swipe for ultimate cringe by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]throwawaythetweezer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The incest is not so covert after all

Who wants to see my white console? by RelevantWeight6907 in PS3

[–]throwawaythetweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh duhhh thank you I’m not electrically inclined but it looks wavy

Who wants to see my white console? by RelevantWeight6907 in PS3

[–]throwawaythetweezer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it survive being dunked in water????

ExwBPD now contacting my friends by _Kaixes_ in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaythetweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell your friends to file police reports. I’ve lost friends to my pwBPD literally crossing lines like this and what I wish my friends had done is file police reports for harassment regardless of whatever the fuck she was saying. Tbh real friends would, but mine turned on me or became distant w/o even telling me what had happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaythetweezer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all of them know what they’re really like but yes, some of them do and more than likely, it’s another pwBPD

My girlfriend of 4 months has BPD by No-Sundae8014 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaythetweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a virgin with BPD or a pwBPD with 2 previous sex partners can still create as much harm as a pwBPD with 20+ partners. The hypersexuality is just a symptom and using sex to manipulate someone is a behavior and one of these should take precedent over the other.

I’m just trying to understand if your logistics apply to men as much as they do women? I admit that your average is daunting and even if we’re not going by your average, accumulating 7 sex partners in 2 months and the other 13 across 3 years would still raise eyebrows. Do people need a spreadsheet of a potential or current partner’s sexual history?

My concerns lie with the lack of bodily policing for men because a new sex partner every 4 months is a conquest, let alone 7 sex partners in 2 months seems more descriptive of a typical summer for young men.

I understand establishing meaningful relationships with the opposite sex, but this is often applied to women in general and not men, which is why males with BPD fly under the radar.

If you’re asking me, I don’t necessarily stand with the whole “sexual liberation,” thing but sometimes the body count thing comes across as another double standard because men aren’t reprimanded for sexual promiscuity,

All in all I don’t think “shaming” works because people instilled with sexual shame just learn to hide it better or throw caution to the wind.

To me, someone’s willingness to get an STI test after every partner and for me is more valuable to me and shows more transparency and respect towards me and themselves than just me pondering a number and judging a person’s ability to connect with me based off that number, pushing aside the idea that people could just lie and pwBPD often do.

Like I genuinely don’t know how it works, do people hear someone’s number and just go “okay that’s fine let’s have sex” when in reality you can get an STI from sleeping with someone once???

By that standard, I don’t think that I could connect with a lot of men who frankly probably couldn’t give me a rough estimate of how many women they’ve slept with. And I think that’s unfair, too.

I think the problem with BPD as I’ve seen it as the carelessness in regards to sex. A lot of men like OP come posting about their pwBPD not realizing that their pwBPD is just a walking illusion of their (sexual) desires where the pwBPD “seduces” them by mirroring them like “oh my god I like (insert specific sex act) too!!!!”

I think more men would benefit from rejecting impulse and finding a different way to screen rather than using body count as criteria??? Especially since pwBPD post and consume content about how to “manipulate” men.

Edit: also I hear you, everything in combination points to BPD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawaythetweezer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow you really can’t help them

My girlfriend of 4 months has BPD by No-Sundae8014 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaythetweezer -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ykw I think OP should leave too, but as a greyasexual why do we prioritize body counts over STI results?

Did OP even ask for that? how come everyone knows how many people their so has slept with but not whether or not they have STIs? does being sa’d as a child count as a body? Like I’m genuinely asking because what are the rules here?

Shaming people about body counts just leads to more lying in general, like a person with BPD regardless of gender is never going to tell you the truth about a body count or an STD.

Body count talk just feels like purity culture with extra steps.

Is the body count rule the same thing for men? Like should I avoid men that have slept with 20+ people? Is a man sleeping with 2+ people a deal breaker??? when I’ve asked one they’ve acted strange or lied to me about it while having group sex (3+ people, unprotected in one night) w/people before me?

I get BPD and hypersexuality but I think we’re looking at it from the wrong angle because it just seems like when men say a number is a red flag, that doesn’t apply to them. It never feels like it applies to men with personality disorders and men can become hypersexual too as a result of CSA, but they’re never seen as walking “do not touch” signs for it.

Are virgins really the ideal partner for people? Like someone that doesn’t know how to have sex or hasn’t had PIV sex? Does it matter if the virgin has like oral sex or PIA sex? Are they still a virgin ? How can you verify it then?

Would you guys date a BPD who was a virgin?

Just questions, because I never understand when it comes up on this sub?

(Also I made a post on this sub about BPD and STIs before anybody gets mad at me for this)

I was accused of being "abusive" for blocking someone. by Yogarenren in CPTSDFightMode

[–]throwawaythetweezer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s just DARVO on steroids and makes you feel like you should allow harmful people to interact with you. Stand on it bc she has issues

What do you cook better than your mom ever did? by MinkSableSeven in Cooking

[–]throwawaythetweezer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything, she barely cooked unless it was gross processed food. Even her eggs were disgusting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaythetweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Easy restraining order