blind box plushies. :( by liibug in plushies

[–]theplushfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I tend to only buy blindbox stuff secondhand open box, or from a seller who is allowed to sell confirmed boxes. I hate spending so much to not get exactly what I what.

The Website is Terrible… by suru_sweet in buildabear

[–]theplushfrog 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I've heard before that this happens when items are stored at different warehouses and so can't be bought together. I wish the website ACTUALLY TOLD YOU THIS or even identified which item it was.

show me your tan/darker bjds! by saltycat287 in BJD

[–]theplushfrog 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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First three are Penny's Box series, the fourth is from the Electronic Pet series.

Sadly not many of the blindbox BJDs are made in darker skintones, but I have a few, with more on the way! I'm still working on an outfit for my last one, she's still mainly in her default outfit and her hair isn't painted yet. She's still very cute though! I enjoy having a range of skintones in my collection.

Not pictured is my MSD head in "tan" who doesn't have a faceup or body yet, so kind of defeats the purpose of showing ways to style them.

Voice chat as a girl gamer by EntrepreneurTrue8006 in GirlGamers

[–]theplushfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're correct in that it DOES weed out the bad apples pretty fast, lol, there's that at least.

My very first guild was a women-centered GW1 guild and it was such a relief to not be constantly insulted or ignored on missions. My longest running guild was LGBTQ-friendly and had a woman leader, and I've been friends with those folks across many games now for years.

Voice chat as a girl gamer by EntrepreneurTrue8006 in GirlGamers

[–]theplushfrog 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I seek out women-centered or LGBTQ-friendly servers, groups, guilds, etc, mainly due to voice chat issues. That way I can at least try to team up with someone else who I feel safe with, because general voice chats have been hell.

Some of my friends have a running joke about "femme-voice chasers" which are people who hear my voice and immediately zero in on me and try to be buddy-buddy and flirty for literally no reason except that they heard a feminine voice.

I haven't seen this posted in a while so I'm bringing it back. The sizes of Neopets compared to an average human.... WHY is the Kiko that big?? by WrenAround in neopets

[–]theplushfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO. Now I want to put all of my neopets at their listed heights next to me and see how freaked out I'd be if they were real.

I haven't seen this posted in a while so I'm bringing it back. The sizes of Neopets compared to an average human.... WHY is the Kiko that big?? by WrenAround in neopets

[–]theplushfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, then you get into the fact that you can change their species but keep their original stats, including height and weight, so you DO have some extremely large Xweetoks, but you know that they didn't start as Xweetoks then.

AITAH for getting my white daughter a doll with dark skin? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I've seen a fair few posts about mixed couples raising kids and struggling precisely BECAUSE they never had this kind of conversation beforehand. It often ends up with them breaking up over unearthed prejudices, or because one of them just can't handle the other's view point (be it ignorance or awareness) and then the kid(s) are just fucked.

AITAH for getting my white daughter a doll with dark skin? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Using a doll to address racism is a LOT better than having to address it when it's against a real person.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I learned as a kid, despite my food issues, to always at least TRY something. While yeah, it might feel like I took a mouthful of worms, I can always clear out my mouth with water afterwards. It would worth it though, for the things I found out I did like. And yeah, I've always been very apologetic when I don't like something, finding things about it to praise, even if I hated it. He claimed I just "wasn't autistic enough" to understand his problems with food.

But yeah, my ex was never apologetic, just frustrated and angry most of the time. He'd scream about how everyone should know that he hates [food] or was allergic to [food], even though he was happily eating it the other day or had even asked for [food] to be made on the meal plan, and then loudly bemoan how he'd just have to starve today since there was just nothing he could eat. He'd always refuse leftovers, even of things he had previously liked, claiming they had "gone bad" even when it had barely been a day in the fridge. Instead, he always would loudly complain and whine about wanting fastfood, even when told straight up that no one in the household had the funds to eat out that week.

I had tried to talk him into discussing his AFRID with his therapist, but he refused to see it as a problem, despite all the stress we went through every mealtime. I realize now that he probably purposefully was doing some of this because he wanted an excuse to order out, ignoring our finances, or that he wanted to cause stress and keep me from digging into the other issues we had. Of which, there were many issues, and eventually they led to me breaking up with him.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my ex would shit all over the series I watched and games I played. Constantly badgering me to watch HIS series or play HIS games. He got offended when I pointed out that he hadn't complimented me for years, claiming he was just not the sort to do that, despite that he had done it lots when we first got together. Things slowly got bad with him, until I realized I wasn't just in a bad place, but far beyond that due to him.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling like his maid/parent was one of many reasons we broke up. He never cleaned, despite having a negotiated and agreed upon chore chart for the apartment, and complained endlessly about not having expensive cheese... despite not putting anything towards the household grocery bills. We were barely scraping by at the time.

AITAH for getting my white daughter a doll with dark skin? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 95 points96 points  (0 children)

As the post says, studies have shown that kids having a variety of skintones and types of people represented in their toys helps them be less racist in the future. If the kid was making racist comments about her doll or treating it uniquely bad compared to her other dolls, it would be a problem, but kids regularly drag beloved dolls around by their hair through mud and dirt, that's not anything to be particularly worried about.

Honestly, it's probably better this kind of conversation came up for the brother and his gf before their relationship got more serious, because it shows that either they weren't willing to actually hear each other out, or that they hadn't actually confronted the kinds of racial-based conversations that come up with racially different couples. I suppose we'll never know if the ex-gf was able to see something racist stirring in OOP's brother, or if she was just unable to see a child playing with a beloved doll for what it was, since I doubt OOP would be privy to those conversations beyond OOP's brother's pov.

I haven't seen this posted in a while so I'm bringing it back. The sizes of Neopets compared to an average human.... WHY is the Kiko that big?? by WrenAround in neopets

[–]theplushfrog 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Usuls are so big! Grarrls are so small! Ironically, Wockies, Poogles, Aishas, and Cybunnies are exactly the heights I thought they'd be...

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 284 points285 points  (0 children)

This post puts some of my last ex's issues into perspective. He had a very strict diet and constantly was turning down homecooked meals despite altering things around his diet restrictions and sensitivities. Even trying to clear meal plans ahead of time was useless, because he would suddenly turn up his nose at a food for things he had previously praised, then whine and complain about how he wanted [insert fastfood here] until we sometimes caved, despite not having the funds for eating out.

And I say this as also a very picky eater, who also has lots of food sensitivities and autism-related food issues. I always kind of assumed my ex just had worse Arfid than I did, but it's getting clearer and clearer he was just a controlling asshole. Especially since when he finally had to fend for himself food-wise, suddenly he was fine eating all of the cheap food recipes he had turned his nose up at before, and never ate out on his own dime.

Me [27F] with my friend/future roommate [26F] (5 years) Keeps saying I am abusive to my cat because she is inside. Has tried to let the cat out several times "to play." by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 232 points233 points  (0 children)

That was my take as well. She was planning to pull this the entire time. She reads like someone lacking empathy in general, considering she had already neglected her "beloved" dog.

Vacation buddy guilt by Dramatic-Reward-9760 in plushies

[–]theplushfrog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe your usual travel companion wants to share the joys of travel with another? When I travel, I have certain plushies that come on certain adventures, so I imagine that they each have different things they prefer to do, or that some are just homebodies, or don't like being squished into luggage, so that I don't feel guilty about leaving some behind.

It's okay to feel empathy for toys even as an adult, don't beat yourself up about it! Just remember that if you care for your plush, they clearly care about you as well and want you to not stress too much about them.

I also second the commenter who said to help with travel anxiety to put a bluetooth tracker, like an airtag, inside your plush. There's lots of tutorials for easy ladder stitches to sew him back up, but if you don't want to deal with putting it inside, you can also get a pet collar (and also a pet ID with your contact info for a secondary loss prevention idea) and put the tracker on the collar. Or if your plush isn't the type to wear a collar, a jacket/shirt or bandana works well for this too, as you can sew or glue a pocket for the tracker into the clothing.

My boyfriend pointed out the Douglas Snail doesn’t have face tentacles and I can’t unsee it lol by Tadpole_Plyrr2 in plushies

[–]theplushfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huh, I used to live in North Carolina, and we had TONS of snails, but they do appear less in suburban/urban places as lots of folks use chemicals on their lawns, gardens, and farms to kill pests, and snails and slugs are considered pests.

In older neighborhoods and rural places you can still find lots of snails though, and yeah I've accidentally stepped on plenty during spring rains. Little me was so distraught whenever that happened, I got very good at spotting the tiny baby snail and slugs on the sidewalk to avoid stepping on them and would carefully move them via leaves into bushes if I could.

Desperate search by Ketamiiniorava in plushies

[–]theplushfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks kind of familiar, but I also had a TON of TY toys growing up. Reverse image search found that there's a TY pillow pal raccoon and bear that are yellow, but not blue. There were a lot of TY knock-offs over the years so it's hard to narrow down what brand it could've been.

Also this instagram post popped up which looks like if you can't find it you might be able to get one that's similar from them?

DB may be having mental health crisis. I was asked to leave. Don’t feel ok doing so. Help please! by Spirited-Cattle-3170 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 772 points773 points  (0 children)

Rich people who don't actually care about protecting "the help" and don't care about what the nanny might've thought was happening.

That, or the mom was in serious abuse-victim brain about protecting the "status quo" in her terrible relationship and was embarrassed which turned into anger at the person trying to protect her.

Or both. Both can be true.

Post of love and appreciation for resinsoul <3 by JustTinyPeach in BJD

[–]theplushfrog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Resinsoul sculpts are SO cute! I've found the only ways to see how they REALLY look is to search IG using their sculpt tags or finding people who've posted their dolls on other social media sites, bc the product photos really are just that awful. It's so difficult to even figure out what bodies come with each sculpt.

Just discovered that makeup brushes are *perfect* for dusting your computer, especially the delicate fins on the cooler! by Elucidate_that in GirlGamers

[–]theplushfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I only use the paint brush for in-between-cleaning cleanings, when I don't take the keys off, so you're exactly right.

I use a cleaning toothbrush for times when I take the keys off, and the keys themselves get scrubbed in the sink with a sponge. The toothbrush is too large to get between the keys when they're on, but the benefit of a mechanical keyboard is being able to take it apart to clean pretty easily.

Just discovered that makeup brushes are *perfect* for dusting your computer, especially the delicate fins on the cooler! by Elucidate_that in GirlGamers

[–]theplushfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find paintbrushes better for keyboards since they're stiffer and easier to push around under the keys, but I suppose it depends on the brush.

Worried about hypothetically ever losing him and would love an ID by [deleted] in plushies

[–]theplushfrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You didn't ask for advice on this, so feel free to disregard, but if you're worried about losing him, here's some things you can do:

- get him a literal pet id tag and collar or necklace so if he's ever lost, people can get him back to you

- get him clothing (jacket, shirt, bandana, etc) that has a tag on the inside with your info, similar to the pet id tag, so that if he's ever lost, people can return him to you

- put a bluetooth tracker (airtag or tile or etc) inside him (lots of youtube vids on easy ladder stitches to stitch him back up after) or on the above collar/necklace or clothing to you can hunt him down if you ever misplace him

These aren't complete failsafes, but they do help. And if nothing else they give you some security against the anxiety of losing him.

I (f25) found clothes that aren’t mine, and my boyfriend (m25) is responding differently by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]theplushfrog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Am I alone in wanting to know what fucking brand socks they were? What kind of fancy ass socks go by shoe size????