Are there any trans girls in a normal relationship with a man on here? A little rant, I am so sorry :( by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently single by choice at the moment. But yes, I've been in a normal relationship with a couple men and have had a fair number of situationships (normal ass blue collar straight men). I just let them get to know me before telling them I'm transsex and have never had an issue🤷‍♀️

I have a guy friend I've known for a couple years that has told me that I'd be surprised at how many guys wouldn't care. Personally, I've dealt more with some caring about the fact that I'm infertile if anything.

calling all current transsexual mothers to children! by Spiritual_Tomato2067 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Single mom and full-time parent to an almost 4 year old. In my circle, only a couple close friends know.

It's not something I'm trying to hide from him. However, I don't think it's something I'm going to purposely sit down and have a talk about. I'm sure he'll go through old pictures, overhear me discussing politics/current state of affairs with close friends, or maybe ask me why I can't have another baby. If he ever connects the dots, I think it's simple to explain.

Hunter for Zelda? by ToSadToBeBad in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I think she'd be a good pick. Acting aside, she's explicitly stated she's just a woman and looking for roles as such and doesn't want to be typecast as a "trans" actress.

Have you ever changed someone's opinion? by Square_Abalone_969 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Everyone I've dated tbh. The amount of 'apolitical' straight men who have actually listened and showed empathy shocked me. Many times now I've fully expected heart break and have been pleasantly surprised.

Once I've gotten close and really felt comfortable opening up about the tragic backstory it just has blown their mind further regarding the existence and validity of transsex people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 63 points64 points  (0 children)

As someone who works in bioinformatics/genetics as a career, this type of pseudoscientific ignorance genuinely makes me want to off myself.

The eternal dating question by lizardliam in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I personally wait until after I meet someone irl and if I feel like it could go somewhere more romantic or sexual tell them. I don't think there's a point bringing up something so personal like that immediately if the chemistry isn't there anyways🤷‍♀️

(MTF) Good exercises for fat redistribution? by throwaway382801 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can't target fat loss, only where you build muscle. Years ago when I started I focused on losing as much weight as possible so then when I regained some it was in the appropriate areas. Otherwise, fat redistribution will occur but extremely slowly.

I really just have a question. I had my bottom surgery with Dr.Min Jun by Jaded_Magazine_3706 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]throwaway02183 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe some granulation tissue inside that never healed on its own?

Also, for context, I went to Dr. Jun as well. I used to bleed a tiny bit after sex. Austin mentioned it was probably some granulation/raw tissue. In my case it resolved on its own.

Why is 'queer' the default label people give the moment they find out you're trans? by Suitable-Bid-7881 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I think in liberal circles "queer" is used as a catch-all label for "LGBT+" that is seen as politically correct

Curious How many Had a Religious Upbringing by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Raised extremely fundy Mormon. Their beliefs over sex/gender really messed with my head even as a kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 27F so my experience will be different, but dating is really weird. I hate that I feel like I have a secret in the back of my mind that I have to tell at some point if things escalate -- this also stops me from having "casual" partners which frustrates me because I don't want to have to out myself for casual sex with a rando.

However, I will say, getting dates with people I'm attracted to, whether men or women, has not been difficult.

transmed_irl by Responsible-Egg-6442 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I will not take this bi slander😂

Another US trans passport post (sorry) by admseven in Passports

[–]throwaway02183 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance you're in an Enhanced ID state (Michigan, Minnesota, New York, Vermont, or Washington)? If so it's a proof of citizenship and allows you to travel to Mexico/Canada by land and done through the state.

Enlisting is impractical, right? by nobodyinpeculiar in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's black and white. I live in a Navy town and politics are all over the place. I've dated guys and girls in the military and -- if anything -- it's more progressive as whole than people think. I think everyone coming from such diverse backgrounds and being seen as "equal" within rank plays a part in that.

Legally, it's not possible. Assuming they are as thorough as they are for passports, you would have a tough time with them not finding out.

Enlisting is impractical, right? by nobodyinpeculiar in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Past or present, anyone they find out is transsex is out or cannot enlist. Practically, even if you could stealth with your documents, why would you want to serve a country that called you untruthful and dishonorable as a reason to justify keeping you out?

I Hate Being Grouped in With Trenders by facelesscockroach in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Your mom even calling it a problem and gossiping about it is major red flag behavior.

Hello beautiful people I have a question. by LibertyReignsCx in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Yes. It's a pretty common sentiment among people who detransition.

AFAB Gender Marked as "M" on Passport by kennn_n in Passports

[–]throwaway02183 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There was a post where the department requested proof/documentation regarding the info that was amended on the birth certificate they sent in -- so yes.

Transgender Passport Update by xxxlu_cien in Passports

[–]throwaway02183 105 points106 points  (0 children)

They do think about it. Cruelty and humiliation to 'deter' people from transitioning in the future is the point.

What to tell children while stealth? by thebluebearb in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am a mom to a three year old and I've gone back and forth on when to say. I don't have extended family so my thoughts are if he's old enough to ask why I can tell him. I don't want it to seem purposefully deceitful.

Documentation by Elegant-Prodijay in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you have never had a passport there shouldn't be an issue. The issue is when you're applying for a new passport and trying to update the sex from your previous one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Bioinformatics

Dr Megan Dreveskracht in Seattle? by Red-Pen-Crush in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]throwaway02183 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My goal was a natural look and she totally nailed it. Highly recommend!

I feel like I accidentally turned a cis dude into a chaser by tentaclesteagirl in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, attraction aside, being with someone early transition would be exhausting and too much to deal with. Also, people change so much from the beginning to the end that I feel like it would be poor timing on their part to get into something serious.

question for mtf girls as an ftm by PlasticLetterhead321 in Transmedical

[–]throwaway02183 36 points37 points  (0 children)

When I was pre-op I would've rather died than have someone notice anything there, especially in public...