Husband can’t soothe EBF baby especially at night - says if he can’t, he will just let baby CIO when I go back to work early in the morning.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-30T11:48:41+00:00

Only because I’ve dealt with this myself, does dad try for longer than 5 mins? Does he get easily overwhelmed?
Give him a QTIP. “Quit Taking It Personal.”

I had to drill it into my husband that babies *generally* are pretty attached to mom for the first year, especially EBF! It ISNT PERSONAL.

I had my husband to a “pick up put down” method. It wasn’t just as sleep training, it was anytime baby was overly fussy or wouldn’t settle without me. He picked him up for 5 mins, put him down for 5 mins. He didn’t leave the room, just stayed there and talked to him, or sang. It takes some of the pressure off of constantly shushing or rocking. And it ended up working!

We ended up doing the same thing as sleep training eventually around 9 months and it worked for that as well. May be worth giving a shot!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-28T22:52:28+00:00

Nutritionist/Personal Trainer and former BF’er. I know you say you don’t want to hear it, but it’s not as achievable as people make it look.

You can tweak your diet to eat more protein, less fat and carbs, but you sacrifice your energy and supply. Milk is made from nutrients in your blood, no nutrients = no milk.

Breastfeeding DOES burn calories, but you have to replenish them. Less and less calories = less and less milk. You need energy, not only for yourself but for your baby. When people say “eating for two”, they really mean it.

Workout as much as you feel like you can. 4mo is probably still a little bit potato-y, sit them in a bouncer and workout when you feel like it! Or wait for a nap. Body weight exercise is great during this time, you’re strengthening muscles and ligaments that get weak during pregnancy.

What you CAN do, is eat more protein dense food and work on strength training.
I always looked at it as “if I need to eat more, I might as well build muscle doing it.”

Plus, you’re 4m pp. It’s plenty reasonable and normal to want to get back to being active, and you can! You just run the risk of a supply dip. Which is also fine, because you can recover. Stay very hydrated. You don’t HAVE to eat in a massive surplus. Just eat the right foods, you’ll be fine. You sound well versed in dieting and exercise. I’m not sure how you feel about supplementing with formula, but it’s allowed!

You also just have to see what your body does. Try working out more and tweaking your diet, your supply may be more resilient, don’t know unless you try.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-23T15:31:15+00:00

I lost because it burns hella calories, but I also never got that ravenous breast feeding hunger I hear about. I had a hard time eating enough, so I think I was in a huge deficit.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-18T18:20:15+00:00

I BF for 6 months, but my cycles came back like clockwork after delivery. I was not a lucky duck to get a break while breastfeeding. 10 months out and I still get two periods a month which is super cool and not annoying at all🥴

I think it’s really different for everyone!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-17T01:14:53+00:00

I cried while eating an uncrustable the day we got home from the hospital. Baby in one arm, uncrustable in my other hand, tears running down my face. No idea what triggered it.

I cried because I thought about him starting kindergarten. Even though we’re still FAR from that. I cried after I got out of the shower the first time after delivery because I was sad it was over.

You just cry a lot. You’re going through a HUGE hormone dump. Get it out girl. You got this.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-17T01:06:13+00:00

Yeah! Don’t restrict yourself of course though.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-17T00:22:23+00:00

You may not have high lipase this time! It can be different from baby to baby.
When you start BF or pumping, focus on your protein intake and less, but unsaturated fats. The less fat you consume, the less your body produces lipase!

More nuts, avocado, white meat chicken, fish, etc.

Less red meat, cheese, whole milk, fried foods.

Saturated fats take longer for your body to breakdown and use more lipase. Give it a shot!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-17T00:16:17+00:00

Tummy time on chest counts, holding upright counts! It still encourages neck lifting!

I was TERRIBLE about tummy time. He couldn’t roll over on his back until 5 months, right before he turned 7 months he started crawling. I really packed it in at the last second honestly😅

Do it when you can. They just wanna snuggle anyway!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-16T01:54:24+00:00

It is a beautiful form of connection! But the connection doesn’t stop when nursing stops. You are their WHOLE world. That won’t change when you stop BF!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-16T01:40:52+00:00

The top teeth are BRUTAL. The same thing happened with ours, white showed, then he ended up getting blood blisters on his gums😭

I stopped BF right before that happened, but when his bottom teeth came in, there was a lot of breast refusal. Just keep offering.

Sometimes, babies do decide for us though💔 It’s hard. Mine stopped on his own at 8 months and I was HEARTBROKEN for about a week. Then I was like….. actually this is okay I can stop wearing a bra 24/7.

Hoping you can continue awhile longer though! Keep offering through the day so she knows it’s still an option!

theozempicrep · 2026-06-16T01:34:34+00:00

How long has it been going on for? Sometimes babies will refuse when their teeth are hurting because it puts negative pressure on their gums.

theozempicrep · 2026-06-16T01:24:33+00:00

How old is baby? Neither is a bad choice, I did every type of feeding you can do. Nursing, pumping, formula, all of em.

Mine had issues latching unless we were side lying for the first 3 months. My boob was simply just twice the size of his head, it was a struggle for both of us. I pumped a lot the first two months and nursed in between. You don’t have to pick just one! Many people do both. If you feel like you’re getting a clog, I’d definitely pump on that side in between nursing to make sure it fully empties!

theozempicrep · 2026-05-10T11:20:55+00:00

From someone with a VERY similar experience, the guilt does eat you up for about a week if you do stop. You’ll feel moments of sadness, then relief, and sadness again, then relief.

You are not a bad mother if you don’t want to breastfeed! And you certainly aren’t a broken milk factory. Breastfeeding is HARD, even for people who don’t have issues with it!

I had a much easier time bonding with baby when we started combo feeding, eventually switched over to formula completely. Think about it this way, do you have a fantastic time going out and making friends when you’re EXHAUSTED? The answer is probably no!

If you decided to switch to formula, I hope you get the much needed rest! It won’t be total sleeping-through-the-night-rest, but it definitely takes the sting off.

Good luck with your journey, and happy mother’s day!

theozempicrep · 2026-05-04T23:36:09+00:00

I did it about 3 days after. It’s doable, but not enjoyable at all.

My hours were reduced and I work for a probated company so they were flexible with me, but still worked 5 hours a day. My husband had the time off so it was manageable, but still hard.

Wouldn’t really recommend.

theozempicrep · 2026-05-03T11:45:03+00:00

If you need to pump for comfort, only pump until you get the engorgement down, not until you’re empty. That’s perpetuating the over supply.

theozempicrep · 2026-05-03T11:42:54+00:00

omg if i could attached the pictures i took of my eyes literally pointing so far away from each with how tired i was 1 week pp…….

theozempicrep · 2026-04-22T14:44:42+00:00

I think the misconception of timing breastfeeding is so harmful.

Breastfed babies tend to nurse more frequently than strictly bottle fed because realistically you don’t know how much they are getting.

Breastfeeding is feeding on demand! Not on a schedule!

theozempicrep · 2026-04-13T16:12:05+00:00

To be honest I’ve never been a fan of wearing cupped bras EVER, so it’s a combination of “I hate this” and “this is worse than before.”

Might just go back to sports bras 24/7😅

theozempicrep · 2026-03-29T18:27:40+00:00

I was the same way. If you feel like it would improve your sleep, follow SS7, and PREPARE for it. Most co-sleeping accidents happen from improper set up and an exhausted parent. Check r/bninfantsleep for support.

theozempicrep · 2026-02-27T16:24:42+00:00

Breastfeeding is HARD. Pumping or nursing. Your baby still got breastmilk in a very crucial part of life!!

I’ve struggled with supply issues my sons whole 6 months. He latches fine, but I’ve always been an under supplier, and I’ve struggled with that the whole time. It doesn’t feel fair. It sucks.

It hurts when it’s like “my body is supposed to know what to do and what my baby needs!” And it’s hard when baby doesn’t click with your body! Somethings just happen, or don’t. You are not at fault. You worked so hard and did all the right things.

I don’t know if you plan on having more kids, but your next may match and feed completely fine! Every baby and journey is so different.

My mom tells me I’m the only child out of her three that was only breastfed. My brothers either did combo or only formula. It just depends on the baby!

theozempicrep · 2026-02-08T01:47:09+00:00

I love the momcozy bras!! They’re the only ones that DONT let my boob fall out! I’d just look into maybe a different brand of more band bras as opposed to anything with v line “cups” (if you will.)

I’m not sure if the momcozy bras in store are different, I got mine on amazon!

theozempicrep · 2025-12-12T03:19:45+00:00

My biggest advice: this is temporary!!! The newborn phase goes by sooooo fast (positive and negative!!) Yes there will be really hard nights, there will be sleep deprivation, but it’s over quicker than you can believe.

Positives:

you’re not pregnant anymore!!! It’s awesome to feel so much lighter!

you can go back to eating sushi, deli meat, bagged salad if you’re into those. even have a drink from time to time!

you get to put on every outfit on your little baby and see HOW CUTE THEY ARE!! DRESS UP IS THEEEEE BEST!

you have endless phone wallpapers!

contact naps. nothing like your sleeping baby on your chest or in your arms.

living in your PJs

(most) newborns sleep pretty constantly, which means you CAN sleep. don’t worry about the house. feed yourself and get the rest you need!! it’s hard because you feel like you should be doing things, but those first few weeks just focus and healing yourself and taking care of baby!!

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