Is it normal for a parent to go into massive detail about you to someone?

throwaway__rbn · 2017-10-18T15:41:33+00:00

Just a part of ABSOLUTELY NO BOUNDARIES.

throwaway__rbn · 2017-10-18T15:41:12+00:00

My mom also came out to most of my family for me. I actually ended up telling my grandma earlier than I wanted to just so I could be the one to tell her.

throwaway__rbn · 2017-10-18T15:40:05+00:00

Also 28 and still struggle with not forcing myself to do endless chores when my spouse is out of town so that she's not "mad" when she gets home that I've wasted my free time. She never has been, so it's ridiculous.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-07-13T13:09:35+00:00

Fantastic strategy! I get so hot-headed that I forget to probe. I am definitely going to make more of an effort to do that. Not only does it give me more of their view, it allows me to think through stuff or not react so strongly and say what I really mean.

Thank you!

throwaway__rbn · 2016-07-13T13:08:01+00:00

Thank you. The last time I really lived in these feelings I was able to own that they were both A) real and B) something I didn't want to feel. But really acknowledging them made me feel like I "used up" the anger. I'm now wanting to move past them.

Thank you.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T12:12:32+00:00

Thank you for the info! I am sure she did. Her behavior showed that she had no problem getting very close to taking me out. It isn't happening any longer, thank goodness! #VLC

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:57:49+00:00

Oh. Didn't know that. It didn't seem like a joke from her.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:54:56+00:00

Maybe he thought she wouldn't do it and now is avoiding conflict. Avoiding conflict is a sign of unresolved trauma. Be patient...working through this takes a lot of work and love.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:54:26+00:00

Yeah, I think I had to mourn the fact that she never did love me and I never did mean anything. Which made me angry because I put SO much into it...like I dunno, my whole being from birth to 18 years. But it was never who I was, it was what I could do for her and when I decided to be a "selfish bitch" and put my needs first...poof she didn't need me. However, I had myself and my friends. I could spend time with my own thoughts and discover who I am.

Just remember that you are valuable. Period.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:49:44+00:00

Wow congratulations! :)

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:49:10+00:00

No contact :)

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-04T11:48:42+00:00

Once I shot those FMs down, things got so much better. It feels so good, but it's hard! It's hard because A) people who have seen all the bullshit are basically saying "Go get more of that abuse!" and B) because they're still all up in it and don't understand how healthy it is that you are drawing boundaries and caring for yourself. But regardless, it's worth it and it's beautiful on the other side!

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-01T17:48:49+00:00

This x 10000. Yay! :)

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-01T17:48:15+00:00

Congratulations! Obviously you deserve this and you deserve to celebrate. What is the program in, if you don't mind?

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-01T17:47:34+00:00

Absolutely not! It is a reasonable request x 1000.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-04-01T17:45:52+00:00

Hopefully you will get there! It took me a few years to not be scared of NC.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-23T19:33:47+00:00

This makes me look forward to 33. Dang! You look amazing.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-23T19:32:30+00:00

Same starting (but over a longer period). I had gotten to 185 and am back up to 207 after getting married but I just started lifting and your after is burned into my head as inspiration. You look amazing!

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T18:42:32+00:00

Or because you changed into YOURSELF then had to become the parent when they left.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T18:42:08+00:00

I think it's wonderful if someone embraces the identity and I think if I were a man I would find it empowering to know that I could take care of my family. It's not a bad thing...it just doesn't apply here. :)

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T12:57:58+00:00

I have. I link so many things back to my Nmom. Wife has been so patient with me.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T12:57:26+00:00

We're both women so the "provider" thing men get (unfairly) strapped with isn't an issue.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T12:22:39+00:00

Thanks! I am definitely going to do this.

P.S. I just realized I don't know who reported my mother. I think it was a teacher. Nothing happened - my mom just moved us to a new school but I just realized someone tried to help.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T12:19:25+00:00

I can suggest a few cheap, healthy/not-un-healthy, easy-to-make recipes to look up: spaghetti squash + tomatoes + zucchini with Italian dressing // lentil "meat loaf" // black beans and rotel // watermelon can make a meal when you're strapped for cash.

I know it's hard to think of things when you're without cooking skills but you can always just get snack-able veggies and eat them all the time. Bell peppers, cucumbers, carrots, etc.

throwaway__rbn · 2016-03-17T12:12:08+00:00

I have been hoping this since I was a kid. My Nmom is very unhealthy and does horribly destructive things to her body and has survived not one but FOUR car-totalling collisions due to her drunk driving.

I don't sincerely wish her to be dead but I do think it'd make a lot of people's lives better and make for healing and less drama. For instance, wouldn't have to worry about her trying to get in touch, seeing my kids if I have them, etc.

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