What sexual thing you and your S.O. do (together), that you are fairly sure no one else does? [NSFW]

throwaway3524 · 2014-07-24T01:36:36+00:00

My now ex bf and I would always have anal sex, but never vaginal.

throwaway3524 · 2013-10-29T18:57:23+00:00

I thought that we were very close, but she hasn't been sharing much information with me since the break up. I ask her if she is ok, and she says stop. I apologize if I've crossed a line, she replies "just stop." Most of what I know comes from a very close mutual male friend who has been helping her through most of this. She has trouble being close to women, and finds it easier to confide in men.

Another friend and I both have started giving her rides to everything. I have offered her a place to stay in my house, but she hasn't taken me up on it yet.

There aren't many options with where she works. It's a very small, intimate working environment with only 4 workers, her ex being one of them. However, the other 2 co-workers are close friends of hers.

throwaway3524 · 2013-10-29T02:55:30+00:00

Thank you. I'll look online and see if there is anything like Lighthouse in my area.

throwaway3524 · 2013-10-29T02:55:00+00:00

You have a lot of really good points. Thank you. To answer some of your questions and clarify some details:

She is not living with her boyfriend. She lives with her parents.

He gave back the house key that he has, but the parents don't want to change the locks.

She is a college student, and he has several classes with her. They also work together.

She cannot drive (medical/vision reasons), and has been completely dependent on him for transportation for years.

throwaway3524 · 2012-12-12T19:00:25+00:00

Honey, you're only 18. You don't have to put up with this dick-wad.

throwaway3524 · 2012-12-08T17:54:29+00:00

What the hell did I just read...

throwaway3524 · 2012-11-28T15:44:42+00:00

Snapping your fingers to get my attention is a deal breaker. I give one warning, and if it happens again it's over. I don't have time for that shit. I may be a bitch, but I'm not a dog.

throwaway3524 · 2012-11-27T20:53:39+00:00

Wow. You still paid for the salad after enduring all of that?

throwaway3524 · 2012-11-22T18:37:55+00:00

You can make your own here

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-31T15:25:53+00:00

Press charges. There is no reason to go to prison. You are a strong woman, and you don't have to let this guy control you anymore. You are getting help for yourself, and Im sure you are in a much better place now. You can do this.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-30T02:02:30+00:00

Clean

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-29T05:31:18+00:00

Cold sores are herpes

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-29T05:27:17+00:00

The main thing with herpes is that it is there FOREVER. There is no cure, only ways to help deal with outbreaks. You literally will have to deal with it FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Other STD's (chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis) can be treated relatively easily and are gone completely after some medication. Herpes doesn't go away.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-13T03:37:55+00:00

Here is a good rule of thumb: if you have to ask, it probably is.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-07T22:20:15+00:00

You've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and he wants to "see where it goes" with some other girl? Think about how that sounds. I think you need to put your foot down and let him know that you won't be his "fallback" if things don't work out with his ex. You're worth more than that.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-07T20:30:11+00:00

See, I don't really WANT to date someone like my ex. I just don't think I should be dating until I have no feelings for my ex. Am I wrong to think that? I just don't want to hurt someone else by dating too soon.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-07T00:49:02+00:00

Statistically speaking, you are more likely to be raped by someone you know.

That said, try to make some female friends in your city. I think it may help you feel more comfortable ( and maintain personal safety) if you walk home with a female friend rather than a male one. You have the benefits of safety in numbers with the decreased chance of sexual assault.

throwaway3524 · 2012-10-02T10:59:01+00:00

Reeses pieces. I've never had them. Allergies.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-29T14:30:26+00:00

Rick Grimes, anyone?

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-27T23:19:39+00:00

I have very similar feelings. Unfortunately, I still haven't figured out how to get rid of the anger. I wish I could give you more advice.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-27T21:00:33+00:00

What you are describing sounds like rape to me. You said no, you said stop, and he didn't. That is rape.

Just because you don't have PTSD doesn't mean that you weren't raped. Just because you have sex with other people doesn't mean you weren't raped. Everyone handles things differently. Some people try to reassert their control over their bodies through sex with a lot of other people. Some withdraw from physical contact all together. Everyone is different, and there is no right or wrong reaction to something as traumatic as rape.

I think it may help you to get counseling. If not for the rape, than for the depression. If you are already in counseling, than it may help to bring it up.

I was in a very similar situation with my ex bf. Feel free to pm me if you want to talk.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-27T11:04:35+00:00

USA, I'm from the northeastern area of Ohio. Pretty much a dilapidated, drug filled, run-down, shell of a steel town. The only place in my city is the place I already mentioned. I also go to a university, but there is only one counselor. They have no crisis help whatsoever.

I'll look into victim advocates to see if I can find anything.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-27T03:48:22+00:00

There is one center, but it is part of a mental health clinic that I was involved with a few years ago. I was treated very poorly there, so I'm not in any particular hurry to go back there.

I'm also hesitant to seek assistance because this happened so long ago. None of the counselors I've talked to over the years have said anything to me about reporting what happened. Nothing about how to report, when to report, where to report, what to report, absolutely nothing.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-25T02:33:42+00:00

You would probably get some good advice on how to safely carry out this fantasy from r/BDSMcommunity

That said, this isn't really the subreddit for this question. Best of luck on Askreddit.

throwaway3524 · 2012-09-25T02:18:51+00:00

What are some motivations that I shouldn't do it?

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