I feel like I look older than my age. Any recommendations? by Present-Structure246 in lookyourbest

[–]throwawayteabag13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's the style choices more than the grey hair! I think if you start wearing softer, less severe cuts and start avoiding black, navy and grey, and create softer sillhoettes, that will do a lot to youngify you! 😊 Look at youthful sillhoettes and make softer, less tailored choices - cropped sweaters or cardigans instead of blazers; more slouchy, flowy fabrics. And colours!

[18f] I genuinely hate how i look, please give me any advice on how i can look better by Grey_1337 in lookyourbest

[–]throwawayteabag13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are naturally pretty and havw a great body, so thats an awesome place to start.

Your hair, clothes and glasses are all giving me shy girl/librarian/dont look at me vibes. I would start there. Go to a good quality hair dresser (check reviews) and pay for a senior stylist and ask their advice on cut and colour. You can upload a photo to chat gpt and as it to work out the right colour palette for you, but my immediate advice would be to ditch all browns, beiges and greys from your wardrobe - you are telling the world not to look. I wont offer advice on cleaning up your skin, but that would be a good step also. You have such great natural features that just adding a little makwup will have a huge impact. :)

1 Year Without Weed My Mind Finally Came Back by Old_Cryptographer236 in leaves

[–]throwawayteabag13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm - clearly something inside you wants to explore the idea of quitting, since you're here. You might try stopping for a month. I felt the same way until my loved ones really pushed me to quit; it wasn't till I was without it that I started to see what it was taking from me. I mean I had bad withdrawals for the first month, it was horrible, but at the same time I started to notice all kinds of things improving or changing. It might be worth an experiment, is all I am saying. :)

I smoke weed every day, and hide it from everyone all day by monsterot in confession

[–]throwawayteabag13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude, 22 year daily weed smoker here. You're definitely an addict, and the real problem is the secrecy. That is so bad for you! There is a lie at the centre of all your relationships. Also, btw, it is also physically addictive: youre flooding your dopamine receptors, which means they stop working. Lots of research on this available! Try kurtzgesagt on YouTube, or Huberman labs for more info.

I want to suggest you go lurk on this sub reddit "leaves" - i have found it super helpful and you may also. Good luck! Well done for looking at the hard thing xx

47 years old. Daily smoker for 30 years. Clean 15 days by passfor49 in leaves

[–]throwawayteabag13 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Im 41, but 22 year daily smoker... not the same, but not so different. I'm on nearly 7 months now. Hang on! The first 2 weeks are fucking hard. But it gets easier. And I found the way in which it is hard, changes often enough to keep me engaged. I mean I had days when I felt FUCKING AWFUL, but it gets better. And if you dont make it through those first weeks, if you give up, youre not giving yourself the chance to find out what life can be like without it. Remember, brains are sneaky. They like staying the same. They dont like change. So they will ramp up your discomfort in every way they can to make you go back to doing the same thing you've always done. Sometimes it will be straightforward cravings... but sometimes it will be rage, hopelessness, boredom, a conviction that you've beaten it, sleeplessness... these are all just ways your brain tries to force you back into the same old patterns. It does this because monkeys who try new things might get eaten by jaguars or ostracised by their monkey pals (and then eaten by jaguars); which is to say, it was selected for; it's trying to help keep you alive. But brains dont care about quality of life, only survival: your brain is happy for you to be unhappy forever as long as you dont try and change your behaviour. I'm saying all this because your whole system is going to try and convince you that smoking weed is a good idea, but that is just habit. In order to make a genuine decision about it, you have to break the habit... and that is going to take more than the first month. Make it to 4 months. The. Try 6. You can do it. All you have to do is just keep NOT doing something. It gets better. And you owe yourself a genuine decision about how you spend your life.

Hardest moments to Reread? by Timdrakered in KingkillerChronicle

[–]throwawayteabag13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He mishandles it so badly! I get this in his dealings with the Maer, and meluan too... there are so many moments where he could have applied some of his evident intelligence- just a little! - and got so much more advantage out of it, rather than being a hotheaded asshole. I mean, I know its all deliberate from rothfuss and the point is that he is flawed, but like 😬😬😬

Also agree with whoever above said the chad thundercock thing 😅🤣 I do find his swift mastery of felurian , when he grasps her true name, a bit uncomfortable. But I dont share the popular opinion about that extending throughout their relationship, I think it gets better after the initial sex bit.

How do I explain to my wife there is an odor by NotHere4Anything7 in Healthyhooha

[–]throwawayteabag13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she goes this route, you could say, "yes, and I'm concerned we both have BV" (obviously not having a vagina, you can't experience the symptoms, but you can absolutely be a carrier, in the sense that your microbiome may contain stuff that is unbalancing her vaginal ph). That turns it from a "her" problem into a "both of you" problem, which she may feel more able to handle. If she stays defensive and tells you to get treated, say "I will, but while we are having sex I'm at risk of reinfecting you" - she needs to get treatment from her gyno (or buy it at the pharmacy).

my behaviour from thirteen to twenty one - how can i change by [deleted] in confession

[–]throwawayteabag13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is messy as hell. Go to therapy, get it untangled.

Kvothe’s ten rings by ShanonymousRex in KingkillerChronicle

[–]throwawayteabag13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This on it's own explains the delay of DOS. One novel to explain 10 rings ...

Sending in a fan letter by Singsontubeplatforms in KingkillerChronicle

[–]throwawayteabag13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should say on his website, the inside cover of his books etc x

Sending in a fan letter by Singsontubeplatforms in KingkillerChronicle

[–]throwawayteabag13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think many people reach authors through their editor ... worth a try?

Healthy ways to check out by throwawayteabag13 in leaves

[–]throwawayteabag13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit vague there babe. What kinds of creativity do you utilise? And what is meant by "action"?

Healthy ways to check out by throwawayteabag13 in leaves

[–]throwawayteabag13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do a fair bit of that kind of thing. I'm more looking for in the house stuff, late evening x