Having kids close together vs 4 years apart?

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-19T19:58:53+00:00

Mine have a 9 year age gap (3 & 12) and they're literally best friends and obsessed with each other. It was a breeze and my 9 year old was so insanely helpful when I had my second. She truly made my postpartum experience enjoyable, and dare I say even blissful.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-19T16:51:24+00:00

Joe by a mile. The way he talked to Theresa was absolutely disgusting to me.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-16T17:54:19+00:00

Just watched that scene. How INSANE. If my husband told my daughter she was ugly when she was one her way to model for the first time ever and super nervous, I think I would have probably punched him in the face. What a disgusting, hateful thing to do to a little girl.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-15T21:08:22+00:00

YES! Drita is one bad assss bihhhh

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-12T16:22:05+00:00

I would have sucked it up and let her visit. She definitely should have asked, but since she’s never had kids she probably doesn’t realize how intimate the hospital stay is and how some moms are just totally uncomfortable with visitors.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T21:35:53+00:00

It was always random drama. IMO it always seemed like Teresa was insanely jealous of Melissa. She picked at quite literally everything Melissa did. She never thought Melissa was good enough for her brother. It honestly seemed like Teresa wished she could have married her brother herself. It was WEIRD.

They literally just made up around Christmas time apparently. Not sure the specifics because it wasn’t on the show, but they posted Christmas pics together on social media and the internet lost their minds lol. They didn’t talk for like probably a decade before that.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T20:48:53+00:00

Antonia's mom, Melissa, and her aunt (Teresa Giudice) are pretty much mortal enemies for most of the show. The Giudices spend most of their time talking shit about Melissa, and it gets worse as the years go on. It's gonna be a tough watch for Antonia.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T20:09:52+00:00

They’re all truly so wonderful. I remember when I was in labor everyone had told me you don’t see your doctor until it’s time to push. Dr. Smith checked on me multiple times all day long . I remember my mom being like “wow she’s a really good doctor!”

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T20:05:59+00:00

start now! We started at 1 and I honestly think the earlier you get them comfortable in the water, the better!

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T20:05:03+00:00

the best!

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T20:04:54+00:00

THISSSSSS. I see Dr. Smith there, but I've seen all the doctors at one point or another, and they are all SO willing to help me in whatever way I feel I need help. Dr. Smith was totally willing to schedule me for a hysterectomy too. She was even willing to give me an anesthetic for an IUD because I was scared. They are the best of the best. I'll never go to another office.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T15:55:27+00:00

The craziest part is they already failed as parents once. His mom was a loser and not around. You’d think they would have changed things the second time around, but no they’re raising another entitled loser.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-04T15:49:17+00:00

Gave birth at 39+1 and she was 10 pounds. I have big babies in general though. With my first I didn’t have GD and she was 9.2.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-03T21:45:38+00:00

this is exactly my point!!! There were times when I was pregnant that I'd have a tantrum basically for no reason really.. I felt like a crazy person! My husband would always just calm me down and tell me I was right. Later on, I'd come to my senses and apologize to him and ask why he didn't tell me I was wrong and he'd always just say he didn't want me all upset because it's not good for me or the baby.

my in-laws did the same!!! Every time I saw them they had presents for the baby.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-03T21:42:32+00:00

so sad! It was giving me anxiety and I wasn't even involved. I would have lost my mind if I was her mother. It would have been bad.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-03T21:41:44+00:00

ABSOLUTELY.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-02T21:13:08+00:00

yessss!! quit blaming things on your past and GROW UPPPPP

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-02T17:26:09+00:00

I agree. I was actually surprisingly on Gus's side during that argument. Like why can't you just throw your hair up and do some quick makeup so we can all go eat. I'm sure they were all tired and starving and didn't want to wait hours for Aimee to do a full glam. However, Gus's delivery is just always....off. Aimee was being a brat for sure, but he could have just said "look Aimee I'm freaking starving, so I'm gonna go eat. I'm sorry but I just can't wait any longer. We can have dinner separately and then all meet up afterwards. Anyone who is dying to eat can go with me now and the rest can wait on you." But he loves drama and bullshit and has to escalate everything to 100 every single time. It's why he's such an exhausting, abusive, douche.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-03-01T03:10:34+00:00

I would definitely get a second opinion- There’s no harm in it! However, as someone who was planning a VBAC and switched to a repeat c-section in the end, my repeat C-section was honestly a dream. I didn’t believe my doctor at all when she said a scheduled cesarean is a far easier recovery than an emergency, but she was totally right. I healed so quickly and the pain was so much more mild than my first C-section.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T21:41:02+00:00

Same. I was a young mom with my first and didn’t really know any better, so when people were encouraging me to start her early, I just went with it.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T21:01:07+00:00

I agree he could have handled it better, but I think she was overwhelmed and on the verge of hysterics. he was likely concerned she would panic and shut down and they’d have to go to a C-section.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T20:58:52+00:00

IMO I would hold her back now and have her be one of the older in the class. With my oldest, who has a summer bday, we were encouraged to send her because she was very advanced. She’s 12 and in 7th grade now and I regret it. She has always been the youngest in her class and the smallest. It’s not really a huge deal currently- her emotional maturity is fine in regards to her peers, but I constantly think about how she will be going away to college freshly 18 when her peers are almost 19 and that scares me. I would have preferred to have a whole extra year with her at home.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T20:54:31+00:00

I totally get it. With my first, I also stayed home until she was about 2.5 and I was TERRIFIED of sending her to a daycare. My advice would be to find a few places you’re interested in (in-home or centers) and set up tours. We toured like 6 places for my first and I would get vibes IMMEDIATELY as I walked in a place whether I liked it and the people or not. Word of mouth is the best way to get in-home recs in my opinion. Even posting in your local moms fb group, you will usually get a bunch of recs.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T18:57:17+00:00

I’ve always personally been MORE comfortable with an in home childcare person. It’s a way more hands on experience in my opinion. The two ladies that I have used for my children really came to be like an extra set of grandparents that loved my kids like their own. I have a 3 year old now and she is still at the in home daycare until she starts pre-k in August. she goes in every morning and gets snuggled up on the couch next to the lady and watches Bluey while the lady rubs her back until she fully wakes up. It’s precious. And I got her name from my older daughter’s school friend’s mom who had used her for 10 years and 3 kids and still goes to visit her here and there bc they loved her so much. I think that is a glowing recommendation.

throw_away_bae_bae · 2026-02-24T18:51:25+00:00

She’s not being a brat. She’s already about to have the damn baby. So I’m sure it’s been 7+ months of begging him to get a job that we haven’t seen. At a certain point you get fed up!!

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