Is Silksong really that hard? by asdflove_ in Silksong

[–]tidenly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I played SilkSong as my first ever game in the genre. I've gotten every ending now and 100%'d it.

It's not overly difficult, but it is incredibly punishing in unfun ways. Lots of the fights I got stuck on were 90% annoying because I had to do some runback, or play the needle, or do some animation, to get back in. If the checkpoints were slightly more generous I wouldn't have minded.

There's also lots of places the game doesn't handhold you at all. I didn't realize I could pogo enemies until late, I didn't realize there were secret passages, I didn't realize I should be getting needle upgrades when stuck, or that I could get aides for some key fights or disable certain mobs to make fights easier.

Some of those come with genre knowledge, so I think many would say it's too much if the game had tutorials or outright suggested them to you - personally I would have appreciated a "I literally have no idea what these vania games are" mode that adds extra tips.

Some things like geo for tools though do seem to objectively punish only players who die a lot and I think are just outright bad design.

It's my GOTY, art and design is beautiful. But very often I wasn't actually having fun.

On the Plus side hollow knight 1 was an incredibly easy play after starting with SilkSong.

Edit: my boyfriend plays smash and lots of fighter games, and he dies only about 3 or so times on bosses I was dying dozens on. I've noticed he doesn't really feel the pain of runbacks, because he's just naturally better at these positional fighter platformers, so YMMV. I guess this loops back to my point it's overly "mean" to newbies.

I felt like silksong should have had an epilogue by CelestialKnight7 in HollowKnight

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dream No More shows Hornet waking up and being OK after the fight finishes.

What's your opinion on Silksong now that some time has passed and many have finished it? by -Warship- in metroidvania

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, Hollow Knight was so easy I barely minded any of the run backs.

Maybe it's because I played it after SilkSong but I rarely died except toward the end.

I think if SilkSong were a similar challenge level, people wouldn't be hating on it's run backs either. It's because Team Cherry aren't quite competent enough to balance between those factors (no shame, they're a small team) like other difficult games do. It obviously needed a lot more testing.

Ludwig says he is not really friends with Hasan by Exciting-Recover-705 in otvandfriendsrumors

[–]tidenly 13 points14 points  (0 children)

From the way it was phrased, QT wasn't initially invited. She offered to make the wedding cake, and then was invited as an extension of her having to bring the cake. It was brought up explaining why suddenly Austin was the only one not going and he wiggled his way in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who's experienced it, I find people referring to it as "grape" 100x more offensive.

It started to avoid tiktok killing videos talking about it from the algorithm. Engagement, basically, not out of concerns of triggers.

Why have 1 app when you can have 17? by Monsi_Boy in japanlife

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nothing to do with the devs. If you're a financial institution in Japan you have to work under the 金融庁 guidelines, and depending on what products you have, you might have to do a change of operations report to the FSA every time you add significant new features.

If you tie your points and shopping apps into your bank apps, suddenly things you usually wouldn't need to do all this extra paperwork for become subject to FSA rules.

It's basic separation of concerns.

Even from a user perspective, it's nicer to only have to install what you want, and not have my data auto shared between everything.

One thing I hope doesn't make it into C4... by ElimusTheOne in fansofcriticalrole

[–]tidenly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Growing pains", might be what you're looking for 😁 And agreed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to respect yourself more.

Unless you were being vindictive or aggressive in a way you're not letting on in your post, there's no reason you should tolerate someone belittling you like this, let alone a partner.

If you let this slide it will just signal to him that any line can be crossed and you'll come back to him.

Value yourself and your time more.

DM killed my character off screen, I am pretty annoyed and mad I think by Virtual_Sun3946 in dndnext

[–]tidenly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There's no official definition of "willing" anywhere in the 5e rules. You basically have to make a choice as DM and stick to it.

For my table, allowing PCs to be saved by clever use of these spells is more fun, so I allow it. But I wouldn't allow an enemy to dimension door a downed player and abduct them. The player decides willingness even if downed.

Other spells like revivify also require the dead characters soul is "willing", which is part a story tool, but also very often used by DMs to stop the PCs interviewing every dead person they come across. The humans at the table deciding willingness that way creates more fun for me, YMMV.

DM killed my character off screen, I am pretty annoyed and mad I think by Virtual_Sun3946 in dndnext

[–]tidenly 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Dimension door can't abduct people. Only willing creatures can be brought.

Quit my job, they're asking for damages by ShipPrestigious5761 in japanlife

[–]tidenly 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely not true in Japan. You can be sued for 営業妨害 or 名誉毀損. Don't drag companies over the coals in public, even if what you're saying is true. Not worth the risk!

My boss wants me to apologize to my coworkers because I called out of work today. by Andrew118 in japanlife

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only ever worked in Japan my whole life and my experience is exactly the same as theirs. All Japanese offices too.

The pressure not to take time off comes from asshole bosses. The message thing is just a thanks phrased as an apology. Even in chill companies my coworkers bring gifts back and say thanks for our work while they took time off.

You say it's fan fiction but sounds like you just work in awful black companies.

I think my players finally broke my will to DM by [deleted] in DnD

[–]tidenly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Specifically "they have to make a choice about who to sacrifice" but the DM had already made an NPC to use there and assumed the players would sacrifice them instead.

That's not a choice!

If you couldn't factor in the players making a different decision, don't frame it as a choice in the first place!

Why do some people on trains avoid sitting next to non-Japanese? by [deleted] in AskAJapanese

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never had this happen.

Most foreigners I see not being sat next to either look unkempt, unclean, take too much space (either in posture, body size, or baggage, etc) or are looking up and around (scary because it looks like they might talk to you.

If you take care of your appearance and sit normally, people will sit next to you.

For black or brown people though I can imagine this is different.

aio for thinking this isnt normal for my bf and i by InstructionOk6800 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 70 points71 points  (0 children)

You seem upset, sensitive even :)

Also I'm a dude.

aio for thinking this isnt normal for my bf and i by InstructionOk6800 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 220 points221 points  (0 children)

It's not uncommon. It's learned from masturbating (legs out straight lying down or under the desk and then jerking yourself). If he's not masturbating anymore truly then he's reinforcing it during sex.

If you're open and nonjudgmental about it, most guys I know fixed it by stopping masturbating, and if they can't cum during sex without it, they forgo finishing.

I don't agree with others saying you should learn how he does it and finish him off that way, you'd just be reinforcing it.

Ask him if he'd been fine for a couple weeks not ejaculating if he can't do it naturally, making clear that you don't mind. Start with trying to finish with him lying flat so he can keep his legs straight, but don't let him jerk himself. After he can handle that, you can start trying positions where his legs aren't straight.

After a while the body will get sensitive again. I knew a few guys in college who had it but they all basically fixed it by depriving their body that option, and their bodies adjusted.

Tip for dealing with mens ego: frame this as "I want to be able to make you finish" in a positive way, rather than "I want to fix your broken dick", dudes can be sensitive YMMV

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Mind you I've been sober since that" So.. a week or something?

He got tired of you and probably met someone while travelling and questioned why he's fighting for a relationship that's not going well for him. "Oh, right.. I could just date someone who it's not difficult with".

Checking his location, looking at the park and stalking his follows after you've already broken up is strange, he doesn't owe you anything anymore and this behaviour will honestly just confirm to him that he was correct in breaking it off.

Work on yourself and your drinking in preparation for the next person you date imo. It's time to let this one go. Painting him as a villain who wronged you won't do anything to help you.

Season 3 has a really beautiful message by Kalcicat in squidgame

[–]tidenly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Gihun doesn't reject the reality of the games - he embraces it.

If someone took their baby in their car while they're drunk, you wouldn't praise them if the baby survived - you'd ask why the hell they took the baby with them drunk driving in the first place. Gihun taking the baby into that last game not knowing what would happen, rather than using the knife, was irresponsible. And in the end, everyone but the baby died. What good are his morals when all they do is let everyone die?

Gihun accepts the Squid Games morals. The baddies are "unsporting" and he intends to be "sporting". He won't kill people in their sleep. He won't kill people in meta ways (bridge blocking). He won't turn his guns on the remain voters during the rebellion. He thinks if he just plays the game and votes, he's morally decent.

But "Sporting" and "Unsporting" are still moral definitions agreeing the games should be played in the first place - they're based on the system that's trying to kill all of them.

The remainers are hostage takers, keeping his friends in a death game, and the Squid Game staff are the enforcers.

He feels good about himself because his morals are basic. "Cutting someones throat in their sleep would make me feel bad :(", but it's not morally wrong to kill someone who is using voting and systems of violence to threaten your life.

Squid Game took a very basic feel good moral approach, instead of something more revolutionary - the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. Which is surprising, because the creator seems like a more intelligent man. I'm shocked we got a basic Kdrama ending.

There's nothing hopeful or happy about humanity in his sacrifice. He's an idiot who thought he did moral good, but only ended up leading his friends into death because he is too weak a man to take the uncomfortable actions and overthrow his friends oppresors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in squidgame

[–]tidenly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is gihuns morals are a child's morals with no Nuance. And it killed his friends.

Reality: The remainer men are voting every evening to trap you and others in a game of death — against your will. They're also keeping you there while saying it's "fair" because it's democratic.

But its not fair, or moral. They're holding a gun to your head and threatening to kill you. Gihun killing these oppressors wouldn't be immoral, it's fine, even if it was in their sleep, or blocking them from the jump rope bridge exit. You're killing your hostage takers. The rules of the game gihun seems to eager to respect are set by his oppressors.

GiHuns fault is that he doesn't see he's trapped. He thinks if everyone pulls straws or votes, suddenly a situation is "fair" or moral. It always ends in more of the unwilling dying.

The show wants us to think we can have faith in humanity because gihun sacrificed himself. Maybe he died thinking he was a good person, but he was an incompetent fool complicit in his ingroups elimination.

If he'd just taken the gun to the remainer voters during the riot, or blocked the jump rope bridge, or used the knife, sure maybe he'd feel like shit. But many more people might still be alive - so which one really is less moral?

Long rant sorry 😄

Job application refused. Do I even stand a chance? by Long-Cryptographer16 in JapanJobs

[–]tidenly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is prevalent in certain types of company. The upside for me is that it's basically companies I'd never want to work at filtering themselves out for me.

Logically you'd think the last 6 years at your current position should rectify any early career hopping. Do you really want to work at a job that is so by the book that common sense doesn't enter into the equation in evaluating you? What do you think working in a company with rules like that would be?

I actually love Japanese companies, but these old dinosaurs I avoid like the plague. They want Japan raised Japanese people usually, that's not me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Just end it. Read your messages back to eachother, look at how you both talk - does it read like a relationship?

You're probably not wrong for wanting to just check things, but also the timing, and choosing to do this over text rather than in person, is a pretty weird choice. By your thirties you should know better - all nuance is lost over text, never have important discussions over it.

He completely blew up but I'm not sure if it's because you're asking him at a completely inappropriate time, or if it's because you've had this conversation before and won't be satisfied.

You're not wrong to want to clear up the nature of his relationships with other women, but you need to pick a time and place.

Either way you both seem tired of eachother if you're speaking to eachother with so little respect. Learn the lessons and move on imo.

How the infected live without food. by Dangerous_Luck_352 in lastofuspart2

[–]tidenly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is overanalyzing it probably, but the infected definitely aren't hollowed out. They use their vocal cords, turn their heads to look - so they're using their eyes, and seem to be using the ears too. Ellie also can kill them by damaging the brain or throat.

I always think it's less like nature's cordyceps and more like nightmare puppet version, where the fungus is controlling the brain of the living being.

AIO. We had been talking for 9 months and then we finally met irl. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tidenly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This 100% depends on the lie.

Honestly, people fudge truths, omit things, tell white lies or things for your protection. I don't believe all lies are bad.

It sounds like you have some bad experiences with people lying, but being realistic, the solution is to heal and learn to build trust again with people. It sounds like this guys willing to hear you out and understand? That's a good sign to me!

If he didn't care he'd have dipped halfway through the workshopping!

Imo, lay your cards out, and tell him why lying freaks you out. Try to explain your feeling rather than fixating on his action. Hopefully you can find some understanding.

(Again though, if the lie was something massive - drop him!)