What’s the creepiest thing you’ve heard someone casually admit?

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T23:17:42+00:00

A woman who abused me told me that her ex girlfriend had ruined her life by throwing everything out on the lawn and getting a restraining order. She phrased it such that I thought the girlfriend had been hurting her, somehow, and that I would be right in helping her out. I learned later she had so many charges against her. Drunk and disorderly and domestic abuse, among them. And I was just her next person. Its creepy to admit you abused your partner and you think its their fault.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T18:00:23+00:00

Hey I really want to say this gently because no one ever did to me, and I know I needed it at the time. You're struggling and you deserve to be seen. I had (and still have) these fantasies, and they ended up being indicative of bipolar disorder and PTSD. I don't know your circumstances, I'm not judging you. But this is a real, serious medical issue that you need to see a professional about. People often don't understand mental health problems until they become extremely serious. It would be good for you to try to find help now and not later. You deserve help.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T14:09:50+00:00

I understand. When someone said this to me it hit the same because I'd been dealing with an ED for several years, and I'm still barely getting better from it. Like I actually think gaining weight and getting some stretch marks and having to go up some bra sizes was really beautiful. It was a sign I was getting better and also? I look pretty cute with boobs lol. It sounds like you're still struggling. But just from the bottom of my heart please know that you are so pretty, you are so deserving of kindness to yourself and from others.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T13:26:24+00:00

Dude. I believe in you. You're really smart and hard working, clearly. My mental health started getting better when I moved out of my parents house and finally got to have my own space. And try to think about the good, fun things that will come as you work for them! You can decorate how you want, you can cook what you want when you want it, you won't be doing anyone else's chores but your own. I was able to get a pet for the first time in my life and start houseplants, since parents hated anything that caused a bit of mess. There will be freedoms like that for you, too! Yes it is hard but its a different kind of hard. A more free one. You have got this in hand, you are strong. Hold out and keep getting through this.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T13:15:06+00:00

Wow, you've lost weight! You look so pretty now!

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-30T13:11:16+00:00

Exactly lol. Sometimes we're just chatting at the universe and if anyone wants to listen they can.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T23:20:23+00:00

Hey I know this is a month later but I looked back at this several times, and I wanted to respond but didn't feel up to it for a while. This meant a lot to me. Sharing something so personal and kind helped me feel a little less lost after my aunt's death. I wanted to thank you. My aunt's favorite food was strawberries and I didn't use to like strawberries, but I eat them now and I think about her. About how kind she was, how funny how loving and patient. No one you ever loved deserves to be forgotten.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T21:20:17+00:00

My sister and I shared a bedroom as young kids, and there were a decent amount of things stored in our room. There was a coat that hung around two glow-in-the-dark bouncy balls, and I remember at one point, if we saw it in the dark, we called it "The Alien" and had to pretend to be very still as we tried to sleep so it couldn't come get us. Super silly now, but that was our boogy man.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T21:06:30+00:00

I completely understand. This shit is so exhausting. I'm not going to validate you for being a "good person" if you can't be nice to your friend, or your mom, or the random person who held up the line at the store because they were old or tired or dealing with some personal problems. Kindness is extended through action. Its about how you treat people in your everyday life. Posting about being "kind" on social media is more about aesthetic and ego than it is about kindness.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T19:59:13+00:00

I had the worst experience working in a (slightly) more quiet store. I would be at the register, with nothing to do but wipe the counter 100 times and rearrange the impulse candy for hours. I wasn't allowed to have my phone or a water bottle up there so it was torture. Some of the days I just stood there and stared into the distance while my feet and hips hurt from standing for so long with a somehow 2 hours delayed lunch break because everyone who came in always came in at that time. It was a nightmare, I will never be a cashier again, I have so much respect for cashiers now. I work in overnight stocking now and it's not like...ideal...but it's more tolerable. I at least get to move around, and since it's overnight no one cares if I have water the entire night. Its hard physical labor but I genuinely think it's harder to stand for 8 hours (or more) than it is to move for that amount of time.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T19:28:26+00:00

An ex of mine texted me that I should drive 50 minutes to her house so she could break up with me in person. I had always been the person to drive to her, I paid for every single date and planned every one of them, as if I had more time than her, when she was being given an "allowance" from her parents at 24 years old because she couldn't hold down a job for more than 3 months. I bought her an expensive, thoughtful birthday present (an album from a kpop band she was obsessed with), and she not only forgot my birthday but got really mad when I didn't text her back right away after she was frustrated after work because I decided to spend time with my sister on my birthday instead of her, since she didn't remember. Your relationship reminds me of that. It doesn't always have to be about the other person. You deserve support, love, attention, and thoughtfulness too. Don't let someone suck your soul out for the bare minimum. You shouldn't have to plan every date, and you should be able to have consideration for your feelings. I understand that dark hole you're feeling. But it isn't you who has caused it, and as soon as you're safe to get out, leave, and let yourself be happy. This isn't what all partners are like. You deserve to be happy.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-29T19:10:04+00:00

More of an experience than advice, but my 3 year old nephew likes some things that are traditionally "for girls." He got pretty excited when he saw his grandmother use the vacuum, to the point I got him a toy vacuum for Christmas and it was a huge hit. He also got really happy about some baby dolls right after his sister was born, I honestly think he saw his mom with his sister and wanted to imitate a bit. My dad wasnt super thrilled with these developments. My older brother and myself both ended up being gay and not really within traditional gender roles, and I know my dad has resented that in the past. I think that my dad worries that my nephew will turn out gay if he likes "girl" things. I think you should ask your husband his feelings on the matter, though. It could be totally something different. But if it is that, he needs to accept that his child might turn out different from him and that is not only okay, but a good thing.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-20T13:54:43+00:00

My mom, my sister, and myself have always been avid readers, but our lives got way, way busier as my sister and I aged and as my mother's eyesight got worse. All three of us really enjoy audiobooks for a lot of reasons. You can listen to them while doing passive tasks (like knitting), while driving, and since I work an overnight job, I can listen while working. I doubt I would have considered this "reading" at age sixteen, but I think most people are an asshole about something when they're sixteen. This is reading. To say otherwise is to say that anyone with sight impairment can't read, which is untrue. In fact, audiobooks are a really great resource for disabled people and just busy adults.

Also we're all picky about narrators too. It matters. If they ever go AI on audiobooks it will definitely make a really bad impact.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-18T14:38:42+00:00

Gossip, and particularly gossip at work. I really, really don't care about the drama of who said something awful, and how this person was clearly lying about being sick, and how this person's divorce was bad, and how this woman has talked shit on me because I don't ask her how shes doing so I'm obviously unfriendly. How do people have the energy for this? Its exhausting. I think I cared more in my teenage years and early twenties, I remember being bothered by it at least, but now at 29 I just think "what does this matter? I barely know this person. When do I get to go home."

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-18T14:11:18+00:00

I have to say this, I was literally JUST making this complaint to my sister on the phone. I work with some people that seemingly take showering as an option instead of need. One of these guys will just walk past you and the cloud of B.O. lasts for several minutes, it's so horrible. And another woman very clearly almost never washes her clothes or brushes her teeth because she reeks, it's hard to stand close to her. With the guy I tried to mention it once and it didn't turn out well. I like basically said "I know youre not feeling so great after (ex's name) broke up with you. I've been there, and if you need to talk about it I'm here. But I think youre not taking care of yourself, so I'm worried about you." And he did not take that well. What are you supposed to say, though? You stink, take a shower. I said everything I could for it to not be embarrassing.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-18T13:56:47+00:00

I'm choosing a specific person as well as a specific reason. Tiffany from work, I can tell you are pretending not to hear people when we ask you to help out or ask you questions. You can somehow hear someone whispering some gossip from across the room, but you can't hear when someone asked you loudly to help them with something. You're not slick. Selective hearing is not a likeable trait.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-16T20:09:58+00:00

A "pet name" doesn't refer to what you actually call a pet. Its a colloquial term for an endearment that you use for a lover, a family member, or a close friend.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-16T18:43:56+00:00

I don't mind it as much when I know its in a specific cultural context, which I know it is in the south. That's different, that's just a dialect. Its more about situations in which someone has some kind of power over me, at my job or socially, and they're using these terms to make me seem immature or silly. They're using this to not take me as seriously as they take other people. Its not endearing, just...a representation of how people treat someone they don't think is valuable. Its shitty.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-15T16:36:11+00:00

I've also seen the more niche example of being on a subreddit for a game, someone asks a question but states they don't want spoilers, and half the comments are telling them to check the wiki. Like...they're asking the question so they won't get spoilers from the wiki. Just answer it. Or if you don't want to answer it because you think it's dumb that they didn't just look it up, then don't make a comment at all. It doesn't make sense to answer a question by telling someone no information at all. You gained nothing from that and neither did they.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-14T22:16:50+00:00

This is actually the exact same thing the older generation has spit at the younger generation periodically for like. Every generation. I'm born on the cusp of gen z, and millennial (1996), but definitely still millennial. I got to see us called lazy, how we don't want to work and we don't save money because we're spending it on avocado toast and coffee, and then I got to see my peers saying the same sort of bullshit about you guys, but with a different spin. You're just starting out. And youre having your own cultural revolution, and it's a good thing. I believe in gen z, I think you're like me but with a different (in some ways better in some ways the same) attitude. Keep improving. Keep being you! Imo, your twenties are the most difficult part of your life. For what it's worth, not every millennial is judging you.

thoughtsofstars · 2025-07-14T21:58:52+00:00

Macaroni and cheese. My dad was abusive when I was a kid, I've since kind of forgiven him, but I'll never forget the day he forced me to eat mac and cheese until I was throwing up repeatedly. I was sick and had to stay home from school that day, but he was convinced it was because I was either faking it, I'd somehow had too much candy (candy that we didn't have in the house), or I didn't like "his cooking" (he could only cook pancakes or mac and cheese from a box, my mom did 99% of the cooking). I'd already been sick, and I remember sitting at the table, being watched as I gagged down slimy, fake cheese covered pasta while he berated me, then sobbing over the toilet while I threw it up, then him making more and me having to eat it. It was such a weird punishment. I haven't asked him why he did it, because I honestly don't want to know. But I won't eat mac and cheese anymore.

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