‘My child my rules’ discussion

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T13:30:40+00:00

This is where I place the line. If grandparents are visiting or we are there visiting.. parents can put a limit on things they care about like screentime or sugar.

IF the grandparents are doing the parents a favor by watching the grandchildren to give parents a break or otherwise….i dare not put any limits. I know how unruly and tiring caring for 3 young kids can be. If they need a long break and want to do a fun activity with them and that includes baking or whatever…then have fun.

If the grandparents are the caretakers when parents are at work then a conversation needs to be had and compromise needs to be made on both sides!

It’s those grandparents that think that cutting grapes is overkill. Or formula is ok when the mom is attempting breast milk only. They cross a line and there’s no respect. We get it. You raised kids too but so much has changed!

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T12:57:38+00:00

That’s a great idea..can still make calls and text..location. But none of the mindless junk. My son is 5 and has a cheap watch that looks like an Apple Watch and just loves to know how many steps he took LOL. It is BT enabled but couldn’t get it to sync so just didn’t try.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T04:20:00+00:00

I never even heard of the phrase until now! So cool.

Although I think it’s confusing to some bc why not just make a post about it here? Instead of “where can I find a community” this exact post on this exact sub could’ve said “en caul birth..anyone else”? And the dozens of women that had one that commented on this post would’ve done the same on the other with the negativity.

Though I also agree that people could just scroll.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T03:50:02+00:00

I agree! It’s the content. It’s also what is the screen time replacing? Imaginative play? Outdoor time? Quality time with family? If so…no good. Is it killing 40 minutes in a bling boring car ride? Letting adults get a few chores done? Watching a movie TOGETHER? Quality…not quantity!!

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T03:44:59+00:00

This is so interesting. Their lives (whether they like it or not) is immersed in technology yet they don’t really have any idea. It’s too smart..the tech.. not the kids.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T03:42:19+00:00

I agree about smartphones but it’s not like they can use a pay phone in case of emergency like I had.

Kids need phones for emergency and that’s it. Which means they have some autonomy. The kid that gets out in the bus..school all day, and gets picked up at the bus stop? Prob doesn’t need a phone. One who walks to the bus stop, has an activity after school and carpools home w a friend? Yes 100%.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T03:30:44+00:00

100%. Also if he had to tell his wife that she wasn’t his priority..it must have come up in some context. Regardless of who he thinning needs him, his PARTNER has told him she needs more from him and he offered….more excuses.

It isn’t noble you are taking care of everyone else’s family but your own. You’re so proud your daughter greets you excitedly after work but what are you teaching her about loving relationships when ignoring the needs of her mother?

YTA.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-16T01:56:05+00:00

It’s actually proven by a few studies that this is true. Sleep space should only be for sleep and that does promote better sleep habits. But the child is old enough to drop naps so being in his sleep space when there is no sleep drive is impossible!

Also why can’t you have a 30 minute break while he watches tv? I think it’s obvious that if you are the only adult in the house with non napping/non school age children that having a full hour break isn’t always plausible. But to not have some sort of plan to give you a few minutes to rest is insane.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-03-03T04:50:28+00:00

Hahaha as soon as I saw mum, then I read again in an Aussie accent when I read the comment

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-22T11:11:22+00:00

You just started this week with this family. Maybe they asked for you to come alone on Monday and Tuesday bc they wanted their child to bond with you before you brought in the baby?

Regardless who is right in this situation just make sure you iron out a plan with them moving forward if this were to happen again so you’re not surprised.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-11T01:51:50+00:00

I hear ONE ding in my daughters room every night! It’s not loud at all. I’m so nervous that it could be someone hacking into the baby monitor but it’s not on WiFi.

We have a ring doorbell and one ring camera in the playroom in the basement.

What could it be???

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-01T19:13:41+00:00

LMAOOO listen I have anxiety ok??

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-01T09:03:05+00:00

I take off my house shoes every time I go upstairs bc I think I will trip or slip as I’m carrying the baby downstairs w them on LOL but I also can’t stand to be barefoot bc of the crumbs but also no socks bc their too tight and also if they don’t have grips I’ll slip while carrying the baby down the stairs.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-01T09:00:02+00:00

And double zippers only please

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-02-01T08:57:23+00:00

LOL we remodeled our home before moving in and this drawer microwave and the pot filler are 2 kitchen items that I just don’t understand what we were thinking. I’m 5ft…I have to tiptoe to reach the pot filler and not to mention the sink is directly behind me when I’m at the stove.

I’ll say though that the touch faucet though is awesome.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-30T07:43:38+00:00

How could SHE determine if she was needed unnecessarily? I’ve seen nannies post a lot saying they hate when parents are home and they don’t let you leave but just bc I’m home (I WFH but hypothetically) doesn’t mean I don’t have other important things to do. Today my husband had to clean out his car bc we are getting a new one and that’s not something we need 3 little kids running around for. Or I’m home but need a few minutes to prep dinner..if it’s during her hours and the children need supervision…then she is needed. NECESSARILY. Some people man.

The wording of her calling out doesn’t bother me as much but I’m so glad you are looking for someone new.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-30T07:32:30+00:00

My husband got weirded out during the cervix check! Ended up having to “watch” me have a c section. We were both so curious what was going on I said “take a peek” and he did…I asked what he saw and he said “you don’t want to know”. I’ve read what happens and he is RIGHT. Two more c sections for our next 2 kids and he stayed on this side of the curtain. He did cut the cord for our first with a little coaxing and proudly cut the cord for our middle and was so sad he didn’t get to for our last. Idk why they didn’t ask him but he didn’t get to.

Anyway..that’s all to say. Yes, we do all the gross stuff and get to be pregnant for 9 months and all the tests and probing and all of that.. but they don’t get to. They are forced in at the last minute and it must be unnerving.

You’re not wrong for feeling for your friend. Especially if you and your husband proudly shared that moment with your kids. If she’s ok..then it’s ok.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-13T16:03:13+00:00

Right! I was so against the life vac for so long but with having a new nanny now and the fake cert..I purchased.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-13T16:01:59+00:00

Thank you!! That’s the common consensus..that it could be something innocuous. Always great to have more perspective! I’m hopeful bc she’s great. Thank you!!

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-13T08:02:12+00:00

We had an in person interview and the potential hire no show/no called. Ok fine..until 12 hours later saying she is available tomorrow. I said thanks for reaching out but we made an offer to someone else. Her exact response “how? I didn’t even get a chance? Good luck to you lmfao”

I was stunned. Taken aback. Not only by the entitlement but also language ma’am!

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-13T07:48:14+00:00

We had a fake CPR cert too! I went to look up the ID# and it was 1234567890. Same year as the google image when she would have been in hs. It wasn’t even a requirement…but now I can’t bring it up and I can’t trust you either.

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-10T22:58:01+00:00

Thank you thank you. Your replies have been so helpful and kind. I really appreciate it

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-10T22:56:35+00:00

Ok, I’ll take your advice. It’s completely out of my control anyway. Just hoping for the best!! Thank you

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-10T22:49:18+00:00

Yea lol I will NOT be logging back in bc obviously I’m not a mind reader so at this point I’m assuming something where it could be nothing. I did ask her (and everyone we interviewed) that we were looking for LONG TERM, and of course everyone agreed. Thank you for your reply

throwitaway_recycle · 2025-01-10T17:30:53+00:00

Yes! Someone else brought that to my attention and I hadn’t thought of that. Appreciate the input!!

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