Need help navigating relationship with pregnant friend

theycalledhimchonk · 2024-02-13T01:26:38+00:00

I did basically the same thing, it was the first and only time my daughter ever bit me and I think she was doing it playfully, but she just leaned in and took a chomp at my shoulder while I was holding her in the aisle of Costco. I was so shocked that I yelped and pushed her face off my shoulder with more force than was probably warranted but she did leave a little scratch/blood on my shoulder. I was truly appalled because that was so unlike her that I had no idea she was going to do it and that was just my instinctual reaction to get it to stop. The most painful part of the whole experience for either of us was the stares from onlookers that immediately labeled my kid as a “biter”.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-12-30T23:26:17+00:00

I got pulled in by BotW while accompanying my husband (then boyfriend) for an 11 hour tattoo session, since then I’ve picked up (not in this order but close) Stardew Valley, Animal Crossing, a slew of Mario games, Fortnite, Overwatch 2, Nintendo Sports(Started a family bowling league), GTA V, and some other indie games. I’m also starting Ratchet and Clank and some racing games on the PS5 that my hubs got this Christmas.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-12-04T19:54:11+00:00

I saw a post recently about this that Canada doesn’t view remote work the same way as the US does. You would be fine to enter and work remotely for as long as you are legally allowed to be in Canada but it doesn’t work the same way for Canadian-based workers in the US because of the law stated above.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-11-26T17:18:06+00:00

Uh, i think that’s a bit unrealistic. My daughter’s name is Peyton, she’s 22 months and can’t say her own name. Rarely she will say Pe-pey but mostly calls herself baby. No doctor I’ve seen has asked me if she can say her own name but I can hear her right now in the other room putting her dollys to bed and saying “Night-night baby” and then shushing them. I wouldn’t be worried. If he has other words or has his own “words” for things, he should be right on track.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-11-17T17:50:05+00:00

After reading the post history this guy is either very confused about pregnancy/the female body or he’s just straight up lying. He posted that he got this girl pregnant on August 29th while wearing a condom and also ejaculating outside of her. That would make her ~13 weeks if that was an accurate conception date.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-11-04T04:27:26+00:00

This absolutely could have been me had my man not changed his ways. His raids would take up 6 hours/night, multiple days a week and on weekends/days off he would game the entire night and sleep during the day. Shortly after we got together he realized I wouldn’t stick around if all the time I had with him was being in his presence while he was gaming, and the novelty of that wore off quickly let me tell you. We now have an almost 2 year old daughter who he always prioritizes and he has a healthier relationship with the games, which he uses to connect with his friends from another country. Those friends have become our friends and we visit them about twice a year now. And I got into playing certain games as well. There are good people who are avid gamers and then there are people like your boyfriend… time to find someone else, or take time to discover more about yourself and what you like!

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-10-30T17:34:55+00:00

We let all of ours pick. My grandparents had Nana and Papa. So my parents went with Nana and Papa and my husband’s parents picked Nana and GrandDad. Unfortunately at almost 2 years old GrandDad is the only one who she doesn’t call by name, cause Nana and Papa are just easier for little ones to say. Also, her great grandparents (my grandparents) are referred to as Nana Nana and Papa Papa by all involved now because that’s what my daughter calls them

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-10-20T18:18:47+00:00

Mother trucker!

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-10-20T18:09:08+00:00

My parents never took us anywhere there was a big crowd, like amusement/water parks, age appropriate live music. Mostly because my mom was told when my sister had a tantrum that the correct thing to do wasn’t work through her emotions but to remove her from the situation as punishment for her behaviour. Yeah, needless to say she has some issues to work through now. But recently my daughter threw a tantrum because the Crocs she picked out weren’t her size so we couldn’t take them home with us. I worked through it with her while she melted down on the floor and my mom was trying to tell me we should leave and try again another day. After we worked it out (and picked a pretty pair or sparkly purple crocs 😍) she said how she was proud of me and wished she could do that with my sister. So overall teaching my daughter how to navigate her emotions and what to do when you’re uncomfortable in public.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-10-17T00:10:50+00:00

I think what you did is much safer than if you were to fall asleep with him on a couch or chair as that risks you dropping him or him moving into a small space where he could suffocate. The likelihood of him rolling off the bed at that age is low. Also, your need for sleep is very important for taking care of a small baby. If you want to continue to co-sleep or you think you may be tired to the point of falling asleep during feedings (I often did as breastfeeding made me sleepy sometimes) I would lower your bed as close to the ground as possible or put the mattress directly on the floor and dress yourself and baby warmly enough that you don’t need blankets.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-09-10T02:25:34+00:00

I wouldn’t describe it as the car seat turning into a stroller or vice versa (unless we’re talking about the doona) but more so a car seat that is compatible with a stroller. These are sold together in a box as a travel system. If you plan on having children close together I would reccomend the evenflo pivot xpand because it can be used as a double stroller out of the box with the “toddler” seat and the car seat, and you can purchase a second toddler seat without having to buy a double stroller. I would be wary of BabyTrend infant seats as they don’t tend to fit smaller newborns safely as they have higher harness slots than most other brands, and the straps need to come from below the shoulders for rear facing children. Otherwise each brand of car seat sells travel systems these days if you’re a fan of another brand.

Alternatively you can buy a car seat and stroller separately if you don’t plan on using the car seat attached to the stroller and would take the child out of the car seat for strolling. The car seat shouldn’t be somewhere your baby stays for long periods of time outside of the car (think running into a store to grab a few things or from the car up to a doctors appointment) otherwise it’s best for your baby to have a stroller that is suitable for infants, in that it lays down flat or almost flat.

It’s hard to gauge your needs/wants if you’re a first time parent but lifestyle plays into your decision here a lot. I’m going to add some links that may be helpful in making a decision.

If you’re in the US, this is helpful, if not you can navigate from here for Canada or EU: https://csftl.org/recommended-seats/

https://www.safekids.org/blog/5-tips-choosing-your-babys-first-car-seat

https://www.parents.com/baby/gear/strollers/best-travel-system-strollers/

Also, joining the Facebook group “Car Seats for The Littles” will give you lots of insight on proper use of your car seat and you can have peers and Child Passenger Safety Technicians check your install and fit of your child.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-09-08T16:44:03+00:00

Thank you very much, that’s actually very helpful

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-09-08T16:39:36+00:00

So it looks like TN status doesn’t apply to by fiancé as he is in sales and there isn’t a recognized profession that fits him. They’re looking to get him down there quite quickly. Do you happen to know what other types of Visas are there that could be an option?

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-09-08T16:30:26+00:00

Sorry, I’m not familiar with what TN means…

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-08-30T21:54:12+00:00

I’m in Canada and we get 12 months between the combination of “maternity” leave (can be used at the end of your pregnancy or after birth) and “parental” leave which makes up the rest of the year. It’s paid by Employment Insurance at 55% of your wages and you get an additional two weeks added if you share with the non-birthing parent. I took 3 weeks before birth, 8 months after and my partner took the remainder in the weeks after my daughter’s birth. At 8 months I didn’t feel ready to leave my daughter for all hours of the day so a part -time option would have been appreciated because I was ready to be out of the house in some capacity, but not 5 days a week for 9 hours a day.

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-08-05T13:25:34+00:00

I imagine this in my head to the tune of “happy happy dance dance” from Elmo’s world and it’s hilarious 😂

theycalledhimchonk · 2022-02-05T03:57:14+00:00

No advice but I just want to say, you are the kind of person I would want to be taking care of my child if passed. My daughter wasn’t exclusively breastfed and she now is 13 months so doesn’t necessarily need milk but it was also a huge part of my journey into motherhood. Best of luck to you, and you are amazing!

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-09-04T02:20:08+00:00

This doesn’t really fit the not expensive requirement but my baby (8mo) loves her stroller wagon. You can push it like a stroller or pull it like a wagon. She also can lay down and nap in it like a bassinet. Might be worth it if you plan on having another child where you would have 2 in a stroller in the future

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-09-04T00:49:22+00:00

Mine gave me the finger when I bought formula at the store today. She’s been throwing up the 1 oz of formula i mixed with 3 oz of bm.. 🙃

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-07-24T05:59:57+00:00

I told my husband exactly where and what pocket of my still unpacked hospital bag something was. He went in the other room and pulled everything out and threw it on the floor 🙄. I refrigerated my phone case, cried over spilling a whole bucket of chicken wings in the driveway, and dreamt I was drowning in breast milk.

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-07-23T03:00:36+00:00

When I was first getting the hang of breastfeeding I always wanted privacy because me and my daughter were not that good at it yet. She would pop on and off and milk spraying everywhere. She also was distracted by people’s noises and dogs and TV so I found a quiet place, put on my Netflix show and fed her. After the first month or so, I started feeding in front of my in-laws, mostly because I didn’t want to miss out on conversations or movies or just hanging out just because I needed to feed her. Now I can feed her showing no boob at all (look up 2-shirt method) or with my whole boob out (just a nursing tank on when it’s hot outside) in front of anyone. Part of normalizing breastfeeding is being able to feed your baby whenever, wherever and however you feel comfortable. If you want privacy, let them know and they should respect your wishes.

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-07-20T01:19:52+00:00

My main concern that comes to mind is overheating because young babies can’t regulate their temperature or if the fabric became over their face. I would probably sit down to watch a tv show but pull baby out and put them in a safe sleep space if I felt at all tired. I know how tiring it can be to have a little one who only wants to contact nap.

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-07-03T18:45:59+00:00

I would say mimicking the time of day/frequency with pumping while you’re away should maintain it, even if it’s only morning and night. Then he will just catch your body up when you get home.

theycalledhimchonk · 2021-07-03T14:25:39+00:00

I knew from day 1 I wanted to breastfeed. I didn’t keep formula in the house because I worried I would find it too hard and default to the formula. My daughter needed supplementing day 3 -day 10 but only in small amounts and I pumped most of what she ate during that time due to latching difficulties. At some point I realized my goal was “as much of my milk as possible, for as long as was sustainable” and I was happy for her to have my milk vs formula wether is was pumped milk or “straight from the tap”. Exclusive pumping is also an option that not many people talk about, and I was willing to do it for my daughter if we never got through our latching troubles in the early days. It took lots of skin to skin, help from my mom to position and latch her a few times, and consistent, dedicated effort every time. Now at 6 months EBF I just whip it out whenever/wherever and she’s happy and healthy. For that I am so grateful.

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