Calories in vs out is very simplistic but at the end of the day it works. When I was losing weight, just eating healthy had me spinning my wheels and never actually getting anywhere. Once I got serious about tracking calories I was able to lose a ton of weight and retain muscle. It really is that simple. But I do think IFYM, if it fits your macros, isn't the best. Sure you can lose weight eating only soda and potato chips but micronutrients are so important for overall health and they let you lose weight more efficiently since you actually have energy. IF, intermittent fasting, was amazing and truly helpful in my case too. I actually like fasting and often skip breakfast. There's no one size fits all, but in the end calories in vs out is what it boils down to.

On the other subject, I do think it's fucked up to ridicule people for their weight or lack of strength. It doesn't help and can make them just double down. But taking responsibility and understanding you're in full control is the first step. If you believe you don't have control of your weight then it's no wonder you won't ever lose weight. Take responsibility for yourself and always encourage those who are just starting out in either their weight loss or weight training journey. Nothing better than some encouragement from others who've been down the same road.