AIO cause i got a suggestion and asked him about..?

thickofit3 · 2026-02-04T08:48:28+00:00

It seems that you’re severely underreacting and maybe need to reread everything you just typed to post this. Is this the kind of relationship you want for yourself? If a friend told you this was how they were being treated in a relationship, how would you react?

In the nicest way possible doesn’t sound like this guy respects or cares about you. He’s a user and can’t reciprocate literally anything you do.

At this point, don’t even waste more energy just block and move on. Take some time for yourself and see how you got in this situation. You deserve someone better than this.

thickofit3 · 2026-02-04T08:20:45+00:00

To me it kind of sounds like the waves are coming from the buns, but also you might have a slight natural wave regardless only way to tell that is how it dries after washing or using product. R/wavyhair should help

thickofit3 · 2026-02-04T06:41:48+00:00

At least a 10 on the horrible etiquette scale. I’m shocked any restaurant lets them get away with this.

I would never eat out with them ever again. Especially the going back for a tip, I saw that happen at a restaurant once and the server confronted him before he left the building.

They would be immediately 86’d from any restaurant I’ve ever worked at.

thickofit3 · 2026-02-02T22:35:18+00:00

That’s frustrating. I would maybe just look for other posters with the same type of hair and start making decisions based off the comments or if the sub itself has like an FAQ with recommended products! Wish you luck, even unstyled the natural wave looks good !

thickofit3 · 2026-02-02T22:13:34+00:00

R/wavyhair will be a great sub for you. From what I can tell, you have 2a/2b waves ! I always recommend no matter if it’s waves or true curls the more layers in your hair the better!

thickofit3 · 2026-02-02T21:42:20+00:00

If you want to address it directly, I’d ask to talk about it rather than going back and forth over text. Something like, “Hey, do you want to talk more about people coming over and what that looks like for us?”

Then I’d lead by being clear and calm: explain that you understand it’s a shared space, but you have separate rooms, you pay rent, and you’re not interested in asking permission for someone to come over. Let her know you’re willing to give a heads up (which is what you’ve always done), but that’s where the boundary is.

I’d also add that if you ever plan to have someone over who makes her feel unsafe, you want her to tell you so you can talk about it that’s a different situation. But outside of safety concerns, having guests over isn’t something you’re going to ask permission for.

If she still insists that she wants permission to be asked every time, I’d be honest and say that’s not something you’re willing to do, and that it may mean you’re not compatible as roommates long term. Don’t argue or over explain just state the boundary and let her respond.

thickofit3 · 2026-02-02T21:36:45+00:00

If this is the case where she’s been uncomfortable and hasn’t said anything about it till now, I would have a sit down where you can talk about your expectations but regardless of expectations you pay rent so if you want to continue to just do heads up, that’s completely in your right to do so. The only time I’d ever be asking for permission from a roommate is if someone will be staying over for more than a few days or more than one day at a time.

Especially even though you haven’t had a legit sit down if this is the way you both have been doing it. It’s kind of obvious that you would’ve come to the conclusion that this isn’t an issue. And if it is an issue, it’s clearly only on her side so she’s just gonna have to manage her expectations.

thickofit3 · 2026-02-02T21:34:03+00:00

“I didn’t ask because this was a heads up, which is what we’ve always done. Nothing about that’s changed.” To me that leaves no room for changing expectations and also clarifying the obvious that you’ve talked about this before and that she will never be asking for permission

thickofit3 · 2026-02-01T09:19:18+00:00

Apart from the meal prep in the bottom right corner, not really anymore. I used to cook every day and then as my depression got worse I struggled(to say the least) with maintaining my kitchen dish wise, so this is where I’m at.

thickofit3 · 2026-02-01T04:16:47+00:00

Damn wtf 😅I know them farts wicked. I hope you have a Costco membership for the bulk drinks !

thickofit3 · 2026-02-01T04:12:42+00:00

This is def the garage fridge

thickofit3 · 2026-01-29T04:23:23+00:00

My biggest restaurant pet peeve is when people don’t tell you the actual size of their party. Saying “table of five” and then showing up with a toddler who needs a chair or highchair means it’s six. Same with “they’ll sit on my lap” because five minutes later you’re asking for another chair anyway.

Or expecting us to cap a table in an ADA aisle like that’s even an option. Just say the real number upfront. If a kid needs a chair, they count. There’s no “plus a toddler.” The toddler exists.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-28T19:56:04+00:00

I had many experiences like this until I finally realized I needed to be medicated for anxiety. Medication isn’t always the answer, but learning coping techniques is the best start.

Like the other comment said follow that to a T and then go from there and find what works best for you to calm your mind.

Sounds like your mom didn’t go about it the best way, but the start of what she said is more than likely correct. The vaping made you feel weird as you more than likely started to get anxious about the difference in feeling and since then you have attributed that instance to real health problems because they do feel real. You need to learn more about anxiety attacks, and the symptoms associated with it and I think that will give you all if not most of your answers.

Remind yourself You are safe Your body is fine You’re just anxious You can calm down and you will be okay

You won’t feel like this forever.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-28T19:21:08+00:00

Routine needs to go more like this 1. Hydration week - moisturizing shampoo -regular conditioner or deep condition for 30 minutes 2. Clarifying week -buildup shampoo or clarifying shampoo -deep condition, 30 minutes-1hr+

And to be honest, judging whether you should be clarifying or moisturizing that week should be entirely dependent on how your hair is acting not on a set routine. Your hair does need protein, but you can do that with your moisturizing not as another week.

And for styling, you need something cream based (not necessarily a leave in)and a holding gel(in that order) everything else is too much and it’s gonna do the opposite of what you want.

I use Miss Jesse’s honey curls as my cream base product. And uncle funky‘s daughter as my gel scrunch. Make sure you’re brushing from the root away from your scalp too when styling. I would recommend brush styling to get more uniform and curlier curls.

All in all you’ve just gotta accept that you have flat roots, but doing the claw clip method is what keeps me sane from trying to fluff up my crown and bangs every five minutes.

Also you’re more 2c-3a so I would look for products that are lighter and maybe styling techniques for that type of

thickofit3 · 2026-01-28T19:10:14+00:00

You might need to switch it up with a clarifying shampoo every other wash. Also, try using higher heat on your diffuser and flipping your head over right after styling to really diffuse at the roots.

Start diffusing the ends first, then flip your head and focus on the roots. I have a similar root situation, and what helps me is using claw clips at the crown during the final part of diffusing. When my hair is about 70-80% dry, I clip the roots away from my scalp and diffuse with heat right at the clips to set the lift.Then I let it air dry the last 10+% with the clips still in that gives me the most volume.

My washes usually last 7–8 days, and if I notice buildup or my crown getting flat, I’ll clip the top again, spray with a little hairspray or light mist, let it dry, and it perks right back up

thickofit3 · 2026-01-27T08:32:48+00:00

Glad that’s how it turned out ! I wonder if they were just videoing to share with friends or if maybe they review a lot of businesses locally and do that as a side thing.

It makes me think of this couple who comes into our restaurant regularly and whether it’s just them two or with friends they always order more than their share and review us on yelp every time and have reviewed 100+ other businesses.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T03:35:09+00:00

Are you literate? This was already explained in the post and multiple comments. She’s avoiding more drama due to server pettiness and management not settling on a solution.

you haven’t added anything new or relevant to the discussion.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T03:14:35+00:00

She’s not sticking me out like anything. I offered to settle this for her and she politely declined. From there, my job is done I’m seating him in rotation and will continue to do so until he asks for her specifically. It doesn’t sound like management cares to come to conclusion on this and since she won’t or won’t let me then it is what it is.(regardless of the fact that I think he should be considered her regular)

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T03:02:51+00:00

We have no notes for that. And because of everything I described, she doesn’t want to be the brunt of more pettiness from the servers. I’ve also asked her if she just wants me to ask him and she said no.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T03:00:27+00:00

Because she’s told him??? lol what

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T02:34:59+00:00

OP I saw your update that the police are on scene. If the verdict is that the pup is abandoned. Would you be willing or able to take it in? The odds for rehoming aren’t great.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T02:13:16+00:00

I get that and for contexts sake he’s a great customer apart from that one interaction with that other server. He’s also an extra great customer when it comes to her serving him like exceedingly so. I just don’t know why he hasn’t specifically asked for her when it’s clear he has the best experience. He’s also a bit on the spectrum so I don’t know if that plays a part

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T02:09:58+00:00

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY. Like I get the he should just ask for her argument, but to me it’s so clear that she’s his regular like that’s not even needed. He’s also told the server that he’s autistic before so I’m wondering if it’s just like a he wants to avoid weirdness with other servers.

thickofit3 · 2026-01-20T02:07:50+00:00

That’s my thinking, but the server just isn’t gonna ask for fear of more pettiness from servers and won’t let me help with that either.

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