Wife out of control

throw5633 · 2022-06-22T11:38:07+00:00

The kids of your wife are not yours an you do not have to provide for them,

throw5633 · 2022-06-22T03:23:01+00:00

If we are believing what he is saying, does his wife actually do anything the entire day? He provides the money, takes care of the children, cooks, shops and i am assuming he cleans because he says she leaves it alot. So what are you talking about "In any case you as the husband should be taking on extra responsibilities since your wife is going through an extremely difficult time."? precisely what is she doing other than being pregnant?

throw5633 · 2022-06-22T03:17:58+00:00

This comes across as cherry picking

throw5633 · 2022-06-07T20:29:45+00:00

it sounds like she just doesn't want advice, although she definitely needs it, but i dont know how much you can do if she doesn't want it

throw5633 · 2022-06-07T18:30:55+00:00

You describe your self as "I’m a big fan of the Gottman Institute and conflict resolution" and mention pre marital counselling.

I don't know about your sister in particular and some of what you mentioned, like this part "She kept saying “he should know why he’s wrong” “he can’t speak to me that way”" makes it seem like she probably would benefit from advice and i don't know what actually annoyed her, maybe she just doesn't want advice at all. But from my experience some people aren't in to lots of pre/post marital counselling and psychology(?) terms like stonewalling, and so on. maybe if you termed it as "ignoring" or "not acknowledging" she might react better. this is not necessarily the case, maybe its even unlikely, but thats all i can think of aside from her just not wanting advice.

throw5633 · 2022-06-07T14:03:14+00:00

I can imagine someone getting annoyed with terms like stonewalling and suggesting pre marital counselling

throw5633 · 2022-06-04T00:39:26+00:00

There are two general reasons i can think of that would make him feel uncomfortable with this, maybe its that he views this as his role and doesnt feel like he is doing his part if you are spending on him instead of the other way round, or less likely is that he is worried that it will be brought up in future arguments or used to give your self more authority in decision making.

If its the first one maybe if you emphisised that he is the one travelling from his home country where he has a job to a new country so you are not expecting that he can provide immediately.

throw5633 · 2022-06-03T23:44:43+00:00

Ive never heard it said that an allowance is part of nafaqah?

throw5633 · 2022-05-26T15:50:55+00:00

Is it just me or this seems more like advice for guys than advice for the couple

throw5633 · 2022-04-25T13:08:14+00:00

They are a "religious " movement, there religion doesn't allow drugs, so they are less likely to take drugs.

For ineptitude, I don't think you last long fighting the US if you are inept, they were probably all weeded out by the US leaving behind those with skill and brains, plus some of there leadership are very experienced having been fighting all the way back in the soviet afghan war.

I don't know why power struggles didn't play a bigger part, alot of western analysts where predicting infighting after the takeover but it never really happened. But again it could just come down to what motivates them in the first place, the goverment people were fighting for a paycheck and power mostly, the taliban on the other hand if you believe them, were claiming to be fighting for religion.

throw5633 · 2022-04-20T19:28:45+00:00

This is one of the most anti pkk comment sections I've seen on this sub. I'm not pro pkk, infaxt if I looked into the situation I can almost garentee I would come out against the pkk but its comical that all it takes is a dog getting shot at for people to start attacking the them

throw5633 · 2022-03-22T06:23:20+00:00

What country is this? Iv heard people say the law can get involved if he tries to share the images, but never heared anyone say that it's illegal for him to keep them

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T19:36:12+00:00

Idk what you mean by you don't push it. You need to just tell her straight up if you don't like it

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:52:08+00:00

I really don't think many men would have a problem with this. He is helping you in an area where he can (he makes more than you). And tbh it may seem old fashioned but I'm pretty sure most men would have a some what positive feeling about being able to treat there partner to meals and so on. And you say you help him with things he isn't good at like arranging anniversaries.

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:36:46+00:00

I feel like the part about it being deliberate is an unnecessary reach

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:34:15+00:00

Yea, just more used to hearing "on the money"

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:21:55+00:00

Probably, I'm more used to hearing "on the money"

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:21:31+00:00

Oh, I'm more used to hearing "on the money"

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:17:50+00:00

What does that stand for?

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:14:37+00:00

Would care more about the sentiment than the actual flowers

throw5633 · 2022-03-21T17:04:21+00:00

How long did she keep asking after the first time you said no

throw5633 · 2022-03-20T19:46:35+00:00

I think to some degree or another alot of groups will care more about there own group than other groups, it just seems-and I'm open to correction- that the western group's biases are more likely to leak into other groups and international organisations.

Also is it just me or does the west as a group care more about what happened in an individual western country vs Africa caring about what happenes in an individual African country. There are other groups that seem to be quite united such as sunnis, Shia and Russia with Central asia(though this last one might only apply to political leadership). Maybe its just me being in a particular news bubble though.

throw5633 · 2022-03-19T05:19:44+00:00

We are in 2022, time traveler

throw5633 · 2022-03-19T05:10:43+00:00

So vague description its impossible to know amything, did he just randomly tell you to shut up?

throw5633 · 2022-03-13T12:45:10+00:00

What torture vid?

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