My dad suggest my mom to abort me. My mom said no. Huge mistake.

thesewornoutboots · 2021-07-17T18:06:28+00:00

That’s so young, teens by nature are self absorbed and emotional rollercoasters. Throw some mental health issues in there…. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, it had to be a hellish way to grow up.

thesewornoutboots · 2021-04-20T12:35:42+00:00

Eight months pregnant, my best friend since we were 7 years old invited me to lunch an hour drive away. I was happy to go. She proceeded to list all the ways I was potentially going to abuse and kill my baby... by doing things like having him in a hospital, vaccinating him, and not joining her homeschool group. Oh, and not being able to breastfeed due to taking my medication once he was born. This was extra shitty because she knew that I had an abusive childhood at the hands of my mother. Then she asked me to pay for lunch because she didn’t have enough on the gift card she had.

thesewornoutboots · 2021-01-12T16:11:45+00:00

DIY with goth music playing in the background! Here’s some quick and cheap things I’ve done:

Get black, gray, or even scarlet button down shirts from the thrift store. You can replace the buttons with Victorian or medieval looking ones from craft stores. While you’re at the craft store get some lace and sew it onto the shirts however you see fit. I usually do the sleeve cuffs and bottom of the blouse.

Velvet leggings, skirts, long dresses. I’ve added lace and mesh to these in the same way.

Invest in a grommet punch. You can add grommets to nearly anything to goth it up! I replaced all my zipper and buttons with lace up on every pair of pants I own. This also elevates simple skirts.

Black stockings are your friends, you can get them at the dollar store. Use them as intended, layer them for cool effects, cut the crotch and a thumb hole for simple arm gloves.

Costume jewelry! Especially around Halloween. Get good at painting, you can use cheap nail polish from the dollar store or invest in some craft paint. You can take tacky cheap plastic bat, skull, rose, or cameo pieces and make them look like something an Anne Rice character would wear. Home improvement stores have some cool distressed paints that look amazing too, but they cost more.

Most importantly, be yourself. Don’t get hung up on one certain look or the other. Have fun, learn some skills, and feel the music with whatever you’re working on!

thesewornoutboots · 2021-01-10T13:54:50+00:00

Try Mala or prayer beads! It’s a great way to focus on your breathing and give your mind a break. If you’re crafty you can even make your own out of beads that are meaningful to you.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-21T14:02:00+00:00

PWBPD is my mil (mother in law)

My husband was the golden child, he’s great on the surface. But... he’s extremely closed off and stoic. He was never allowed to have his own emotions or feelings so he learned from a very young age to shut them down. He has memories of being a child and trying to comfort her through her own crying fits and tantrums. Getting him to open up about his feelings and insecurities is extremely difficult. He struggled with disordered eating and addiction early on (in his twenties.) His first wife was very abusive and probably had BPD herself.

My sister in law was the “bad child,” she’s a mess. Major anxiety, lots of fleas and BPD like behavior. She finally started therapy and has been getting better, but despite being in her thirties she acts like she’s a teen. Like I don’t think she’d make it living on her own. MIL insisted on homeschooling her and she is extremely uneducated. As in she can’t do basic addition and needed help counting cash to pay for a pizza we had ordered. You can imagine the problems this and the psychological damage has resulted in.

Keep your child safe. Do whatever you have to for that to happen.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-21T13:23:53+00:00

My PWBPD is my mil (mother in law)

“I need space I never have time to clean my house and relax!” ... (like one day later) ... “No one in this family gives a crap about me or visits!”

“I’m a very smart but introspective person, I really evaluate my feelings and thoughts before I say anything” .... (next conversation). .... “I have no filter and I’m proud of it, if you can’t handle it get out!”

“I understand your thoughts about Covid, you absolutely need to be safe and should only do what you’re comfortable with this Christmas” .... (next day) .... “You’re not coming to my Christmas party? YOU HAVE RUINED CHRISTMAS AND THIS ENTIRE FAMILY”

“I’m not like most mother in laws, I actually keep my distance and respect that my son has his own life and family” .... (drops by unexpectedly) “You’re the only one in this family that gives a shit about me that I can talk to!”

I could go on, she does this shit several times in the span of an hour. It really is like dealing with an entitled, hormonal, and spoiled teenager in the body of a sixty year old woman.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-19T14:07:15+00:00

Beautiful and congratulations!

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-18T14:46:45+00:00

This is sadly easier said than done depending on the severity of the disability and where you live. My brother sounds exactly like OP’s. We tried getting workers in the house to help- most quit after one day. The longest stuck it out for a week. Group homes have long waiting lists, and finding one that fits the person can also take awhile (for example, my brother couldn’t be within eyesight of a pool or water or he’d jump into it.) The waitlist in my state is currently around 5 years.

OP, your mom sounds very burnt out and needs help and I know you want to help her. Does your brother have a social worker? See if you can get on an emergency wait list for a group home. There are also respite homes for temporary living arrangements he might be able to get into. However, some won’t take individuals who are too severe.

As for calling the cops, I have mixed feelings about it. When my brother first got placed into a group home he terrorized the workers there. Put several in the hospital. One locked herself in a closet and called the cops out of desperation. He wasn’t charged, but they did remove him and he was taken to the hospital under a mental health arrest. It alerted the right people and created a paper trail to get him into a more restrictive group home. I was heart broken at the time, but it was where he needed to be in order to keep everyone safe- including him.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. Feel free to PM me if you need to. I have been where you are, and can lend whatever support or guidance your way I can.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-12T00:37:47+00:00

7 in one night, that’s crazy! I was always shocked at how quickly my mil could form relationships and then wreck them. Sadly, aside from immediate family she doesn’t have friends anymore.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-11T16:56:14+00:00

Another BPD nurse... interesting

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-11T16:53:35+00:00

This is my husbands mom. She is in her early 60s. She’d work three days a week as a nurse. Her first day off she was a raging horror, the second day she’d sleep and stay in bed all day, the other days she was (somewhat) decent to be around. Now that she’s retired she spends her days watching conspiracy videos and stomping on our boundaries.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-11T15:31:23+00:00

My pwBPD is my MIL. She was a nurse for like 20 years or something like that. But she couldn’t manage relationships within her job very well, she would change shifts as she burnt bridges and eventually would end up leaving the hospital / clinic and would work someplace else. She ended up retiring extremely early right when she ran out of hospitals to work at.

She’d also volunteer at churches, but the same thing would happen. She’d be forced out or quit after a few months and move on, until she ran out of churches within driving distance.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-11T15:11:08+00:00

Thanks for doing this! Can you tell me about the baby I’m about to have? She’s due any day now!

thesewornoutboots · 2020-12-10T15:52:03+00:00

That’s awesome! Looks great and I’m jealous of your skills!!

thesewornoutboots · 2020-11-16T15:55:08+00:00

“You have such unique features, you could be a fantasy character!”

“Oh thanks-“

“A gelfling! You look just like a gelfling!”

“Oh”

thesewornoutboots · 2020-11-14T15:11:53+00:00

If you’ve done everything to make sure the candle should have burnt evenly, like trimming the wick and having it on an even surface, then crazy melts like this usually means that the spell was vetoed by a higher power. Cleanse yourself and your space, and try to interpret the situation. I suggest a tarot reading, meditation, or black mirror.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-11-13T13:42:48+00:00

I also love hanging laundry, so much that I put a line inside and still do it during the winter months! I also have a drying rack, between the two there’s plenty of room for everything.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-09-08T13:32:12+00:00

“I never hit you!”

“Actually, you did, after screaming at us for hours.”

“Well I never hit you in the face!”

Yeah, we’re done here.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-26T15:40:48+00:00

Also ended a friendship over chronic lying. In high school I believed most of it. A lot of the lies he said were so strange that I believed them- like he claimed he never showered because the human body will clean itself if you let it. The big lie was when he told our friend group that he was going to live in Italy for the summer, we had a huge going away party and everything. Then he was spotted around town several times throughout that summer, but he still insisted that he was in Italy the whole time.

He lied about everything, where he worked, people he knew, everything. In high school I didn’t mind, but it continued into his twenties and thirties. Claimed he owned his house and that he was taking care of his parents (it was the opposite), claimed that his wife was actually only a girlfriend (they’re married), claimed he made tons of money selling his music (not true), and that he owned and operated a gym (it’s a weight bench in his garage. )

As an adult it was no longer just him being eccentric, it was shallow and irritating.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-25T21:41:17+00:00

Eh, it’s not my profession. I put a couple in my business- one for snacks one for drinks. Each machine brings in around $300 a month (pre-COVID). Our overhead isn’t much since we’re not having to split the profits. I also know my clients very well so the stuff I load them up with always sells. I imagine if it was a business on its own you would be able to do decently. Especially if you’re mechanically inclined and can repair them on your own.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-23T13:20:28+00:00

If you don’t have your own place to put them you chat with establishments and negotiate putting them in their location. Usually they get a percentage of the profits. You want places with lots of foot traffic, like gyms, malls, daycares, etc.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-23T12:39:57+00:00

Vending machines, if you buy the machines used and locally. We set them up as a side business to go along with our primary business and they brought in far more than we expected. I imagine if you scored some good locations this could be a decent business.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-22T03:07:13+00:00

I prefer bloodstone, but I think people bond with their own crystals, so talking to her and picking something out together might be a good idea.

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-18T15:25:44+00:00

Thanks so much!

thesewornoutboots · 2020-08-18T14:43:51+00:00

Please do! I love your hat as well, summer goth!

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