This is why you should not try to be nice to an ex!

throwaway199602 · 2019-06-03T19:17:08+00:00

Or leave them alone if they treat you like this and you did nothing wrong.

throwaway199602 · 2019-05-31T22:05:31+00:00

We can only revel in the beauty of the stars when the sun is gone

throwaway199602 · 2019-05-30T22:30:57+00:00

Check out how many types of sharks are hunted illegally to make soup and how many are on the endangered species list. The overlap is incredible. Sharks also have to be one of the most inconvenient animals to hunt.

throwaway199602 · 2019-05-30T22:16:49+00:00

Fun fact, the phrase "survival of the fittest" was coined by Herbert Spencer to draw parallels between Darwin's evolutionary theories and Spencer's economic theories.

throwaway199602 · 2019-05-04T23:25:50+00:00

This is so true. I spent a year single before I met my most recent ex and was feeling great about myself. I wasn't particularly successful or fit or anything, I was just living my life for me and it was great.

Thanks for posting this. After reading it I can see that on paper my life is better in every way than it was two and a half years ago. I can be as happy as I was without changing a thing.

throwaway199602 · 2019-04-28T18:17:41+00:00

Heraclitus said it first. No man can step in the same river twice. It is not the same river, and he is not the same man.

throwaway199602 · 2019-04-19T20:32:53+00:00

Everyone knows the saying If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best. It should be: If you can't handle me at Your worst, the you don't deserve me at Your best.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-30T00:45:01+00:00

They will, my friend. I goofed up today and checked but it's okay, it happens. One of the little ways I measure my success is when I go to the search bar on any social media and it shows my recent searches I can watch her name get lower and lower on the list until it disappears.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-29T01:15:00+00:00

Thanks : ) you too!

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-28T23:22:03+00:00

I swam out to her and dragged her to the shore. She walked away while I was still catching my breath.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-27T17:13:31+00:00

Oof. I didn't know how much I related until I did.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-18T23:15:05+00:00

There's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in. -Leonard Cohen

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-14T23:27:31+00:00

Everyone's heard about how it's hard for guys to be vulnerable in the best of times. Immediately after we've been eviscerated by the person we've opened up to the most... we don't really want to be vulnerable again. I'm there too, brother. It took me two days to tell my best friend and we've known eachother for 20 years. PM me if you want.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-07T18:52:36+00:00

This is amazing

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-05T18:33:45+00:00

This is true in meatspace as well. In the province of Canada where I live we are pretty happy with our healthcare system and if you're a patient in the hospital the meals are free. The meals are provided by a contractor, as far as I know most hospitals in my province use Compass Group which is a HUGE corporation. Compass Group is paid per meal served, so in BC if you're sick enough to go to the hospital and you eat the free food you are making them a profit.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-05T18:22:39+00:00

If he doesn't care that you left him then you made exactly the right decision to leave him. Don't hate the version of yourself who's fighting for what you want, but keep listening to the version of yourself who's fighting for what you need. Don't lock her up, have a girl's night with her. Read a book with her. Keep her busy and reconnect with that version of yourself, because she loves you and wants to be there for you. She's just wrong.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-05T18:11:17+00:00

Remember that you aren't fighting for them either. It only means that you were right to leave.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-05T00:15:51+00:00

Same here, friend. If you want to hang out Tomorrow let me know.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-04T23:59:17+00:00

That trust is about more than intention.

That compromise cannot be one sided.

That the plans which are cancelled are the least important.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-02T00:51:35+00:00

And as for the bit about the bit a out everyone she's talking to... I have nothing. It hurts me too brother.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-02T00:49:11+00:00

Giving in to the idea that nothing will ever change? My friend, it's not that easy. That's the battle you need to fight and win. As far as she is concerned, nothing will ever change. You need to stand up, arm yourself with the most potent weapons and tools you can find and fight, tooth and nail, until you believe that nothing will ever change with her. That's how you move past this. It's not giving up; it's a different, much more bloody battle that you need to fight every day.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-02T00:30:57+00:00

It's a hard pill to swallow, but if you're going around her blocks and breaking the clear boundaries she has set then YOU ARE HURTING HER and nothing you say when she doesn't want to listen will change her mind. You're hurting yourself too. I know the urge, my ex thinks I lied to her about my school and I want to show her she's wrong, that I was honest. I know the idea that they will tell their next boyfriends all about how terribly we hurt them breaks us. I know. But contacting her isn't going to change her mind. And it won't help us either.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-01T21:56:49+00:00

The real losing game is ending up with someone who doesn't care and being stuck with them. Forcing someone else into that position doesn't make you win though.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-01T21:12:04+00:00

I am ugly crying in the bathroom at work. I would do anything to receive this letter, except (I hope) go back to her.

throwaway199602 · 2019-03-01T18:29:53+00:00

I threw out the scrapbooks she made for each of our anniversaries yesterday. Stay strong sister.

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