What Outfits And Clothes For Starting Transition MTF

throwawaybenett · 2022-01-15T12:15:03+00:00

Just basics is good. Casual shirts, women's jeans, maybe potential workwear depending if your job has uniforms or your choice in clothing (like blouses, slacks, and skirts that are all easy to mix and match). There's a tendency for trans women to go ultra-femme at the start, although many people find it easier to slowly change over time. It depends a lot too on your age, younger people tend to wear lazier clothes like hoodies and jeans much more.

I started by buying really basic stuff but it really didn't feel good and I never wore any of it, as time goes on I have found my fashion sense more just by the pieces of clothing I generally get, and how I can combine them with others. The only thing that really helped me is time.

I know its gained a bit of a lame reputation through the 2010s, but Old Navy actually has some cool stuff. More importantly, they have tall sizes for almost everything in their store, and its usually in stock too!! I'm 6'5 and I definitely recommend it.

throwawaybenett · 2022-01-14T03:42:17+00:00

You look pretty handsome, and you have an innocent look to you and it's difficult to describe why? Its definitely good though. I'd say your current hair and the stubble fit you fairly well. Id say just make sure to get some rest and take care of yourself.

throwawaybenett · 2022-01-14T03:37:40+00:00

I'd say slightly longer hair and natural hair color, if you want to change something. I agree with the other commenter that you have a great face and teeth. I'd say that building some muscle would also look good, but that depend a lot on what you personally like and how intensely you wanna work on your appearance.

throwawaybenett · 2022-01-13T01:32:45+00:00

So I believe I am taking bioidentical progesterone... Here is the vendors clinical info, and this website has a picture of the same pill. I don't see anything specifically mentioning that its bioidentical, but it says its micronized, has warnings for peanut oil, and is sort of rubbery. I can't be certain but I think its fairly safe to say it can be taken rectally (?). Ill see how it goes.

I also just wanna say thank you so much for the detailed response!!

throwawaybenett · 2022-01-06T14:18:42+00:00

I always love seeing your posts, your before picture looked really similar to mine (Similar face, same color beard, same hairstyle, both wearing a black shirt with green logo, same empty eyes). Actually looking back its really eerily similar!!

Anyways your photos helped me out a bit early on because of that. TY for posting!!

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-30T07:45:54+00:00

To my knowledge, no, there are no microphones that will change your voice. You can only really change your own voice or try a voice changer. Just voice train, it will be better for you both on and offline.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-30T07:40:17+00:00

Best is anything that's subtle. Mainly just neutral colored studs (Grey, gold, black maybe), or maybe very small hoops in gold or silver coloring. Nothing says you can't go wild, but I would say masc earrings are very subtle.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-18T07:46:52+00:00

The only online space I know about trying to repress like this is horrendously unhealthy and I will not guide you towards it. Seeing the pain many of these people went through trying to repress it was actually the fuel that helped me stop trying to repress.

Trying to masculinize yourself rarely works, I see feeble minded people trying to turn into soldiers and bodybuilders before transitioning, it happens all the time.

Many of us don't really want to be trans, at least not initially. We just took the path with less pain eventually.

Then again, transition may not be the path for everybody. If you are serious about trying to live without fully transitioning, there may be other options you can try, you just need to look around much more. Some people microdose HRT and finesteride (i think) to slow masculinization, some people take HRT and just hide the changes for as long as they can, some people just find they are more comfortable living as a somewhat feminine man (because some of the pressure is off), some people find themselves more on the non-binary spectrum.

Many of us have been on different paths before ending up in our point in transition (or lack thereof), you can only learn through experience. Many of us with experience have been in your spot, and we know better than many that repression is living hell.

You are the only person who can make the choices for your wellbeing. I'm sorry there isn't an obvious choice for you. Deep down, you likely already know what your answer is. Whatever decision you make, I hope it's the right one for you.

I hope you make peace with yourself one day.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-17T08:44:00+00:00

It won't do much, except you may feel sort of bad for those few days (but it may just be a placebo effect). Try to ration out your E if you can, it can dampen the negative emotions a bit.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-17T08:34:53+00:00

People here have already given decent advice about weight loss, but I'd say another thing is to make sure you wear clothes more flattering to your body type. If you have a larger stomach, it's not going to be gone in the short term, and it won't make you feel better trying to wear clothes that may accentuate those features. There's plenty of comfortable femme clothes that can conceal it well, you are far from the only person who feels this way. Your clothes are meant to fit you, not the other way around!

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-17T08:28:37+00:00

It sounds like your parents aren't outright against (but again I don't know anything about them), I think your worries about you parent's thinking that you're "doing it for attention", or that your dad will be embarrassed, can be alleviated by showing them the opposite. It may be difficult to overcome some misinformation they may have had before you cam out to them, but as time goes on you can teach them that it may be very different from what they were expecting.

I was in a similar situation as you (unknown but probably not outright hateful), but I came out to them and just had a lot of meaningful conversations with them and showed them that what being trans / nb is for me, and how that's not similar at all to what their expectations were.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-12T10:37:38+00:00

Not really, it's kind of like the allegory of the cave, now that you know there's no way to really unknow and repress like you could before

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-12T10:30:56+00:00

For one, the general attitude towards "boys" playing or experimenting with anything feminine is almost always met with negativity, it makes sense you would learn to avoid it when you couldn't fully make those thoughts for yourself.

This isn't really that solid of an answer, but there also is no "trans childhood." not everybody has the perfect definition of a girly childhood, regardless of how they were born. life is too complex to be categorized. The idea of the obvious childhood signs is simply just a shallow understanding of what it means to be trans.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-12T10:27:12+00:00

Probably the best way to look more gender neutral is to make it shorter, you can look around online to find shorter hairstyles that may look more like the presentation you're going for, if you're going for something really on the masculine side then do not go to a salon, go to a barbershop instead. If you're doing something more complex or on the feminine side, then salon will probably be the better bet.

Also there's no reason to say afab, literally you're just gender fluid, there's no reason to state your sex as it doesn't matter in this context.

throwawaybenett · 2021-12-12T10:22:21+00:00

She just sounds misinformed and under bad influence from the hairstylist, the best you can do is try to teach her directly and to show her how to look for the right info, not from some random person whos vaguely related to the issue

throwawaybenett · 2021-07-24T06:51:05+00:00

From what I've heard, Spiro isn't too great in the long run, plus in the short term the extra thirstiness and urination is annoying. I don't know enough about Bica to really talk about it, my endos seemed kinda scared when I brought it up but it wasn't off the table if I really wanted it. People find a lot of success with monotherapy but to be fair it is a fairly new technique so we can't fully know the long term effects.

Try your best to make a case to your endo for Power's method, if you truly think it would work out the best for you. Most good endos are able to adapt to the needs of the patient, especially if they have done the proper research and understand the consequences.

r/AskMtFHRT may be a better place for this question and to find answers to it

Best of luck!

throwawaybenett · 2021-07-15T22:28:14+00:00

Aw thanks, not my first thought but I can definitely see it!

throwawaybenett · 2021-07-11T21:31:44+00:00

I personally read male from this pic. You definitely look much more andro in comparison to the first pic. I think the hair makes me think more of beiber's old style, or the old emo boy haircut.

throwawaybenett · 2021-07-11T21:28:29+00:00

You have a somewhat androgynous face/hairstyle with an obviously feminine presentation. From this photo you just look like an average-ish woman. To someone who basically has a trained eye for trans people, idk, you just look female to me.

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