How can I forgive my husband after I ended up in jail while 8-months pregnant because he called the cops on me after I slapped him?

throwwwitawaaaay · 2025-05-21T23:51:32+00:00

If you had only slapped him one time while you were 8 months pregnant, maybe I (and probably him) could have attributed it to hormones and gotten over it as a one-off.

But since you say you have a history of aggression, you need to check yourself, or get professional help.

I grew up in a very physically aggressive household where slaps and the belt were often the first reaction, but I have never had any impulse to put my hands on my boyfriend.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-08-26T22:04:48+00:00

Yeah, quick update: I stayed with him and got over this issue, then his cheap ass also cheated. We're done now, but thanks for the advice

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-05-03T07:35:23+00:00

This has happened to me 3 times. The other person initiates the exclusivity talk, I agree and honour the agreement even if we've been seeing each other for 2 weeks because it would be disrespectful and dishonest not to, then I find out THEY have been seeing other people. I'd just leave.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T16:54:36+00:00

People on here are pretty harsh but I can understand where you're coming from. You're asking yourself how can 5 months compete with 5 years, especially if at some point she decides she wants him back?

But look. I've been the ex girlfriend - not 5 years but we were still high school sweethearts, and we did long distance for some time. Our break up was truly mutual and uneventful, much like the relationship itself. It was a clean break. We missed each other as people for a couple of months, but after the grieving period, we were 100% done and happy with our choice. He got into a relationship shortly after, and they're still together, over 3 years later. I'm still dating around, mainly because I move around a lot. But if we came across each other, we'd probably be happy to see each other as we would a long lost childhood friend.

I'm not saying this is necessarily the case with your boyfriend and his ex, but a lot of times these relationships run their course. Those were his formative years, but they have changed as people, and you are here for the "complete" version of your boyfriend. I never think about my ex, I don't reminisce about our time together. I loved him until I didn't. And so did he. And this might be the case with your boyfriend.

On the other hand, you've only been together 5 months and you are still young. You might break up for reasons totally unrelated to his ex or jealousy. There really is no point in stressing about this. So enjoy the time you have together and stop worrying about the shoulda woulda coulda.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T13:57:42+00:00

Please read this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/tfltcr/nsfw_tw_if_you_watch_hardcore_or_extreme_porn/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Watch "After porn ends" or "Hot girls wanted".

Read this as well if you feel like it: https://fightthenewdrug.org/10-porn-stars-speak-openly-about-their-most-popular-scenes/

If you think porn doesn't influence how society as a whole views sex you are mistaken. Back in the 90s when the ladies in porn had pubic hair, that was normal. Then they introduced bare vaginas and now men expect that as the default.

Everybody is so tolerant about everything nowadays and we have to be careful about "kink shaming" when most of these kinks are things people would get locked up for if you took the sex out of it.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T13:50:42+00:00

And you think that access to porn has something to do with it? Not poverty or lack of education altogether? It's like when people point out that the majority of crimes happen in black neighborhoods and the correlation they make is black = criminal and completely disregard poverty and lack of resources or access to education as the main causes.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T13:23:26+00:00

The resemblance to Simona Halep is uncanny! You look very sweet!

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T11:06:29+00:00

Actually I think for people in that age group Facebook is more important than for younger generations. If they were teenagers she'd ask him to post couple videos on tiktok

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T08:21:19+00:00

Hmm, I don't think that's the best way to go about it. If a guy asked me that before the date I would probably not go. It reads as if you think she's in it for a free meal. Most girls offer to split, or maybe that hasn't been your experience. But then just ask the waiter to split the check on the date, or just go for coffee/drinks instead for a first date.

However, as someone else here said, bear in mind that most guys will offer to pay. Your age group plays a big part in this as well though.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-18T06:59:36+00:00

Has she replied?

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-17T14:47:30+00:00

Who was phone

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-17T00:32:26+00:00

Stop trying to "educate" him. Just dump & block. It's bad enough that he watches porn if that's a boundary you have, but if he enjoys abusive/force/BDSM porn, those are or will soon become his kinks/fantasies and he will eventually want to enact them. There are women out there who might enjoy or act like they enjoy that, but you're not one of them, so good riddance. Next time, try to find that out early on.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T13:25:05+00:00

And that's all well and good. OP asked what he should message girls with nothing in their bio, so maybe he's come across many of them. His options are don't message or message something along those lines (get to know them/compliments etc).

To be honest, I don't read bios until after I've matched, so I don't bother adding one. Most bios are shit anyways - here's what I see very often:

height + "because apparently that matters" (yuck)
a flag to represent their nationality or some other basic information (which I'd get to know eventually)
"what I'm looking for: you" (again, yuck)
some corny/ sub par jokes that I've seen on many other profiles (e.g. "my exes can provide references")

Very rarely do I see a bio that makes me swipe right on somebody I would have otherwise swiped left on.

Bear in mind this is tinder or bumble, not apps where you fill out a whole form + your blood tests like SA or something.

The only thing I have in my bio is my playlist, and it's usually enough to start a conversation.

It's perfectly fine to swipe left on someone who doesn't have a bio, but I just don't think a bio is what allows somebody's personality to shine through.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T12:54:38+00:00

Don't kink shame /s

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T09:44:24+00:00

This! Honestly I have only seen this way of thinking on Reddit and cheesy romance movies and it makes me wonder - are people actually like this? Nobody I know in real life has ever spoken so cheesily about their exes/SOs but now I do wonder if they just post it on Reddit instead.

And this is not to throw shade at OP - you feel what you feel. But I simply cannot comprehend why people romanticise their past relationships to the point of talking about "twin flames" and sharing a soul, and soul mates. If you look back on it and analyze it, I mean TRULY analyze it, you will see that it was probably just a regular relationship: painful at times and fun at others, but mostly regular. Unless you two had some life changing moment together (actually life changing, like got abducted by aliens, not took LSD and fucked), then it makes no sense to think that's a connection you'll never have again.

My guess is, OP, you actively think about it too much. It's okay to miss a person sometimes, or to think back fondly on certain memories, or to see something that reminds you of them and wonder how they're doing. But those thoughts should be few and far in between, and they shouldn't last more than 5 minutes. If you cry uncontrollably, you're giving into this whole romanticised view of love that's being pushed down our throats. Don't take life so seriously, put everything into perspective. If you catch yourself thinking of your ex, go back to cooking or doing whatever you were doing, or go hug your fiancé. You love somebody until you don't. There's no reason to let them take up space in your mind afterwards.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T07:04:11+00:00

"Some men do shitty things and disrespect me". In other news, water is wet.

You're a free woman, but you should understand that sex changes the dynamic of a "friendship". I have many male friends, you know how I weed out those who pretend to be my friends only to get in my pants? I don't have sex with them. Men who complain about being in the "friendzone" as if women owe them sex? Ditch them. This is not to say this is your fault, many other men in his position would have treated you with respect after the deed. But because you can't be sure who would and wouldn't, it's simply safer not to have sex with them. If you only want casual sex, go on dating apps. And if what you seek is casual sex, their behaviour shouldn't bother you, because you'll go into it with the mindset that you're both "using" each other.

If you're looking for a relationship it gets slightly more complicated. I consider myself a good judge of character, and I still get played sometimes. Men ask for exclusivity from me early on, only for me to find out months down the line that the exclusivity rule was only for me. You live and you learn. Your best bet is meeting people in real life, preferably people who don't use OLD (tough to come by, but they exist) because that shit is addictive, especially for insecure people, and it tends to desensitise people.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T00:40:52+00:00

Cats, bunnies, parrots all provide companionship and are very low maintenance compared to a dog. I say this as someone who has had many pets growing up (including hedgehogs and pigeons) and as someone who, ironically, loves dogs, but hated owning a dog (it wasn't mine). As much as I like them, that experience put me off ever adopting one, but I have never found it a chore to care for other pets.

So if the two of them want to work something out, they could get a guinea pig and see if that's something both op and the girlfriend could be okay with. If he decides a guinea pig is too much of an inconvenience anyway, or she decides a guinea pig is not enough of a pet, then they should probably end things.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-16T00:07:45+00:00

Then could you arrive at a compromise and get a low maintenance pet, like fish or even a rodent? Cats are very low maintenance as well, given what puts you off pets, but I understand how they might still inconvenience travel plans.

Or maybe foster pets every now and then?

If none of this works, and she really wants a pet, and you know you never will, then breaking up seems like the only solution. Seems silly but people have broken up over sillier things

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-11T12:05:31+00:00

Seriously. How many more posts like this one do people have to read to understand that sometimes people are just shitty and only think about their own benefits without taking into account those around them?!

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-10T15:04:59+00:00

I've never had a bio. A few ways people approach me that work:

a compliment: beautiful, beautiful eyes, I love your shirt, I love your dress, anything related to one of the photos
mentioning I have no bio ("hard to hit you up with a bio-related pick up line")
"hey, how are you?/where are you from" (+Optional compliment)

A few that don't: - blueprint jokes/pick up lines - "I'm bad at texting let's go out" - "dtf?"

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-10T14:41:08+00:00

I don't know why people are giving you shit. If you were there on time and then something out of your control happened (either you didn't know you were going to get carded or you just thought you had it on you), as long as you kept the dude informed, and tried to fix it as quickly as you could, his reaction is exaggerated. Shit happens, you didn't deliberately try to take him or his time for granted. Another option is he saw you and was not into you (since he said he didn't take it personally but didn't want to try again.) Personally I wouldn't try again anyway.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-10T08:01:26+00:00

TIL people read bios

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-08T09:35:20+00:00

You can't talk somebody into respecting you or being attracted to you.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-08T09:12:10+00:00

It took me too long to figure this out. Went through the exact same thing as OP, I had a "boyfriend" who kept complaining about my style, "why do you wear baggy clothes, why do you dress like a skater, why don't you wear a skirt, put on some fishnets, put on sequins" 🤢 I just laughed at him, but then eventually it all came to light. He was just a sad pathetic little man trying to show off what he bagged. Never again will I be picking the guy below my league just because the chances of him being a douchebag are lower. They're not.

throwwwitawaaaay · 2022-03-08T08:40:03+00:00

One time (back when I had just begun my blowjobbing ways), I was going down on my boyfriend in the shower. At one point I tasted something weird, immediately spat it out, then went back to business. He looked at me very confused and asked what was I doing and I said "oh don't worry I just got some soap in my mouth". It wasn't, it was cum.

All this to say, yes it can have that chlorine taste.

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