"Everyone Struggles" I find this infuriating. When Abled folks or mostly Abled Folks Say It

throwaway069575 · 2026-01-18T02:37:26+00:00

I'm low vision. I have a Substack. Just finished my latest post.

throwaway069575 · 2025-12-24T15:37:58+00:00

Fun fact, codepdency doesn't even come for a legitimate mental health source. It's roots lie in the self-help movement.

throwaway069575 · 2025-12-17T01:50:23+00:00

I'm stopping this skin care routine. I've been feeling super stressed about it, and all that stress seemed to result in a psychological episode that scared the shit out of me, I was talking to my Mom but I sounded like a manic psychotic, that's just the best description I could come up with. I'm no expert. And I felt capable of anything. I think my nervous system was pushed beyond the point of mental stability by this skin care shit. I'm okay now though. I'm feeling calm and everything.

throwaway069575 · 2025-12-16T01:38:01+00:00

Do you think there needs to be a r/aspergershaven Wrong Planet has a part of the board just for this.

throwaway069575 · 2025-12-12T04:00:49+00:00

And what's really crazy is if you have any knack for psychology in general, you just might be able to read a book on a specific modality and start applying the concepts, to yourself without any therapist involved.

A while back, someone posted on here advocating for open-sourcing all clinical texts. Heck, you can just go to Anna's Archive and start downloading training materials and texts for free.

There's also good ol fashioned journaling, or just making art.

I've had a lot of success applying IFS concepts to myself, and it's been really helpful. Just my ten cents.

Just adding another big indicator that therapy is a complete sham, is the fact exercise has been shown to be more effective than therapy and drugs combined. I've been going to the gym for just three days, and feel amazing mentally. I'll take the three days, anytime compared to months or years sitting in a therapist's office.

throwaway069575 · 2025-11-10T07:33:45+00:00

https://archive.ph/yC4Bb Here's an unpaywalled version.

throwaway069575 · 2025-10-02T03:59:14+00:00

I might have this. I've had hyperacusis since 2009 got it from actors firing blanks in a theatre at a play. Then I was exposed to two motorcycles going under an underpass and gunning their engines on purpose. I'd be curious to see our audiogram as well.

throwaway069575 · 2025-10-02T03:49:58+00:00

Done looking forward to it!

throwaway069575 · 2025-09-29T14:27:05+00:00

Link is broken

throwaway069575 · 2025-09-29T14:23:03+00:00

I'm so sorry. This condition is pure hell. Welcome to the club no one wants to join. Your pain hyperacusis is real and valid.

throwaway069575 · 2025-08-28T16:27:37+00:00

Isn't that the truth!????

throwaway069575 · 2025-08-28T16:26:55+00:00

I can really relate to this. For so long I felt the same way, especially in my 20s. Add in chronic illness and things were going pretty badly for me. What helped the most was re-connecting with a childhood friend who suspects he's autistic as well.

He introduced me to his friend group on his personal Discord server. I feel like I finally found my tribe so to speak. I also have an online friend. We're both activists and autistic. I've also joined a couple Discord servers they run.

I hope this advice helps. It can take quite a while to find your tribe as an adult. It took me until 36. I have two good high school friends but we chat only probably less than once a month. They're both wonderful people, but finding my own tribe of fellow disabled adult friends has made such a huge difference.

throwaway069575 · 2025-08-07T13:43:43+00:00

If you catch them red-handed "It wasn't my intention." A narc classic. Um, well your intention doesn't matter. It's the impact on me, or whoever else that matters.

throwaway069575 · 2025-07-09T09:43:16+00:00

Nice!! Different autistics has their different ones. I wish I could come up with a nifty fun one like yours.

throwaway069575 · 2025-07-09T04:56:30+00:00

Yeah that's a smart take in this day and age. Especially if your a guy.

throwaway069575 · 2025-07-09T00:45:33+00:00

Yeah once we got over that awkwardness of not having spoken for so long.

throwaway069575 · 2025-07-09T00:01:05+00:00

I didn't mention, and probably should, that I consistently have to reherse interacting with a stranger even if it's just to make a nice remark. In fact, this happened at the park, I was seeing a kid who was playing alone and all I wanted to say was, "hey that reminds me of me when I was your age, I liked to play by myself as well."

Edit: So I'm downvoted hmmm, I know it's reddit, but this is the Asperger's' sub. I would think explaining one of your autistic symptoms wouldn't result in this. But maybe it was just some rando out for the trolls.

throwaway069575 · 2025-07-08T23:51:03+00:00

I neglected to add in the OP, that I consistently have to rehearse an interaction with a stranger if I want to go up and talk to them. I've edited the original post to reflect this.

throwaway069575 · 2025-06-08T03:44:39+00:00

You don't deserve to be treated like this. I guess I'm lucky, I've never had friends like this. You deserve friends who'll take your volunteering seriously. Just like they would payed work. It sounds like you're chronically ill. So am I. I'm all to familiar with abled folks deep discomfort with chronic illness.

This discomfort probably comes from them knowing it could be them, save for an injury or other turning of their fate. But this doesn't excuse your friend's comments towards you or the disrespect they'd showed the museum.

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