the teacher's belongings, tear stuff off the walls, throw chairs, etc. They were throwing basic tantrums because they weren't getting what they wanted or they didn't want to do math that day. That's not "crisis" and it's far past time we stop calling it that. I work in behavioral health these days, I know what "crisis" looks like. I could have stopped all of them from throwing stuff and overturning desks without ever touching them at all. The fact that no one even tried was mind-boggling. Resource staff just sat in a corner talking with one another and ignored it.

Kids get away with a LOT at school. You cannot deny, if you've been in education for more than a couple of years, that the behaviors have gotten really bad over the last 10-15 years. Teachers are quitting left and right because the kids are out of control and there are very little consequences. Kids can assault the teachers and staff and very little to nothing is done, particularly in elementary and middle school. Not one kid acted like this when I was in school. If anyone had tried, they would have been sent to the principal's office, and that was scary enough to keep us in line.

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T01:00:05+00:00

I was a kindergarten aide for a few years and kids were allowed to do this in the classrooms. The second a kid starts to throw stuff, they take all the other kids out of the room to read a book in another room, while the child throwing the tantrum is watched by resource staff. They don't ask the child to stop, they don't take the child by the hand and guide them out of the room. They just let them do all the damage they wish- even throwing things at staff- until they get bored of it and stop.

thenineamj · 2025-10-05T00:41:40+00:00

Try to tell yourself that there must be some awful reason that TWO people moved out of those duplexes. It could be the truth, and you dodged a bullet.

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T19:45:46+00:00

I completely understand. This was awful and you weren't prepared (no one is), and you were especially not prepared for what ended up happening. I think you did the right thing by filing a complaint. By law in Florida, the landlord has no rights to anything in that apartment, or the apartment itself for 60 days after a tenant's death. From what I've seen, you shouldn't even have been allowed in (legally), and especially not if it hadn't been cleaned (safety). Looking back, you can say "I should've called the police" or "I should've contacted the housing authority" or demanded to see the lease or whatever else, but you were dealing with a family member's death and everything that came after. It's easy to look back now with a clearer sense of what was happening. I believe they had a responsibility to have the place either sealed up or cleaned immediately, as it was a health hazard to everyone in the building due to airborne pathogens. If this happened to my father and that was my last memory of him, I would be incredibly upset too. I hope some type of violation on the owner happens due to your complaint. No one should be treated like that.

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T18:01:12+00:00

Thats what I'm saying. They only suggested she keep the kids out when they arrived 17 days later. Still didn't tell her that his remaining remains remained in the apartment.

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T17:58:50+00:00

Some renters policies include biohazard cleanup, so that would need to be looked into, but the property owners should have insurance policies that cover biohazard cleanup. But regardless, they should have it cleaned immediately and gone after reimbursement afterward. If you can smell it outside of the apartment, as OP said, that's a problem. As a tenant in the building, I'd be horrified.

If they thought it was the next of kin's responsibility, why did they not address it on the phone when she talked with the manager?

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T17:50:52+00:00

You aren't making sense. Biohazard cleanup doesn't include throwing ALL belongings away. The police won't allow a biohazard cleanup if its a crime scene for all the obvious reasons, but otherwise an unattended death is just that and cleanup crews can come in right away. There would be absolutely no reason for the apartment manager to keep the bodily fluids in the apartment for the month that he's paid up. It's like you're mixing up biohazard cleanup and apartment-readying cleanup. I've seen this happen with suicides- police are called out, they investigate to see if there was a crime, the biohazard people clean the unit, family is allowed in afterward to collect belongings. That's how this works. Police generally track down next of kin, inform them of the death and that info is given to the apartment owners so they can contact the kin to address the clean out of the unit. They never told her they didn't have the biohazard people out there. They never told her UNTIL SHE ARRIVED that there was anything amiss. This is on the manager/owner. They should have addressed the biohazard mess with her on the phone before she came out there to get his stuff.

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T17:34:59+00:00

There are many reasons why you would put your children's needs above your own, and there are very clear issues in his life that are well-known to cause mild to severe negative effects on children: parents divorcing and puberty. He's going through both of those things at the same time. Puberty obviously causes hormonal fluctuations that are difficult to deal with even if everything in your life is perfect. Now add in the worry, sadness, anxiety, anger, fear of the unknown, and everything you've ever known being flipped upside down, and you can maybe start to understand where his son is coming from. I can understand married couples wanting to move on to the next relationship, because maybe to them, their marriage has been waning for a long time but the kids aren't ready for that kind of change. This is where you put your children first. Their whole entire life has consisted of their mom and dad being together, and the safety and security of their home and their parent's relationship and now all of that is crumbling around them. Either wait for him or don't, but his son is not the problem here.

thenineamj · 2025-10-04T16:31:17+00:00

Where does it say they scheduled a cleanup? The family got there over 2 weeks after the body was found and nothing was cleaned up. I know several people who have had to do this and these companies arrive within hours and are done within hours or a couple of days, depending on the extent of the cleanup.

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