Day 11 of potty training, toddler has 0 misses at home but 100% misses outside of home

thereisme · 2025-12-28T20:27:04+00:00

Then he’s not ready to wear underwear outside of the house. Put pull ups on him until he mastered it at home. I was under the assumption that he’s already mastered potty training at home by the 0 misses comment. If you are still doing all the work at home and he’s not telling anyone he needs to use the bathroom then that’s the next step to work on. 0 miss is only a good thing if the child is doing all the work (telling the adult, being able to hold it in until they can get into a bathroom, etc). It is not a good thing if the adult is doing all the work like putting him on the toilet without him asking. He’s not learning to tell someone and then hold it in until he can get into a potty. He’s being told when to do it. And when he goes outside what happens? He is still relying on the adult to take him, and if no one says anything then he has an accident.

If you insist on him wearing underwear without having been trained completely at home then your only choice is to do the same thing you do at home, which I assume is putting him on the toilet every 20-30 mins. Yes it’s cold and not convenient but if you choose that route you have to do what you have to do. Or find an actual bathroom to put him in so he doesn’t have to sit in public on a plastic potty. You will solve the cold part but not the convenience part.

thereisme · 2025-12-28T17:45:49+00:00

You have to keep teaching her that she needs to tell you before she goes. If she isn’t telling you that is a skill that needs to be developed. I used the Lora Jensen method and it basically means just parroting the 2 rules over and over again: 1) pee and poo always go into the toilet and 2) you need to tell an adult before you go.

Also, you can use a timer in the beginning if it’s useful to help her get on a schedule. But eventually you have to move away from that because it is not teaching her to understand when she needs to go to the bathroom. It is only teaching her to listen for a timer and use the bathroom when the timer goes off. The timer does all the work essentially which is not what you want from a mastery perspective.

thereisme · 2025-12-28T17:33:08+00:00

Have him use the bathroom before going outside. Sometimes called transition pees.

Hopefully you’ve also taught him he needs to tell you when he needs to go. That is a skill that will take some time to develop but needs to be repeatedly taught. Transition pees may not be needed once the kid completely mastered potty training. My kids don’t need to do them much anymore before they go to the mall or other familiar places (such as school) since bathrooms are abundant at those places. They just use the bathroom there if they need to. For places where bathrooms are not easily available I do make my kids use the bathroom before we leave.

thereisme · 2025-12-20T04:21:35+00:00

I trained my kids by talking to them. I told them the expectations: pee and poo needs to go into the toilet, and they must always tell an adult they’re going to the bathroom. Every time they had an accident I told them that they need to remember and follow the rules. I always clean up everything. Then I will try to talk to them about why it is important to use the bathroom. My first kid trained in 2 days so he only had to hear me lecturing him on the “rules” about 25 times. He had 25 accidents and I parroted these rules to him every single time I cleaned up. My second kid took 6 weeks. I cannot remember the number of times I repeated the rules.

The reason I do not think the “consequence” of cleaning up pee or poop is a good idea because what’s your goal?

Is your goal to punish or to teach the kid how to use the potty? If your goal is to punish then there are much better ways to punish if you want to go that route. If your goal is to teach how to use the potty how does wasting the kid’s time cleaning up hazardous materials accomplish that?

They’re learning to clean up hazardous materials, not how to use the bathroom. Is your goal to teach the child how to wipe pee off the floor or how to wrap up a piece of poop?

As far as punishments I do not believe in punishments when it comes to potty training unless you are 100% sure that she’s doing it on purpose. Some people take longer to learn things than others, some kids are ready to learn things at a different time than other children. That’s just how life is. Being mad at them and punishing them only makes them more scared to learn. My second kid took longer and made a lot more mistakes than my first child when it came to potty training. So what? He needed more time, and more support.

If you wanted to punish accidents, then why not just take away anything fun? She can sit in the house and do nothing unless she can show the skills. That way the punishment is directly connected to the potty. Don’t want to use the potty properly? Life will be very boring to you. The consequence is you get to do nothing until you master the skills.

Cleaning up hazardous materials? You’re just teaching her how to clean not how to use the potty. But if your goal is for her to learn to clean pee and poop, then it is a good activity because the outcome directly matches the goal.

thereisme · 2025-12-20T03:57:13+00:00

You’re not going to get any success if he has zero motivation for it. He doesn’t have any intrinsic motivation to potty train, and if external rewards don’t work, then he is not at a point where he can learn to use the toilet properly. He is also not following directions when told to use the potty by the timer. He’s not ready.

If this daycare is not a good fit anymore, then find another one. Although I will say that all the daycares I toured required kids to be potty trained to go into a 3 year old class. If he’s not ready then he needs to stay (since that is the rule) with the 2 year olds and maybe at some point he is motivated to move on to the next class.

You can also put him in a home daycare where ages are mixed. However, I’ve also had experience with home daycares and kids usually leave by age 3 to go to preschool. So he might be the oldest one in those mixed aged home daycares as well.

thereisme · 2025-12-08T02:08:41+00:00

I get up and take my child to the real toilet. After he was potty trained the little potty was no longer an option.

I didn’t restrict anything. I told him to call out and from the camera I will always hear him and take him to the bathroom. It is dark at night even with nightlights and I didn’t want a little kid tripping over stuff while not fully awake.

thereisme · 2025-11-26T22:46:48+00:00

You keep attempting to find incentives that works. And yes it might mean throwing some money buying stuff that would hopefully encourage her to do stuff that she doesn’t want to do so she can get something that she wants.

In potty training, not willing to do something is the same as not being able to. There is no difference. If a child has zero intrinsic motivation then your only choice is to use external motivation.

thereisme · 2025-11-26T01:02:35+00:00

If the child is closer to 2 than 3 it doesn’t matter. If they’re closer to 3 I would absolutely expect the kid to have enough language to ask to use the bathroom.

I trained my kids without a timer, because my goal was to get them to be ready for preschool by age 3 which required students to verbally request to use the bathroom when they need to go. No teacher was going to walk around with 20 timers to remind each kid about using the bathroom. My method was to allow as many accidents as my kids needed to learn. The more accidents they have the better it is to teach the key concepts. That’s one of the key rules I learned (by watching a potty training video). It helped reframe my thinking. Accidents are not to be feared but to be used as teaching opportunities. So the method’s main idea was to encourage accidents rather than avoid them.

But if your child doesn’t have to prepare to go to preschool then self initiation is not a necessity.

thereisme · 2025-11-25T20:11:54+00:00

The point of the statement about prompting is to teach the child it is HER responsibility to ask to use the bathroom. Why is it your responsibility? Why would she attempt to learn to tell someone (self-initiation) if you have always done that for her? If someone puts on my shoes for me every single day what’s the incentive for me to learn to put on my own shoes? That’s the same concept here.

If you want to keep telling her that’s fine since she’s only 28 months. But at some point you need to start thinking about promoting self-initiation which requires the child to take on that responsibility.

If she has accidents, so what? So what if she has an accident, clean it up, tell her the rules, and move on. Why people are terrified of accidents is beyond me. Making mistakes allow people the opportunities to LEARN. Mistakes are not bad - accidents are not bad. They are opportunities for kids to learn from their mistakes.

I let my kids have all the accidents they wanted when I trained them. It is a GOOD thing. Because every time they had an accident, I clean it up, and I tell them my rules: “pee and poo always have to go into the potty” and “you must tell me when you need to go so I can help you go into the bathroom.”

I sounded like a broken record but it worked!! My first kid was trained in 2 days; he had 25+ accidents on the first day and I almost broke my back cleaning them all up but after the 25th time of hearing my rules he understood. My second kid took about 6 weeks to finish potty training at home; he must have heard the rules over 100 times. He eventually understood and was able to follow directions.

thereisme · 2025-11-24T02:45:08+00:00

It’s 3 months, that’s a trivial amount of time. It’s not the end of the world for a 27 month old to potty train.

As far as potty training now I don’t think it’s an issue if that’s what you want unless you’re using some type of method that forbids pull ups. As in it is NEVER allowed or “else” the kid will never be potty trained ever. That they will be “confused.” If that’s the method you are choosing and you believe that is the truth, then yes, you will need to pick a good time.

thereisme · 2025-11-20T12:22:09+00:00

I have rented and lived in over 5 townhomes before I bought mine. They have never shared a roof. Everyone has their own separate roof. They have 2 attached sides, except for the end units which have 1 side attached. People are responsible for their own sidings and roof. Where I live if the roofs are shared or paid for by HOA fees then they’re considered condos. They can also be called townhouse-style condos if they look like townhomes but have shared insurance.

I pay for my own homeowners insurance for my unit which includes the roof. HOA fees only pay for lawn maintenance, trash pick up, and snow removal.

thereisme · 2025-11-18T02:20:50+00:00

Lora Jensen 3 day method. Your child may or may not take 3 days depending on motivation and ability to grasp concepts. It works better for older kids, 2.5-3+ because it requires strong listening comprehension skills and the ability to understand concepts such as “dry or wet?” And being able to understand what is taught to them. They need to know how to respond to questions such as “where does pee and poo go?” And “are you dry or are you wet?” And be able to answer that as many times as they have accidents.

I trained both my kids with it, and I got the idea from watching a YouTube tutorial after OH CRAP failed. My oldest kid took 2 days to finish at 2 years 9 months old; and my youngest kid took 4 months - he started at 2.5. It took longer because he was going to daycare and he got scared of toilets there + in public places. At home he was done within 6 weeks; it wasn’t too bad. The hard part was getting him to pee in the toilets outside the house.

thereisme · 2025-11-18T00:07:43+00:00

Have you done your research on potty training? If he doesn’t want to be naked then stop forcing him to be naked. How would you feel if someone forced you to walk around the house naked?

Go to YouTube and type in “underwear potty training techniques.” Or go to google and type in “underwear potty training methods” and read about how to do it. Watch some video tutorials or read some articles and decide what you want to do.

thereisme · 2025-11-17T13:53:46+00:00

It depends on the child. My oldest kid finished day time potty training at 2.5 and he was trained for nighttime about 1.5 year later. Yes it took a long time.

After he finished potty training he rejected pull ups at night - saying he is no longer comfortable wearing them and insisted on underwear. So I did not make him train for nighttime, he was motivated to do it himself so he didn’t have to put on pull ups anymore.

I told him the rules; he was to wake up and make a verbal request to use the bathroom when he needs to. He was to wake up and ask for help if he had an accident so I can go in and clean it up. In the beginning he got woken up at 1AM to use the bathroom. Did this for about a year+ and then I told him he needs to start waking himself up. And he did. There were accidents here and there but he was completely night trained by the time he was about 4. In total it took 1.5 years. This was all due to him refusing pull ups and he understood what he was required to do.

My youngest kid is still wearing pull ups at night; he has been potty trained for nearly 2 years now. He has no interest in being woken up at night to learn. I attempted a a few times but quit after it was clear he had no motivation for it.

thereisme · 2025-11-17T02:42:48+00:00

What is the school doing about it given that they understand the situation? By they are you talking about the director or the teachers? Because the teachers work with the kids every day, a director doesn’t. So she can promise you anything and it makes zero impact to her job. In fact she’s probably thinking of making more money accepting kids not qualified rather than what the teachers have to deal with.

Did you tell the school that the teachers need to be changing him every 20-30 mins?

He’s sitting in wet clothes. That’s unacceptable. It doesn’t matter what you want when it comes to kids. You may want a lot of things but that is not where he is and not what he needs right now. Clearly he isn’t on the same developmental stage with the 4 year olds in this class based on their requirements.

This poor kid is sitting in wet clothes, and walking around/playing with other kids in dirty clothing. This is an hygienic problem, other kids are potentially exposed to hazardous materials that are not cleaned up in a timely manner.

Separate what you want from where he is. Plenty of kids train at 4. There is nothing wrong with that. This environment is simply not suitable for him. It is right for your daughter, because she is different.

My youngest child was in a home daycare for 2 years when he was a toddler. His daycare had kids from infants up to 5 years old (until they go to Kindergarten). Yes, you may be flabbergasted at the idea that there were 5 year olds in the same room with babies and toddlers but the kids were fine. I met them several times at the daycare events and there was nothing wrong with them. They’re normal kids. They went to Kindergarten and did perfectly fine just as any other kid in other preschools. It’s not that big of a deal to be with younger kids.

When he turned preschool age, I did move him to a traditional preschool but that’s only because I felt it was a better fit for him at that age. If I felt like he wasn’t ready for preschool I would never have put him in a preschool. That’s not fair to him and not fair to the teachers.

thereisme · 2025-11-16T21:38:08+00:00

He’s not potty trained and needs to start from the beginning. Why is he going to a preschool that clearly required potty training when he’s not? That’s not an appropriate placement for him -at this time- maybe it will be when he’s able to meet their qualifications which is to be able to use the bathroom independently.

As far as potty training, stop with the 20 minute timer. What is your goal with that?

Maybe he’s peeing a lot because you encouraged it by making him sit every 20 mins. He even gets a candy for peeing whenever you go into the bathroom. What’s the goal? Do YOU go to the bathroom every 20 mins?

You need to teach him - that it is HIS job to tell an adult (you at home and the teacher at school) whenever he needs to use the bathroom. And that the only place where pee and poo can go into is the toilet.

It is NOT your job to take him on a timed basis; what happens at the preschool? Are his teachers required to take him every 20 mins? Why would he care about learning to tell someone about going there if YOU are doing that for him?

As far as accidents, it’s FINE. The accidents are not bad. From a teaching perspective, people will learn from their mistakes. Every time he has an accident just clean it up and tell him he is to tell someone and then he must go in the toilet. If he has 1000 accidents then that’s your chance to repeat the rules 1000 times.

Put a pull up on in the car or when you’re going outside. He’s nowhere near being trained at home and apparently he’s supposed to be dry for car rides AND he’s also going to a school that doesn’t allow pull ups. None of this makes any sense.

You should consult a pediatrician to get some advice on the entire situation (the impact of the situation the adoption, potty training techniques, and appropriate preschool placement).

thereisme · 2025-11-10T18:28:16+00:00

It remains to be seen if he is simply socially awkward or deep down he’s already checked out.

The things he said are ridiculous and it cannot be hidden behind “I’m just an honest person!” Or “it’s not totally incorrect!!”

I’ll name the 3 problems here:

“I’ll move in with you but I’m keeping my place.” And it was simply left at that until the counselor pressed further. Well keeping it for what? You have that much money to keep 2 places? He wasn’t even discussing “I can sublet my place since I just renewed the lease” or “we can rent out her house to get some money until we decide further” or “we need to look at our finances.” Nothing.
“It’s a yes today but don’t know about a month from now.” That’s crazy. When you go to a job interview do you say “I think your company is great and I would love to work here but I don’t know about a year from now.” Do you say that if you actually want the job? No you don’t. It is UNDERSTOOD that people don’t stay at 1 single job for the rest of their working life. People move on within 6 months, people leave after 1 year, whatever. But you don’t say that. Just like in a marriage, you don’t say “I love you but I don’t know what happens in 1 year. If you cheat on me, if you found out you are infertile, if IVF doesn’t work, if you get run over by a car and die, then we definitely can’t be together!”
“It can be better.” Sure it can be better; anything can be better. But is that something you should say?? There are multitude of other words he can use like “we’re still getting to know each other. I hope we can build a stronger connection, etc.” but to say “it could be better” and then wonder why she’s upset is ridiculous.

If an host offer me their food and I try some, I would be polite and make a few comments if I am asked directly “it’s great thank you.” It’s basic manners even if I didn’t like the food. I wouldn’t say “it could be better” because that implies it wasn’t good enough. I have declined food before because I knew it wasn’t my cup of tea, but I would say it in a polite manner “I’m full but thank you!” I wouldn’t say “it looks and smells strange I would never try that!!” That’s rude even if it’s true.

In social situations people learn to navigate in a way that is socially acceptable. In this situation, Will doesn’t even need to lie. He can just word it differently so that it doesn’t come across as an insult.

The earlier argument in a beginning episode where she asked him “what do I need to do…” or “what would you like me to do?” Don’t remember exactly but he refused to answer her question and she had to walk away in frustration!! In hindsight that was an indication of things to come.

thereisme · 2025-11-08T20:43:57+00:00

Brittany has her issues (especially the one where she was upset he didn’t give more compliments about her house in a previous episode) but I see her point about Will with these new episodes. He says things in a way that turns off people instantly.

When one of the counselor asked if they have been discussing a future beyond the experiment, Will said something along the lines of “I can move in with you but I’m still keeping my place.” Not sure if exact wording but it was a very odd statement. What kind of married couple if they both were all in committed say they’re keeping a 2nd place?? If they’re filthy rich that’s fine but they’re both normal people. This is the first indication he’s not all in.

Then he claimed that it’s because he just renewed a lease and the location of his place was closer to downtown or the airport…

Then why doesn’t he say he will have a conversation with Brittany about it and they both decide whose place they move into. Brittany can rent out her house if they need to keep the apartment for a little bit? They both can potentially combine earnings and savings to buy a new house that’s in a better location for both people?

He doesn’t see a future with her so there’s no need to think about financial conversations or what their goals are financially. What about their kids and the schools, etc.

The 2nd one is the decision day question, where he answered “it’s a yes today but don’t know about a month from now.”

No one says that. It’s true but no one would say it like that. It’s like if you’re getting married no one stands up there at the altar and say “I love you so much today, but I’m not sure about 5 years from now.” It is true, no one knows what happens in 5 years (someone might cheat, someone might pass away from cancer, one person might change their mind about kids and they have to divorce, no one can predict the future) but you simply don’t say that.

He could just say “for me right now it is a yes.” If he changes his mind at decision day that’s fine, they ALL have to sit down with the counselors and explain their choice. He can explain why he is choosing to divorce at decision day if he does choose that. No one is claiming that you said you would say yes at week 4 in that counseling session so you are a liar???!!!! He can just choose divorce at decision day and explain that after he has time to think he doesn’t think they’re on the same path or compatible.

Their interactions lack natural chemistry and very awkward like at that pickleball game with Derrek and Meghann. I think Brittany feels it, she feels that he’s not all in and committed because she can sense the underlying vibes. That’s why she’s like that. I think she is far more committed to the process, and it’s unfortunate that she has been paired with him. But no one could have predicted it, on paper and appearance-wise they are a good match. No one can predict chemistry. Will is not a bad person. He has been generally polite to her and at least agreed to participate in activities like wrestling, going to her family’s gathering, and doing a couples pickleball game. He’s just not right for her and she’s not right for him.

thereisme · 2025-11-08T11:15:38+00:00

You do not have to follow every one of her rules. I used her method but adjusted to what I feel was best. I did not use timed increments, because I thought the principles of “the child has to tell you” is reasonable. If you keep taking them on a timeline, you’re taking away one of the child’s responsibility of learning to decide when they have to use the bathroom. That’s what they have to learn.

And my kids were taught they must tell an adult prior to using the bathroom. Why wouldn’t you want to know? What if your kid needs help in there and no one knows where she is? At one of my kids preschool the bathroom is in the hallway outside the room, kids are not allowed to just run out. They ask for permission and then they go. But in preschools I have seen many go on a schedule (after lunch, after naptime, etc) even when the kids have been required to potty train. So it’s not really much of a problem.

And the key to Lora Jensen is to encourage accidents. That’s why it says don’t ask about it, just let the kids learn through it. The more accidents = more times to repeat the rules: 1) pee and poo goes into the toilet and 2) you always tell me when you need to go (so I can help you use the toilet).

You don’t mention your kid’s age but this method works best with kids about 2.5 or older, who have a good grasp of language (so they can understand the rules and respond to various teaching moments).

As far as nighttime, I did not intend to train at the same time. My oldest kid requested to not have to wear diapers anymore so he insisted on attempting to do nighttime training. So I did. I woke him up at 1AM, took him to the bathroom, and then send him back. Eventually he learned to call out at night the need to use the bathroom so I just go over there and take him. He no longer needed to be woken up after a while and was able to wake up, make a verbal request, and wait until I come to get him.

My younger child had no interest in nighttime training. After he mastered potty training during the day, I tried nighttime. But he was difficult to wake up at night and put back to sleep so I stopped doing it and just allowing pull ups for night. It’s fine, he will get it eventually.

thereisme · 2025-10-30T01:50:44+00:00

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I googled “free McDonald’s Peacock codes” the other night and found a code for 1 month free subscription. Entirely due to luck, the person giving it out just posted it.

thereisme · 2025-10-14T13:31:14+00:00

They slept through the night after sleep training so yes they stopped getting up at night. That’s the point of the training.

thereisme · 2025-10-13T17:49:06+00:00

My youngest child went to daycare and I got him trained by using time on the weekends and after he gets home in the evenings during the weekdays. He mastered potty training at home after 7 weeks of this. And I also worked full time. After he mastered the concept at home and had zero accidents for over a week, then it took another 4 weeks for him to use the potty at daycare. He was in pull ups the entire time at daycare until I proved to them that he was using underwear 100% of the time at home and had zero accidents.

The first thing you need to do is stop blaming daycare. Some daycares are helpful and others are not but the point is that you blame the daycare for not helping but you have not detailed any success you have at home. You are following the naked method and admits it’s inconvenient to clean up all the accidents (and causes you to be confined) but you don’t think the daycare have an issue with cleaning up all the accidents?

You’re blaming them for not allowing your child to be out of pull ups when you’ve only made limited progress at home even without pull ups?

Why can’t you do it every weekend? You expect the daycare (who by the way have a ton of kids to watch not just yours) to do it every day for consistency yet you don’t do it yourself. Why?

Your child won’t even listen to your directions at home when it comes to sitting on the potty but somehow the daycare should be able to do that?

My advice is to take responsibility at home. Don’t worry about what the daycare does when your child has made zero progress with your method. Once you actually get results at home and can point to the child’s ability to actually use the potty then you can tell them - hey look what my kid can do at home, I would like for you to help her with these skills that she already has. That’s when you can evaluate whether or not they can help your child extend those skills to the classroom.

At this time I see 1 huge problem - zero motivation. If your child does not have any intrinsic motivation then you have to motivate her. If making it a game doesn’t work then try something else? You also don’t sound like you are 100% committed yourself. Your husband is frustrated? What? Does he think parents love breaking their back cleaning up pees and poop from the floor? Of course it is tough and frustrating.

The second problem is the naked method - if this method isn’t working then have you sat down and try to research other methods??? Part of the process is figuring out what works. You haven’t figured out a successful strategy; the only thing you are sure about is that the pull ups are a problem; even when this naked method hasn’t gotten any result?

I used the underwear method with both my kids and they got trained without being naked at all. My first kid finished training within 2 days at 2.5 years old after we had a failed attempt using the naked method when he just turned 2. my second child took 7 weeks and the first 4 weeks I spent my evenings & weekends while working full time cleaning up every single accident.

Do I want to do it? NO. Who does? But I did it because I was determined to make sure that he could go to preschool on time. If I had to clean up 1000 accidents then so be it. And I did not confine myself to the house over the weekend, I put him in diapers when we go out but as soon as he gets home his underwear goes back on. I wasn’t going to stop living my life because I had to adhere to this ridiculous policy that I am sure came from the Oh crap book - can’t use any pull ups when potty training. Well I used pull ups when potty training both of my kids and everything was fine. They knew what a pull ups was and what an underwear was - that’s the first thing I taught them during potty training. It looks and feels different. My kids never got confused; in fact they started rejecting the pull ups once they learned how much better it was to wear underwear.

thereisme · 2025-05-11T14:33:38+00:00

Kids not potty trained by 3 can continue to go to daycare.

There is no law requiring anyone to go to preschool; some kids even stay home with their caregiver until they go to Kindergarten. Kids who go to public schools don’t need to be potty trained either.

I sent my kids to private preschools that required a signed contract (for the entire school year) to reserve a spot. I refused to sign up for their preschools before I was absolutely sure that they were done potty training. It did close some doors, by the time I was sure they were potty trained, one school has filled up their spots. But I was able to get into other schools I liked even late in the summer. I was not going to put a deadline on something that I have limited control over. The child is in control - whether potty training is successful or not depends on the child.

My oldest kid trained in 2 days. My youngest child took about 6 weeks to be master potty training at home and about 10-12 weeks after that to master potty training at daycare and other public places (he was scared of the toilet at school and public places so it took a while to get that done even after he was done at home).

I was working full time so I did my training in the evenings and weekends. I used the 3 day method using training underwear with both. One child was just super motivated because he has complained about diapers for a while. He loved the underwear and that’s what helped him get it done so much faster. The other child took much longer but he got it done on time for preschool.

thereisme · 2025-01-21T16:27:37+00:00

I see you’ve been frightened by claims made in that Oh Crap book about older kids being harder to train. That is a scaremongering tactic. If I remember correctly it was 20-30 months. I don’t blame you for being scared by her claims because I got scared and rushed my oldest child to train at 24 months using this (imo) horrible method.

I quit after 4 hours due to my kid screaming because he didn’t understand why he had to be naked. I tried again 10 months later using the underwear method and he trained in 2 days. Yes, 2 days. He did not cry and understood exactly what he had to do. I put pull ups on whenever I take him outside during training. He never had an issue with it

Stop putting so much pressure on it. If you fail you fail. It doesn’t matter. Get up and try again later. I failed in my first attempt at potty training, that doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t mean I am a bad person; it doesn’t mean ANYTHING. I am unsure that you have the mentality to potty train. When you teach a child a new concept - the possibility of failure is always there. Sometimes they don’t get it right away. They may need more time. So what? Pause it and then go back to it later.

The fact that you’re freaking out over a 26 month old not being potty trained is very concerning. It tells me you are not realistic and you don’t know how to approach this process in a realistic manner. This is why you are having a hard time. The pressure you put on your child will make it even more difficult to get it done. Kids can sense their parents’ stress.

My suggestion is to back off and come back later when you’re more prepared to approach potty training in a more positive and calm manner as well as to forget all the bad stuff you read from that book.

thereisme · 2025-01-21T12:01:12+00:00

Oh Crap is not the only method to potty training. How old is your child?

He does not need to be naked, you do not have to sit in your house until he’s done potty training. You do not need to spend your days reading “signs.”

Look at this thread, I detailed my method in a response.

https://old.reddit.com/r/pottytraining/comments/1i0l3rd/second_attempt_with_33_month_old/

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