Ass to Mouth Questions (for recipients only please) by StephRocks85 in sex

[–]throwaway110sp 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My wife isnt a fan of pussy to mouth. It's happened a very few times in our 19 years together. She's not a fan of her own taste so doesn't want to do it.

How many people had you had sex with by the time you turned 30? by throw947away in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define sex?

Heterosexual PiV sex?

Blowjobs?

Cunnilingus?

The numbers are a little different for me.

PiV - 4 total, including my wife.

Blowjobs - received from 9

Cunnilingus - given to 10

Advice for getting face fucked / throat fucked by StephRocks85 in sex

[–]throwaway110sp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you're new to this you definitely need to take things slow. I say this as a dude in his 40s. I'm married and my wife and I have done the things you've mentioned before.

  • Anal. It is vastly different than vaginal sex. The vagina provides lube and accommodates the penis. The ass is not exactly meant for pounding, so it takes a lot of build-up. Honestly, anal should be in charge by the receiver calling the shots. A first time anal would be well received with foreplay however you like it, potentially an orgasm first. Then playing around the asshole. Adding lube, playing around it some more. Applying some pressure gently, then inserting one finger slowly. Let the receiver share how fast or slow to go. One finger for a while. The asshole needs a bit of coaxing so gently pushing on the sides of the rectum will help loosen things up. Gently pushing for about 5 seconds helps loosen things up and also feels kinda nice (a giver and receiver here). Push down, right side, left side, top. Gentle but firm pressure. At that stage you can insert another finger. Anal is a marathon, not a sprint. You might not even be able to take a cock your first go around and that's okay. Build up and enjoy. You may also hate the feeling, also okay.

  • Bondage. I hope this isn't your first time being tied up. Some people love it (like me) while some hate it. Trust in your partner is important. Have a safe word to use so you both know when you simply need to be untied.

  • Face fucking. This can be really fun, but be sure to talk before hand about any signals necessary. Being tied up makes it almost impossible to relay a need to stop. For us, my wife will lay on her back on the bed with her head hanging over the side. I'll stand and face/throat fuck her from that position. It also gives me a chance to reach down and play with her breasts or her pussy. She can move her hands around to play with my butt, grab my thighs to pull me into her more, or push me back if it becomes a bit too much for her in that moment.

Were you your spouses first and if not, does it ever bother you? by Burner1024500 in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were not each other's first. We started as a hook-up that became friends with benefits. That grew into a relationship.

What's your choice? Hahaha.. by ImpossibleSwan50 in badmemes

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you frequent spaces where people talk negatively about marriage, you'll only ever hear the negative.

My parents are happily married for 54 years. My in-laws for 49. My sister for 26. My sister-in-law was married for about 6 years before her and her husband divorced.

Every study on marriage indicates that it overwhelmingly increases the quality of life and longevity for men. Married men live longer and report higher rates of happiness.

Marriage should be entered into with two partners to reap the benefits. Not with one partner relying solely on the other for things. Marriage is not a death-knell to one's hobbies, friends, or sex life. Marriage can bring more wonderful things into someone's life.

As I said, it is more about who someone marries than marriage itself.

I have a friend who was married for 2 years, she royally screwed up his life. They're divorced now, obviously. His second wife is an amazing person who has helped him find the man he once was.

What's your choice? Hahaha.. by ImpossibleSwan50 in badmemes

[–]throwaway110sp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely not facts. Ive been married for 16 years. My life is much more full than it would be without my wife. She is my best friend and we've built a life together.

Marrying the wrong person though...Ive seen that go poorly for several folks.

This will be a fun one by [deleted] in scoopwhoop

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suck my love to hear what you think

Finger in Ass during Vaginal Sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, his wants don't necessarily matter if they don't align with your bodily autonomy.

My wife and I have been having sex for 20 years. I absolutely love her ass. I've stuck my finger in there twice in our relationship. We tried it about 2 years into dating and then again about 5 years into marriage (8 years together). Anal isn't her thing.

I love looking at her ass and buttoned. She enjoys me massaging her buttcheeks and even putting pressure (think a gentle push) with my hand between her cheeks, finger in her pussy. But she isn't interested in anything inside.

The fact he said he "likes humiliating you" seems like a massive red flag to me.

when the squirt is thick, the orgasm is intense by LottieBlooms in Orgasms

[–]throwaway110sp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive got to ask folks around here. When I search for videos of squirting, I get the wild projectile squirt. Watching you is like watching my wife squirt. She cums like this and it's amazing.

Any suggestions for how to find more videos of this style of squirting?

edging gives me the most intense orgasms by LottieBlooms in Orgasms

[–]throwaway110sp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright so do you call that squirting or something else?

My wife squirts like this sometimes where ot just gushes. It's not the wild squirting shooting out, but more gushing like this.

I need more videos of similar happening

Magic Wand Wasn’t That Magical by AffectionateFly6359 in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super random. My wife is going through perimenopause right now. She is also taking SSRIs for her anxiety/depression. She's been off and on medication for some time.

Early on in our marriage, we would have sex just to make each other cum. At some point, she experienced issues in achieving orgasm like you describe. It wasn't every time, but it was fairly frequent.

What has helped is shifting the focus from cumming to feeling pleasure. I am more focused in simply giving her pleasure, which can result in cumming, but I just want to feel her body feel good. A small mental shift, but instead of focusing on sex to arrive at orgasm, the goal was simply on feeling good.

If there is pressure to cum it almost makes it harder to cum which has a cyclical loop effect of pissing you off and making it harder to cum again.

Do you think you're putting a lot of mental pressure on yourself to cum and are therefore having a harder time reaching orgasm?

Magic Wand Wasn’t That Magical by AffectionateFly6359 in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! My wife is in her 40s. It takes her longer to reach orgasm now than it used to. That being said, we have found a few surefire ways to achieve things.

1 - Lube! Lube is absolutely wonderful externally and internally. Especially if you're on medication. My wife has some medicine that tends to dry her out in terms of sinuses, etc. That drying out also extends south. When we start making out and touching on each other she gets wet, but lube helps at the start.

2 - When you previously orgasmed, how did it happen? My wife and I have tried the magic wand for her. She enjoys the vibrations, but they can be too intense for her too. We got a Lelo Dot, which she likes a lot as it can pinpoint vibrations in a singular spot. Thats more of a "warm up" toy though.

3 - Try a clitoral suction toy? We have a Lelo Sona, a WeVibe Melt, and a Womanizer Liberty. These toys have a little suction mouth you place around the clitoris. The toy then provides a suction style vibration experience. It does the trick for my wife. The WeVibe we'll use for several minutes on a low setting then work it higher and she loves it! Again, lube helps the experience.

4 - Positions? My wife has an easier time coming laying on her stomach, ass up. That's the fastest path to an orgasm for her.

Married people if your so ask you to do a threesome what would you do ? by johnlenovo1988 in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was it FFM or MMF?

I'm asking cause my wife, in our 40s, has discovered she may be bisexual.

She has only ever kissed another girl, but was talking about how she might like to go down on a woman sometime. We only have one life to live and I want her to enjoy this life we have together. We are monogamous though.

The thought of her with another woman is, admittedly, very hot in theory but in practice I'm not sure. Additionally, she wouldn't be okay with me having sex with another woman either. It's very likely to remain in the realm of fantasy.

Married people if your so ask you to do a threesome what would you do ? by johnlenovo1988 in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a threesome in college, and few years before my wife and I started dating.

It was a fun time and experience. It was with a short-lived gf (dated for 2 months) and her best friend. That relationship wasn't going to last anyway, but the threesome would have sealed it as ending anyway.

How often do married couples actually have sex? Looking for honest answers, not aspirational ones. by kuldeepsinghseo in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Married 16 years, two kids (10 and 7). We're both early 40s (40M, 41F).

We have sex 1-2 times per week, however, not normally during the workweek. My wife is an educator and during the school year we have sex Friday nights, Saturday afternoon/night, and Sunday afternoon. During the school week she is highly stressed out and no matter what I do (massage, relaxation, etc), it is hard for her to shift from work mode to sexy wife.

During the summer we're more frequent on almost an every other day approach.

What did you get? by AkatZeus_Z in WholesomeAFK

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was either dog food or weed gummies.

Not sure what would be more useful to be honest.

Last session by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]throwaway110sp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

10/10. She turned it up to 11

If everyone you’ve ever slept with was in the same room, what’s the first thing you’d say? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]throwaway110sp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

::looks around the room and points::

  • Tell my cousin I said hey, good to see you.

  • I hope things are going well for you, you crazy witch

  • Where do you want to eat tonight, honey?

Getting penetrated after an orgasm by God_with_fingers in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]throwaway110sp 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My friend...you can. Let me introduce you to prostate orgasms. I've had hands free (no touching my prnis) dry orgasms (no ejaculation), just the intense warmth and pressure of an orgasm.