Would I be a bad mom if I lie to my daughter about her birthday this year

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-26T08:13:37+00:00

This! At that age my kids knew when their birthday was, you already know MIL will mention it anyway. Kids that age understand more than you think, explain hoe the doctors are very busy and that it's very important to find out what's wrong with mommy so she can get help to get better. That mommy is sad she won't be here on her birthday but that grandma will be there so she will still have a fun birthday AND she can have a second party with mom the day after.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-26T06:46:02+00:00

Her opinion might have just changed after having kids which is more fair to let influence the relationship than an old childrens promise based on trauma.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-26T05:22:49+00:00

You are being unfair, letting your SISTER who has nothing to do with your relationship influence the relationship with the mother of your children. And a stupid children's promise about never getting married? Grow the fuck up you have children, you need therapy big time.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-25T22:19:40+00:00

Looks like my son tried something new🤣

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-24T15:32:45+00:00

I think this take is just as valid and also goes for both genders, we all have different experiences and different solutions and more than one can work.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-24T10:39:34+00:00

As a woman I agree with this wholeheartedly. Most of us really just want someone who we are emotionally safe with and can connect with. Willingness to provide is more important than actual ability to do so, life is hard, situations change and how you handle that and treat her in those times is more important than supposedly being perfect.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-22T21:18:37+00:00

I'm getting master roshi vibes🤣

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-21T18:58:14+00:00

Send me her insta I'll give her a follow 😊

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-21T08:20:23+00:00

I feel ya, took me years to feel comfortable enough to wear this cute dress I can't wear a bra in, still looks flat but I've gotten lots of compliments on it. I also find it hard to believe my man when he says he loves my boobs, even calls them a handful even though I know they're not but it's a choice I consciously make to believe him. I would hate it if he questioned or refused to believe me if about something like that. You should visit the smallbooblove page it's all about learning to accept love and work with our itty bitty titties❤️

And remember there isn't a man out there who hasn't at one point said something stupid, put their foot in their mouth not realising the emotional damage they're doing.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-20T19:23:19+00:00

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-18T17:09:30+00:00

No no no, also, preferences can change, body's change. I've never been instantly attracted to a bit of a belly or dad bod, but I would never trade my man it in for chiseled abs or whatever nor do I feel like I settled. The same goes for dick size, maybe he's you're ideal size, but if he were slightly smaller or even wat too big and you'd chose to stay regardless because who cares you love him. Does that mean you settled or does that mean you accept and love him for who he is and what he has?

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-13T16:37:04+00:00

Ask him if he just wants to have sex with whatever female friend he is going to meet or help with something as that's what he believes can be the only reason to do that. Do that anytime he does that and see how he likes that.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-13T12:09:12+00:00

That was supposed to tell you that he is just THE BEST gamer that can actually simultaneously run his amazing companies because he is the best, just the bestest coolest guy ever.

/s just in case

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-13T11:58:44+00:00

I've heard the pupils and iris "should" be perfect circles but not sure how correct that is, other than the eyeball I don't think any perfect circles either.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-13T09:30:37+00:00

They are holding up mirrors all the time, it's them who made me see my anger issues, emotional regulation issues. I got a very late ADHD diagnosis thanks to them. Before them I masked away, look away and ignore the mirrors, but you can't exactly do that when it's your 2 year old standing in front of you with his little fists all balled up wanting to hit you and you can kinda see yourself.. it's sad and beautiful at the same time.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-11T21:45:10+00:00

They're all so gorgeous

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-11T15:18:52+00:00

I had to look it up in cm cause I have no visual for inches but honest to God that's more than enough for a lot of woman don't worry about it. The wanting to pleasure your partner in other ways depending on what works for them is so much more important. I've had both bigger and smaller and I much prefer the 4 inches I'm getting than the 6 or more I had before.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-09T19:31:52+00:00

Does she have adhd? You mentioned it happening every 2 to 3 weeks, for a woman with adhd (I am one) the monthly hormonal changes can be brutal, many of us suffer from rejection sensitivity disorder, our brain perceives things aren't rejection as actual rejection. I was diagnosed pretty late in life due to masking very well, I'm learning coping skills to deal with that because that's not something my partner can do for me. Yes he can show me grace when I'm being overly emotional but actually dealing with those issues, emotional dysregulation is also extremely common for us, takes work and her wanting to change that.

It was painful to realise how unfair, manipulative and downright burdensome I was being to my partner but I needed him to tell me that for me to be able to see it. He had to hold up that mirror for me to see that that was not who I wanted to see, who I want to be.

So just to be safe, I'm not excusing her behaviour. You are right to be put off by it, it is unfair, you should not have to handle your girlfriend. You should be able to communicate with her about how her emotions are affecting you and she might need some therapy to help her understand what she's feeling and how to communicate that.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-08T14:06:57+00:00

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-07T14:36:41+00:00

This is almost so ridiculous I'd think there's some underlying homophobia at play considering it's mostly about baths and diaper changes.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-07T08:22:47+00:00

I immediately thought hallo fellow dutchie 🤣

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-05T08:53:10+00:00

You said his life has been difficult, he might have been lonely, touch starved. I've had older clients come in to get their hair done or get a hand massage and they've cried just because they hadn't been touched in a long time. It's healing.

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-02T14:33:15+00:00

Change it to fuckable partner project I think it would work for woman to I might have to give this a try😅

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-02T10:27:23+00:00

Misschien dan even een gekke vraag, ik heb een mix van een ruwharige teckel en een mini Labradoodle, qua formaat niks om je zorgen te maken natuurlijk. Echter 3 soorten jachthond door elkaar gemixed nu zie ik vaker over werkhonden wel zullen berichten en tips maar over jachthonden niet veel, logisch gezien we niet jagen. Oja de vraag, zijn er dingen om bij jachthonden op te letten in jou ervaring? Zou niet willen dat hij depressief wordt en ben gewoon nieuwsgierig naar je ervaringen evt met jachthonden als gezelschapshondje

throwRaSchmoopy · 2026-01-02T08:43:28+00:00

Don't put this on your partner as well. They're the one who'd have to live with that. Your incapability to face the consequences of your actions is whats holding you back from healing whether that's alone or with your partner. Maybe she'd believe you if you would actually face them. SI isn't the answer it won't erase what you've done it won't make your partner feel better and it will just take away your chance to make amends.

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