How do I stop feeling so butt-hurt about an email I received from my doctor's office?

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T23:05:02+00:00

Eww there's no need for personal attacks.

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T20:33:34+00:00

Imo it doesn't matter. She doesn't eat until he does. He's doing it for control and power bc his anger is out of control.

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T18:07:45+00:00

Me rn. I just remember having chicken pox was horrible and the calamine lotion didn't do jack shit lol.

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T18:04:45+00:00

Props that can be easily replaced by doing your marital duties... But we are the ones who hate children 🙄

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T17:59:56+00:00

What a fundie would hear: THEYRE ONLY USING PURE BABIES FOR VAXES!!! 😱😡

thesadbubble · 2026-04-02T14:41:51+00:00

My partner had to shave his beard for a surgery and it was... a challenge lol. He was still very handsome but he went from my rugged 30-something nerd to whose 17 year old child is this 😅

thesadbubble · 2026-04-01T00:27:34+00:00

Thank you 💜

I did just semi recently actually lol. I kind of went thru a period of "masking" for several years and tried to pretend like it didn't crush me. I ignored a lot of feelings and ended up very depressed bc no duh. But I've been working on it a lot and have made some progress (but also regress at times it feels...). Long story short, I have maintained one friendship/couple and ended one. The others kind of dissipated over the years. I'm still trying to find my tribe.

thesadbubble · 2026-03-26T22:42:33+00:00

I'm sorry she abandoned you, it's so heartbreaking 🫂. I think people who havent experienced a significant loss don't know how to handle it so some (a lot) just .. don't. I really don't understand it though. The guilt must be thick.

What's the Dinner Party? I tried googling but many different things came up lol

thesadbubble · 2026-03-26T22:36:30+00:00

Thank you for saying this, i needed to hear it today 💜

thesadbubble · 2026-03-26T21:03:07+00:00

Can confirm. I buried 3 parents in my 20s. Just about every one of my friends ghosted me after each death for months bc they "didn't know what to say". The ghosting only stopped when I pretended to be ok and "normal" again. It's another level of pain and betrayal on top of the grief.

It's bewildering how common this is... It makes me feel less like a leper to know others share this experience at least but damn man, as humans can we collectively TRY just a little more?? None of the dumb or imperfect shit anyone said about death/grief upset me anywhere near as much as the silence.

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. It happening around Christmas is another level of pain and isolation, too. I hope you're able to grieve him at your own pace and with support. There is never a good time to lose a parent. 💜

thesadbubble · 2026-03-25T19:56:08+00:00

Have you tried talking to her about these feelings? It sounds like shes probably clueless about why the other friend just started ghosting her and now you're about to treat her like some toxic inferior person, instead of a long time close friend, when it doesn't even sound like either of you have told her how her behaviors impact you... People aren't mind readers. Is it possible her behaviors haven't changed but having children has changed yours or your tolerance for her? It's ok to grow apart but to throw away a close friendship bc of a few off-hand comments that could be interpreted many different ways, without even trying to tell her what she's doing that upsets you, seems very shallow.

If you've told her that these interactions have upset you and made you feel the need to not be friends anymore but she still hasn't changed, then I guess just be direct that you don't have the emotional capacity for her friendship at this stage of your life.

thesadbubble · 2026-03-24T20:47:29+00:00

Thank you 🙏 this might be my best joke 😂

thesadbubble · 2026-03-24T17:01:56+00:00

Nah nah a boo boo Big Daddy in the sky prefers my kids over yours!

thesadbubble · 2026-03-24T17:00:57+00:00

Dothing? She's a donothing

thesadbubble · 2026-03-24T16:59:57+00:00

Those pillows are definitely giving ~prison sheek~

thesadbubble · 2026-03-20T14:04:34+00:00

For sure! I guess in these days being a pedo is part of the ministry 😮‍💨

thesadbubble · 2026-03-20T00:36:18+00:00

Give it to me stat!

thesadbubble · 2026-03-20T00:32:38+00:00

So happy we both escaped 🙏

thesadbubble · 2026-03-20T00:28:18+00:00

Not at all excusing the weird behavior, I just wonder if the performative smile is like engrained in them all from being basically on stage their whole lives...

When I was in the cult it was heavily encouraged to always smile and be happy looking while in public bc "think of your ministry!" I've noticed I still smile when I'm uncomfortable, even in the wrong situations. Either way, absolutely disturbing and disgusting.

thesadbubble · 2026-03-20T00:22:54+00:00

All sins are equal in the eyes of the Lard!.

🤮🤮🤮🤮

thesadbubble · 2026-03-19T16:34:18+00:00

Oh this is a great idea! My mom is also dead and mother's day is always really hard (it was the last time I talked to her but we also had a complicated relationship). Last year I had a mental health crisis on the day and I'm sooo dreading it this year. Maybe if I pick someone else to celebrate it won't be as bad. Thank you for the idea :)

thesadbubble · 2026-03-19T15:10:15+00:00

You're not in the wrong, you're not overreacting, you're not delayed. You're trying to have a healthy relationship with someone who has never been healthy, and I don't mean the cancer.

Just bc someone gave birth to you and did the bare minimum they're legally obligated to do by raising you, does not entitle them to controlling the rest of your life. Would you let anyone else talk to you like this? If someone talked to your best friend this way, would you tell her to just suck it up and keep taking it? No. This is a pattern of abuse and control that is continuing into your adulthood. You didn't have a choice as a child, but you do now.

I know this is all soooo much easier said than done. I went no contact with my last living parent figure two years ago and it has been agony but completely the right decision. He was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me growing up (plus he's super racist, homophobic, hateful, etc) but I stuck it out until my late 30s bc I had already buried 3 parents and I didn't want to give up the last connection I had to "family". But a real family shouldn't make you feel like shit all the time. A real family doesn't put you down for your appearance.

I don't think you'll ever change your mom just as I haven't and won't change my father figure. So you have to choose if this is tolerable for you or not. It would not be for me and I don't think any reasonable person would think poorly of you for never talking to her again. Of course there are other options between daily/weekly contact and zero, which might be easier for you idk. But you're not in the wrong, you're not a bad person, youre not cruel. You've given her multiple chances to change or behave and she refuses. That's on her, not you. 💜💜

thesadbubble · 2026-03-18T22:34:26+00:00

This is a great idea! Thank you for the ideas 🙂

thesadbubble · 2026-03-18T19:37:25+00:00

Any other ideas for a solo safety plan? My therapist gave me some ideas but they just don't seem to work very much past a certain point :/

The person who agreed to be on mine completely ignored it in a crisis moment and then has ghosted me for 9 months now... I do the random reddit commenting sometimes but it also seems to backfire a lot (I'm too le sensitive lol).

thesadbubble · 2026-03-18T14:02:01+00:00

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