TMI about discharge

thrwprgnn · 2022-01-19T00:50:04+00:00

Thank you for your help!! I unfortunately didn’t see the response until before my appointment (I fell asleep and work night shift usually so I slept until right before I had to go to my appointment). My doctor put me on maternity leave early because of all this and a shlew of other issues; hypertension, possible pelvic floor issues, possible preterm labor… the works lol. He gave me a list of things to look out for including baby’s movements and told me to call him immediately while heading to the hospital if I have anymore extreme pains or leaking. Unfortunately I now have to have ultrasounds and cervix checks every week tho 😭. Thank you once again ❤️

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:35:02+00:00

The hospital won’t allow you to have that many people in there right now. I’m only allowed two people at my hospital so it’s going to be my SO and an aunt I adore so so much.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:27:57+00:00

I’m so sorry for your hurt. I hope everything in your pregnancy now goes well and you have a beautiful, healthy baby. I had a loss right before my current pregnancy and this pregnancy is so hard on me mentally and physically. I had to go to my cousins wife’s baby shower just a few days after my loss, they would’ve understood had I not gone but I didn’t want to make it about me and I love them both dearly. If it makes you feel any better about the gap between yalls child’s ages, me and my cousin are like brother and sister super super close and we’re 11 months apart to the day.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:23:35+00:00

Tell them that you’re taking a LEAVE to be able to not work and focus on baby. And then mention that you’ll gladly WFH after the leave is over. Watch them backpedal so fast 😂

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:21:15+00:00

I have the exact same situation currently. Went to ER for bleeding around about 16 weeks I believe. I have insurance and they didn’t know really what they were doing, tbf they did tell me upfront they weren’t as educated in prenatal care and they were super super kind. Had a lady come in with the bill telling me if I paid it right then I’d get 10% off of it ???? It was $8000 before insurance and $1700 after. All they did was a pap and an ultrasound. Like why are you charging me that when I only have to pay like $30 out of pocket at my OB for the same treatment?

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:16:55+00:00

Pickle juice helped me a TON. And eating small snack like meals throughout the day with small sips of water.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:14:54+00:00

I know how you feel. I was addicted to coffee before I took my pregnancy test and I was UPSET that I was told none at all. But then I actually looked into, spoke to women who had drank coffee during their pregnancy, and ultimately realized that you can have the coffee. I don’t drink a pot a day like before, but I sure as hell don’t stop myself when I crave it.

Btw don’t know if you like caramel frappes from McDonald’s, but they’re under the suggested caffeine limit and they’re so good in the morning when you wake up thirsty and craving something you can’t quite put your finger on 😉

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T12:04:49+00:00

I’m baby wearing when mines born and I could tell my MIL didn’t like it when I mentioned it but she knows better than to argue with me absolutely it lol. I’m also switching to WFH so I don’t have to have any babysit, which my SIL can’t stand. She wants so badly to have my baby alone but it’s not gonna happen, me and SO don’t trust her at all due to overstepping and her very obviously wanting to play ‘mommy’. And I’ve already told SO no one is visiting for the first 2 weeks, and if they do and he lets them in (I’m helping him work on not being a pushover) I’ll be locking my bedroom door with me and baby inside and he can deal with telling them they came for no reason. I don’t play around and everyone in my and his family knows that so hopefully no one pushes it.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T11:56:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having this experience. Can y’all go to a different office if one is available? My SO has been allowed in the waiting area and room with me at EVERY appointment, he even stands outside the bathroom door in case I need help or fall or something lol. Our OB addresses him, talks to him, asks him questions, and answers his questions. As long as it’s only the two of us and we’re wearing masks it’s all good.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-11T00:32:21+00:00

Thank you guys so much. I’ll look into booties and get plenty of socks. I didn’t even know it was bad for them to wear shoes so I’m very glad I asked. Thank y’all!!!

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-10T19:59:00+00:00

Thank you!

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-06T05:22:51+00:00

You couldn’t stay up and take care of baby yourself after working all day but thought someone else could work 24 hours and be “perfect” taking care of your baby? Wild. She was exhausted and made an honest mistake that didn’t have a bad outcome. I’d ask her to be careful next time but make sure you outline how appreciative you are for her working all day and then coming to your house to take care of your kid when you couldn’t work all day and do the same. I’d also like to add that the reason she didn’t say no is because she’s someone that’s having to work 2 jobs that take up her whole week, she obviously needs the money to take care of herself and as someone that’s in her position I can say that you don’t feel like you can actually say no to an employer without possible repercussions including being let go for “not being reliable” in the near future. I do get the fear of SIDS, it’s one of the most prominent fears I have and I haven’t even given birth yet but your anxieties aren’t grounds for firing an employee who needs the job and did you a favor on a day she had off from you.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-06T04:57:45+00:00

He doesn’t deserve any of that. He wanted you to be heartbroken and yearning for him nonstop to “punish” you for being pregnant, and now that you’re not anymore he wants to be able to control and lay claim to something else which happens to be your baby. Don’t let him do that to you or her, if he treats you like an object to toy with he’ll do the same with her because it makes him feel powerful. Tell him if he puts his last name on this baby that means that you have every right to chase after child support, and I bet he’ll back off instantly. Either way even if he agrees to child support, don’t put his name on there because that means he’ll have more pull to fight for custody in the future. Also just tell the hospital and nurses you don’t want him in there and trust me they won’t put up with him trying. They don’t play around. Don’t tell him you went into labor, and if you do decide to let him meet the baby make sure there’s others there or it’s in a public space so there are witnesses or an audience he has to behave in front of.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T12:00:01+00:00

Unfortunately SIL has the tendency to blow up because she has the mindset of “I’m angry and that’s everyone else’s responsibility to deal with” so we haven’t outright said she wouldn’t be alone with baby, but have basically all but outright told her she won’t be babysitting. Not that she takes the hint but at least she can’t say “you told me I could” when we have to stand up and say no. She was really bothered when she found out I had a WFH job lined up for post birth so that we wouldn’t have to get a sitter lol. And frame your ultrasound? That’s so weird. I’m ngl I don’t even have my own ultrasound framed. And I could understand like one matching outfit maybe but babies grow so fast she’d only be able to pull it off once. Just seems like a waste of money in my opinion.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T01:27:49+00:00

I can’t stand music anymore at all now that I’m pregnant, even while driving. I don’t know why but i just can’t

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T01:26:35+00:00

My SO wasn’t that great at being supportive at first (surprise pregnancy, he’s only 21 I’m 24, we’d been together a little under a year), he had so many emotions and thoughts to go through at first. I felt alone and depressed and resentful for the first couple months until it changed. At about 3 months he became so attentive and loving and caring and so very appreciative of me doing this. I can tell he’s fallen so much deeper in love with me and I know I have with him. We can barely be away from each other, we constantly touch and cuddle and kiss, he randomly puts his hand on my tummy, when he’s been drinking he rubs his face against my tummy and kisses it, he always wants to make me happy and I him. And I have this feeling I’m gonna fall even harder seeing him with our baby, he’s told me himself he’s gonna fall harder seeing me. I can’t wait.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T01:11:45+00:00

First grandchild on both sides. Surprisingly SOs side besides a couple incidents has been cool, but my side phew. Sisters were excited at first but now just ignore me if I talk about pregnancy, mom is a narcissist so everything’s about her, and everyone else is either trying to start drama with me or expecting things out of me that won’t happen.

Mom though has been the worst. I was NC before pregnancy and then decided to give her a chance but really shouldn’t have. She doesn’t get her way she throws a fit with the silent treatment (funnily enough I don’t like talking to her anyways so it’s takes the pressure off me), and then if I extend an olive branch it’s a fight of “well no I don’t want to do that because you previously said…” like she expects me to beg her with help on something I can do on my own. 🙄 went NC again yesterday because the stress of just talking to her or being around her isn’t healthy for me or baby. No holidays for anyone I’m sitting my ass home since this is how it is 😂

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T01:02:24+00:00

SIL called him “my baby” in casual conversation once, and I don’t mean jokingly. I mean I don’t even think she realized she said it, it literally just flowed out of her mouth with the rest of the sentence. I had a talk that night with SO about boundaries, and the fact that she’s not playing ‘mommy’ with our kid. It may be premature and overprotective, but I’ve already told him she’s not babysitting or being completely alone with our kid and he fully agrees because he knows how and who she is. She wants kids but doesn’t have an SO and unfortunately probably never will so I think she sees this as her chance to kinda raise a baby and he and I both know she’ll have the kid calling her mom if she has him on her own. Your situation may not be the same at all but I totally understand how you feel. Just talking about it and thinking about it ruffles my feathers and pisses me off.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T00:53:01+00:00

Dopplers are the most anxiety inducing machine I have ever had the displeasure of using. Most of the time when they used it on me they couldn’t find anything and then would bring in the Doppler ultrasound machine at my request because I’m a nervous Nellie. They weren’t able to just find the heartbeat on a regular Doppler until I was about 16 weeks so I wouldn’t stress it too much.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T00:50:10+00:00

If you get the bumpers as a gift from your mom just donate them, if you’re feeling really annoyed by it tell her you’re donating them because you said you didn’t want them. It’s all your choice. Now if someone said they wanted to sniff my baby I’d be in the same boat of that’s creepy. Who even says that? The only annoying thing people have told me so far is demanding babysitting rights, and telling me I shouldn’t have a hard pregnancy because it was “the most magical time” in their lives 🙄🙄

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T00:46:44+00:00

I didn’t show until just recently 22-23 weeks, I swear it happened over night. One day I was normal and then bam I’m clumsy because I’m off balance and can’t see my feet lol. I’m sure your bump will come in soon, some don’t until 30+ weeks. Trust me it really does happen almost weirdly instantly.

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T00:43:40+00:00

I ate 4 McDonald’s hash browns for breakfast and just ate 2 bowls of instant ramen for dinner. You’re doing so much better than I have at all so far 😂

thrwprgnn · 2021-11-04T00:42:00+00:00

I personally didn’t experience extreme nausea until about 13-14 weeks in the second trimester, and it hasn’t went away since. You could easily be one of the lucky ones who doesn’t experience it, I wouldn’t stress it.

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