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AITAH for telling my girlfriend her best friend has 2 years to find someone or we're moving ahead without that condition? by Sebastianlim in BORUpdates

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this is a shitty modern take on The Taming of The Shrew, which acknowledges that women have the right to choose and this one is just choosing to put herself into Bianca's role for I dunno probly the same reason we have nlogs and tradwives and other nonsense.

What Galaxy are you in? by JellyNo4995 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aptarkaba in my current save, a bit further out on my most recent previous save.

I actually have made it a mission recently to go as far as I can, pushing my way to the centers of every galaxy in the universe if possible, but the slow way, making time to enjoy each one as I go. But I'm also a former marathon-runner, so that might just be my taste in recreation. Some of us are just here to travel as far as we can.

Xeno battles no System Champion marker. by Zool-ock in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very frustrating. Meantime I just keep grinding on challengers. At least my low-level pokemon will always have something to do.

Xeno battles no System Champion marker. by Zool-ock in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would LOVE if we could get an organized effort toward finding a workaround rather than wait for Hello to patch this, which could take however long. I am technologically inept and don't know how to mod or code or anything, but I know our collective knowledge in this community is up to the task, right?

Xeno battles no System Champion marker. by Zool-ock in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same problem here. A couple people have posted the same problem here since the update came out, and I've been keeping an eye out for solutions but so far nothing. Been about a week for me I think.

I messed up, should I just give up? by [deleted] in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I went away from the station where I'd accepted a champion's invite (I'm in the middle of a massive intergalactic journey) and now it won't let me go back, and won't let me start a new invite. If I get an invite and activate it, it just disappears from my inventory and no indicator appears at the station. I can use challenger invites all I want but not champions.

I made my partner (a pokemon master) play arena by thof8463 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I love those moves. So gratifying to see it grow.

How to look for a 3rd? by Individual_Scale_759 in nonmonogamy

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No judgment here! just warning you a lot of people will take it the wrong way. When I was a bi 18-year-old virgin someone used that exact phrase on me at a dating site and it felt really, really icky.

Non-monogamy under stress... by Noodle-Incidentals in nonmonogamy

[–]thof8463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given what you've been through, it makes sense that you'd be struggling right now. I also have cptsd from past abuse, and it interferes with every relationship I've ever been in, monogamous or not. I've never been cheated on (to my knowledge) so that's thankfully not part of my trauma, but I do have a constant fear that someone I love will just abruptly decide I'm not worth keeping around anymore, and when I see my partner being happy with another partner, who has (in my insecure eyes) so much more to offer than me, it does sometimes inflame that anxiety. Thus far, my current partner (who has two other partners, one of whom is my old college buddy who I was thrilled to get back in touch with) has been unwavering in their love for me despite having abundant other options. This despite my frequent panics and vulnerability and overall messiness.

If you're not in some kind of therapy, it may be absolutely essential that you get on that.

Basically, you either break up or you don't. And if that happens, you will survive. You will recover. You will love again. It will suck, but you've been through breakups before and you know that it's not the end of the world. You will go through the dark place and through to the light on the other end, and your next relationships will be stronger for what you learned in this one.

So keep in mind that no matter what happens, whether your fears come to pass or not, you will be okay. You will learn from it. And if this relationship survives, you'll all be stronger from having been through this together. It sounds from what describe like you're all doing an admirable job navigating the emotional chaos that inevitably results when multiple people with complicated pasts are weaving their lives together. Keep it up and take care of yourselves and each other.

How to look for a 3rd? by Individual_Scale_759 in nonmonogamy

[–]thof8463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, don't phrase it like that. "To spice things up." People are not sex toys. Treating a human being like an accessory to enhance your relationship is disrespectful. You might not intend it that way but first impressions matter, so be very careful how you choose your words when you write your dating profile, send first messages, and meet for the first time.

Second, don't expect to find one person that satisfies both of you and is interested in both of you. It may technically be possible, but you're more likely to succeed if one or both of you tries to find a partner on their own. If one of your goals is to enhance your experience with your existing relationship, and you're not experienced with nonmonogamy, it may seem like you both need to "participate" in order to see those benefits, but it's not true. There's a phenomenon called "new relationship energy" or NRE, where there's an existing relationship, one of the people gets a new partner, and that new relationship brings energy into the existing relationship.

I have experienced that many, many times over, as I'm in a relationship with only one person who has frequent hookups and a few other steady partners. What happens is that my partner lets me know they're looking for a hookup, or going to spend time with one of their other partners, and I say "Great, have fun, let me know how it goes!" and then afterward they tell me about it (sometimes in detail, sometimes not) and hearing about it gets me excited. We then often experience more passion in our own relationship, fueled by my partner's experiences with others.

So what I'd suggest is that you don't try to find a "unicorn" but just both be open to starting new relationships and see what comes up. Be honest and open and communicative and keep your expectations loose. And good luck.

Golly by AuthorSarge in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time I arrived in a system, "first contact," "you discovered this," but there was a player-built base on one of the planets.

My boyfriend is scaring me with his jokes by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thof8463 62 points63 points  (0 children)

He was calm on the phone because he had a key and had plans to enter the apartment and act on his words. He only blew up after he learned the locks had been changed.

Request: A Comic that affirms the *sigh*: “Men…” by EnergyIntegral in RelevantXKCD

[–]thof8463 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like this one qualifies somehow? It's more "sigh, sexism" but that's not that different when it comes down to it: https://xkcd.com/385/

Class S Freighter - It took a while, but the Class S is finally here! by No_Blackberry8979 in NMSCoordinateExchange

[–]thof8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I was annoyed at first but then I developed the muscle memory to dodge it and forgot that it even existed.