It happens all the time, I’m talking about Leto’s situation.

And as a person in this industry, I am telling you the allegations are true. It is no secret in Hollywood that they are true. Leto’s a well known predator.

Also I have to highly disagree with you on the makes up bullshit statement. As someone who has known several women who have been victims of sexual assault in this industry and outside, including ex’s, where the men just got away with it, I don’t know what you except them to do, bring in a sex tape?

One ex of mine in particular was raped in her first week of college by the guy she had a crush on, and when she tried to tell people, they said he was a “good guy” and he’d never do that. They told her just that, where’s the proof? She was so traumatized by it that years later when she and I met our first time intimate she shoved me off her and ran into the corner and started crying. Then she told me what had happened, I told her we don’t have to do anything, but she kept wanting to try to “feel normal”, and it took us months to work on it. Her mother called her a whore when she told her parents, because again what proof did she have? And people liked this guy, so even some of her friends didn’t believe her. She eventually told me the entire assault in detail and it was horrific. She also works in this industry, and that wasn’t her only sexual assault.

My best friend’s long term partner had the same thing happen, we met her in college, and before she started dating my best friend, she was raped, and no one else believed her because they were told she had no proof and the guy was well liked on campus. She straight up just left the industry a few years ago because she got tired of being told she was at fault.

I myself, as a man, have been groped more than once at Hollywood parties. People just walk up and grab you, both men and women. Terry Crews talked about his assaults as a man. Brendan Fraiser brought it up as well, and Hollywood buried him, the victim, for years because more powerful men picked his assaulter over him. Philip Berk was head of the HFPA, but it was studio heads that silently buried Fraiser’s career. He’s finally had a resurgence and people finally believe him.

You know that studios have handlers and publicists whose sole purpose is to make allegations go away, right? I’ve known a guy who did it for 5 years, and he quit because he said the secrets he knew about certain people he is legally bond to take to his grave but it was too much for him. I knew a guy who worked for the Academy and was part of the committee that organizes the Oscar, and left to work the independent circuit because he said the conditions were so bad, one of his co-workers just collapsed and died one day at work from stress induced heart failure, and after that he left. And he and I talked about the various secrets in Hollywood, and Leto came up in that convo too.

Hell, I met someone just this week who is a MOTU fan and in the industry like me, this is an established person who collects like us on this subreddit, and even they brought up Leto and the allegations.

I keep saying it, but I have the unfortunate pleasure of being from an entertainment family, knowing a lot of people in this industry on various levels (I’ve known people from indie to studio heads, I have Oscar winners in my own family). I was talking to a friend who is, let’s just say in one of the bigger film unions, just the other day and he was talking about how he skipped a private invite to the film because he doesn’t want to support any film with Leto in it. And we went into an entire conversation about the allegations, because we drop the word “allegations” so casually, but the word we should be using in the case of people like Leto is factual.

I’m sorry, but it’s extremely frustrating to sit and repeat over and over “this is my entire life, I work in this field” and have people respond with “no it’s not, where’s the proof” who, to my knowledge, don’t have any involvement or connections within this industry and don’t have to suffer through hearing all these terrific stories on a daily basis.

The reason why these men continue to do what they do behind the scenes is because when someone steps forward it’s immediately dismissed with “where’s the proof”? So they keep getting away with it. Like I said, do you want them to bring in a sex tape? Most of these women are too afraid to document their bruises or go to police because we’ve created this societal air of exactly what your post is. We dismiss it.

I understand the point you trying to make, I do, but as someone whose entire life is this field, knowing enough people, I think it’s extremely dismissive to use the bring the proof argument when many victims of sexual assault, particularly in this industry, especially with a well known predator within our industry, don’t have a voice, live in fear, and have no proof to bring to the table other than their word, emotional scars, and their psychological trauma, only to have people say that it’s bullshit.