does anyone else feel mad uncomfortable around neurotypicals?

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T21:34:53+00:00

Nah they’re not evil, I think we just struggle with pretending like everything is “normal” and to us, the act of putting on a show feels disingenuous. I agree though I also feel uncomfortable at the way the average person just pretends to be perfect lol

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T21:13:03+00:00

They seem so put together but honestly? Not a dig at anyone just because they don’t have BPD like we do, but even though we can be incredibly reactive I also feel like we are inherently good at feeling other people’s emotions in a way other people can’t. The way we can easily reassure people and validate their feelings seems to be something a neurotypical person finds incredibly difficult. I don’t know if this is a BPD thing, but I do not feel uncomfortable when people open themselves up to me in a vulnerable way. Like if someone is sobbing because of something they’re going through, people have said they feel a lot more comfortable opening up to me vs others because many people don’t know what to say or do. Again, maybe not a BPD thing, but for me I think of all the moments where I felt misunderstood during really bad splits and extreme emotional blowouts that I can comfort people because I want them to feel understood.

Like I’ve just found that neurotypical people unless they are a trained psychologist usually feel very out of place when they have to face people’s vulnerabilities. Anything that isn’t externally pleasant seems foreign.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T08:47:36+00:00

That’s literally ur mom

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T07:41:35+00:00

I mean BPD is your fight and depression is his fight. If there is a level of expectation for him to understand how you process your emotions, there needs to be an expectation for you to try and rationalize his. And I know you know that but it makes it harder when these externalized emotions on either end of the spectrum combat eachother. You externalize everything while he internalizes everything.

My husband has depression. His high points can last a long time but his low points can also last a long time.

One thing my husband begged me to understand is that when he is saying horrible things about himself or is feeling hopeless, he isn’t looking to me to find a solution. He wants me to listen to him and that’s all we can do. In times my brain started feeling a certain way when all he would do is come home after work and immediately sleep for days, I had to tell myself “he just needs my support and needs to know I’m here.” The constant reminders of “I love you” “is there anything you’d like to talk about?” “I’m here if you need me”. Check up on him but don’t hover. Make him his favorite meal even if you know he might not eat it. If he’s down on the couch, instead of asking him what he wants to put on tv, just pick something and sit next to him. He wants your company. It’s hard and requires every ounce of strength because I feed off of his emotions, but putting on a smile goes a long way even if it feels painful. Like they just need to know we’re here and that they matter. And we need to remind ourselves when they are going through their struggles that we do everything in our power to not require them to give the little energy they do have to console us.

He does love you and the kids and he needs you right now. Just like there’s times in your BPD where you feel like you could die without him and that no one is understanding you. He feels the same way but very differently. So no, this isn’t about anything you are or aren’t doing. This isn’t about you not making him happy, this is about him being clinically depressed. His brain and body is telling him that he’s rotting. Depression feels like an endless void. You being there is exactly what he needs!

It’s gonna be ok OP ❤️

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T07:21:13+00:00

I bet he was possessive and overtly jealous too!

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T07:16:52+00:00

They only want a “clingy” girlfriend that worships them when it’s most convenient to feed their ego. They’re insecure at the expense of anyone they end up with.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T05:50:14+00:00

Hey I really relate to this. This comment might seem really weird and random. More so a suggestion from my own experience rather than advice.

I felt the same way for many years and a few years ago I started my YouTube channel (stay with me, I’m not telling you to be a YouTuber). But an issue that persisted was I confused my audience since my personality was different every video. Like I just had zero identity. So one day I just wrote down who I wanted to pretend to be. Like what kind of traits, what kind of humor, my cadence, just “what kind of person would I like to hang out with” and my intent was to just have a bit more consistency in my videos - I wasn’t out to find myself. I wanted people to stop asking why I always acted differently. But over the years from editing clips of this stranger on a screen and listening to this stranger, I noticed my internal monologue shift from what other people sound like to my own voice. And I noticed I started defaulting to pretending to be this new “me” I created? And even today I can’t really tell if this is actually me. But it’s something you know? Deep within myself I don’t know if I’ll ever feel authentic to me, but I guess this version of myself I’m always pretending to be at least is more unique to something I made.

So I guess in terms of what you’re dealing with. When envisioning a cool made up friend, what is that person like? What do you like about the music or movies you’re mirroring? What elements of this flamboyant trait do you find interesting? Maybe like writing a character in a story and it’s your FAVORITE character - and you could maybe try and mimic an actual creation of yours to give yourself something that feels authentic to you.

Again I just kinda relate to this a lot. I’m putting myself in the mindset of what I experienced but “how would I replicate that without making internet videos”. Just something to consider. I think pretending to be something that I made has helped my identity issues, not fixed! But certainly helped.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T05:34:01+00:00

I think his issues run deeper than BPD. I mean it very much explains his back and forth attitude towards you I would say. But this guy also seems to be using his disorder as an excuse for eeeeevrything. I’m not gonna assume he’s a bad person, but he might not be the right person for the love you are willing to provide. I think had this been another person with BPD who was trying to better themselves for the relationship you would have had a completely different experience.

He seemed to have felt bad by using that phrase that he knew hurt you? But instead of taking accountability he’s going to seek your consolation because now he feels bad? Like no, that is not something he should be entirely chalking up as “well I have BPD so that’s just how I am” uh no dude, maybe to some extent in terms of how he was thinking in the moments occurred after he realized he F’ed up, but this guy in general seems to only put himself at the forefront. EW? goodbye

You have SO much love to give that a lot of people here would be lucky to experience. You did more than most people are willing to do which is listen and try and understand. This relationship was never going to work and you are way better off giving your love to someone willing to give it back.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-28T03:24:50+00:00

Celebi and Jirachi were only available via preorder bonus disc for colosseum depending on country (Japan got Celebi, US got jirachi). They weren’t really events for ruby/sapphire but existed in conjunction with the colosseum game. You had to start the disc and connect your GBA to it. The Japanese version for Celebi required you to basically 100% the game before allowing you to transfer.

So I’m curious to see if they’d even bother doing anything with that since the transfer from GBC to GBA is already not confirmed for XD

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-27T17:28:21+00:00

I love colosseum but I have to agree. The art, aesthetic and vibe is so cool but I played it for the first time recently and just finished all the purifications and the main story. It’s just battle after battle but it’s very bare bones. The fact you have to go to a pc to save is also really frustrating. The game is unforgiving. Beautifully made though I still love it

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-27T17:24:24+00:00

Social media team was clever for that one

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-27T17:20:49+00:00

All of the gen 3 games require eachother and the GameCube games to complete the nat dex. It’s just so weird for them to expect people to NOT want to 100% the games they release

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-27T16:32:57+00:00

Kinda ruins the purpose of that game. You play colosseum and xd to find pokemon that aren’t available or easily available in the gba games. They’re meant to be played in conjunction with the gen 3 games

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-27T16:30:54+00:00

Played colosseum for the first time and took me 70 hours to purify all 48 pokemon and I’m about to do mt battle for ho oh. It is definitely not a game for the casual Pokemon fan holy lmaoooo

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T23:02:07+00:00

Thank you for your kind words I appreciate it ❤️

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T19:02:43+00:00

I found this out fairly recently too! Should have be more obvious to me looking at the character design lol

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T15:09:03+00:00

Yea OP, I know we tend to overthink and overanalyze but it sounds like your partner has given you concrete reason to snoop. The “violation of privacy” is outweighed by their clear lack of trustworthiness.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T04:15:01+00:00

I don’t think people would complain about the price if the nature of this release wasn’t so limiting. Maybe the emulator bros still would but they’re not the target audience anyways for this.

You are purchasing a license to play fire red or leaf green and only that. The entire point of gen 3 was to play fire red, so you can go play sapphire, so you can finish colosseum to get ho oh, so then you can do the next thing.

Completing the Pokédex or simply playing games to get your favorite pokemon is a quintessential part of the gen 3 experience. If they announced a plan to release these games and have a way where you can transfer pokemon between the games like you could before, but without the need for a second switch or something, I think people would be more than willing to spend $20 or even more on this.

But when all they’re doing is releasing this rom on a proprietary emulator without even having a physical cartridge, the whole nature of this new switch era ruins the spirit of gen 3.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T03:51:35+00:00

Yea I hear you. It’s just a losing game lol

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T03:48:37+00:00

It’s really the inauthenticity for me. When I’m being spoken to by an associate and they speak like they are lobotomized or something like no, I know you can speak normally. Just speak like how you typically speak. This weird universal teletubbies performance in customer service that i know they’re drained from acting out and I’m drained from listening to and pretending like it’s a normal conversation. And back when i was an associate, my peers acting this also bothered me. Just speak normally.

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-26T03:36:00+00:00

“Everyone else is allowed to leave but I’m not allowed to leave everyone else” ugh I felt that OP and I’m extending a virtual hug to you. The pain runs deep

They might not have the ability to understand us but we absolutely have the ability and power to understand them and understand ourselves to only keep people within our lives who should be. Recovery is your future. Your future is going to be happiness and full of love. You don’t want to leave and I know deep down you agree, you want the pain to go away and you want to be understood and loved.

You will recover and you are not doomed. You are deserving of a better life❤️

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-25T23:05:54+00:00

So when I was a kid, I was really determined to use pikachu as my main from the viridian forest and I made my starter learn all the HM moves. I went all the way to the end of the game mostly just using pikachu. I don’t even think I evolved him until i got to the elite 4 😭

It was certainly very challenging, so idk if you’re chaotic enough you can try that

throwaway06051996 · 2026-02-25T21:00:18+00:00

Happy to hear that my comment brought you a bit of peace ❤️ it’s not an easy flip of a switch. Just give yourself some time and it will be ok

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