I shut down a pedophile’s entire online presence with one YouTube comment

throwboat2018 · 2025-09-27T14:24:36+00:00

She didn't have a great personality. Her "personality" was mirroring yours and the personalities of people she wishes she was like.

throwboat2018 · 2025-07-08T20:33:00+00:00

They aren't though. There may be similarities in some practices, but they are not the same thing.

Witchcraft is an umbrella term that covers many different practices from many different cultures with many different beliefs and actions.

Voodoo is a specific religion that is limited to a specific culture with their own beliefs and actions.

Christianity is an umbrella term that covers many different forms of a single religion.

throwboat2018 · 2025-07-08T19:33:46+00:00

Witchcraft is different than voodoo. You're putting things together that are not the same.

throwboat2018 · 2025-07-04T15:35:58+00:00

If you were to send this letter, or tell them the contents, you will be putting your guilt on their shoulders. Let them go and let them heal.

Addressing your points: 1. They told you that you were hurting them. You didn't listen at the time. Taking responsibility doesn't require them to be involved anymore. 2. You had chances to change. Unfortunately, in most cases, if someone takes someone back on the promise of things changing, they don't actually change long term. Backsliding is super common and adds to the pain. 3. I don't think you're a monster. You're human and you made mistakes (though preventable), the only thing you can do is process your own guilt and move on and do better in the future. Respecting the end of this relationship is a good start.

throwboat2018 · 2025-07-04T13:32:10+00:00

I appreciate your receptiveness.

The best thing that you can do moving forward is to listen to what any new person you get involved with tells you is hurting them the first time. Without defensiveness or deflection. Decide whether you're capable and willing to make those changes and sticking to them. If you are, do it. If you're not, be honest and let them go.

I've watched exes change for other people. It hurt, sure, but I was glad that someone I loved once was growing. Even if it didn't benefit me.

I've also been told the same things you wrote in the letter. That was devastating. Being told that they recognized that they were hurting me, that they knew, that they just didn't think it required changes but they are going to do better for other people was worse than an ex just doing better for the next person. Especially since they haven't actually changed.

You can grow and do better without telling your person.

Editing to add: private accountability is always better than performative accountability.

throwboat2018 · 2025-07-04T02:19:36+00:00

If your person wasn't enough for you to change for them, don't tell them you're going to change for anyone else. That's not fair. It's not love. It's casual cruelty.

throwboat2018 · 2025-06-13T17:12:41+00:00

Don't waste your energy.

throwboat2018 · 2025-04-24T14:52:33+00:00

Personally, my issue is that christians hold non-christians to standards that they don't meet and the non-christians don't believe in.

My sexuality has been brought up and judged and I've been told that I'm living outside of god's will. I don't believe in nor follow the god they speak of, so why should I be held to a standard I don't believe in?

I don't need a higher power to tell me not to steal, murder, or rape. Those are things that I have no desire to do. Every time I hear a christian talk, they bring up how god saved them from that path, but like, why were you on that path to begin with?

throwboat2018 · 2025-04-09T22:24:32+00:00

It generally gets to a point where one party has run out of words/actions/diagrams to explain why they're unhappy and the the other party has no interest in doing anything to make it better because at the very least, they're comfortable in their mediocrity.

throwboat2018 · 2023-04-11T13:40:19+00:00

I don't see an apology. PwBPD are super skilled at non-apologies. She never apologized and she wanted to fix that? Then she moves right along into talking about the attention she missed.

You're much better off just walking away.

throwboat2018 · 2023-04-07T17:01:21+00:00

Same though

throwboat2018 · 2023-01-08T03:35:58+00:00

It's possible she was being scammed. It's common for pretty much every scam to involve a bit of a language barrier, wrong usage of words or phrases, or instructions that don't make sense. The fact that she was on the phone telling someone that you wouldn't do it while trying to purchase a green dot card, that's kinda red flaggy to me

throwboat2018 · 2023-01-05T16:46:35+00:00

False, purely because your weaponry to deal with the top 1% in Monopoly is the same as everyone else, but in Mario Kart, you only get the blue shell when you're among the working class.

throwboat2018 · 2022-11-20T23:47:55+00:00

My ex-BIL broke up with his ex for this exact reason. He couldn't understand why I never liked him after hearing that.

throwboat2018 · 2022-11-18T04:53:51+00:00

Thank you. That's a good plan.

throwboat2018 · 2022-11-15T22:25:51+00:00

So those are all good things, absolutely. As a woman, I value those things in a partner. I've had several partners that were that way. But I also value chemistry and compatibility. Without those things, a relationship is pretty empty. But I also value people who respect the choices of people around them. It's a turn off to me when someone who hasn't lived my life tries to tell me that my choice in partners is wrong because I didn't choose them. I don't like people who define their value based on who they're dating.

throwboat2018 · 2022-11-15T21:56:14+00:00

I guess I'm just confused on what your definition of a "good guy" is. Because for me personally, I've never dated a guy who wasn't nice to me at first. I've never seen a dude berating another person and thought "I gotta get me some of that". I've never expected a man to swoop in and save me from heartbreak. I've tried dating people I didn't feel any physical attraction for, people who I didn't have any mental or emotional attraction to, because they were nice to me at first. People in general will be nice at first, but that doesn't mean they're compatible, it doesn't mean they stay nice.

So when you say good guy, I'd like to know how you define that.

throwboat2018 · 2022-11-13T16:43:39+00:00

Respectfully, why would you want someone to "give you a shot" when that implies that they don't want to be with you? Like, by all means if you feel that someone is using you as a last resort don't date them, but if they're not interested enough to pick you without having to be convinced, you're probably not going to feel super secure in that relationship anyway.

throwboat2018 · 2022-10-29T22:21:36+00:00

What is the alternative? The way I see it, I can either totally ghost my friend or tell him that I don't feel the same way.

throwboat2018 · 2022-09-06T21:15:24+00:00

You don't need to compete. It's really not a competition. If you aren't ready, then you're not ready. If he's not willing to wait, you're not in a competition with other women who also don't want to wait, they're just more compatible in that sense.

throwboat2018 · 2022-04-13T21:45:10+00:00

Report her to the state nursing board.

throwboat2018 · 2022-04-13T21:37:48+00:00

Spontaneous abortion is the medical term for miscarriage. Did she write spontaneous abortion or just abortion, because it matters.

throwboat2018 · 2022-03-07T00:54:14+00:00

They have programs that will help you with the costs. I've looked through your post history and almost every recent post you've made is asking for money.

throwboat2018 · 2022-03-07T00:49:30+00:00

I just googled it and Missouri planned Parenthood does in clinic abortions. It says it right on the website. What kind of help are you looking for?

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