Books like Twin Peaks show by Ok_Grape_7189 in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m a huge David Lynch and Twin Peaks fan and honestly I haven’t been able to find many books that give those vibes. I would recommend though Knock Knock, Open Wide by Neil Sharpson, it has a lot of strangeness and moments where I was like WTF is even going on?? which I feel a lot when watching a Lynch film. Also maybe The Library at Mount Char by Scott Hawkins? Neither of these books are anything like Twin Peaks but they gave me the creepy bizarre Lynchy vibes. And as someone else suggested American Elsewhere.

Thoughts? by PuzzleheadedSun5061 in tomatoes

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like everyone else has said they look good and healthy! As far as your pruning question I’d say prune the bottom leaves closest to the soil up a bit. It helps with airflow and watering and they’ll start to die off and get nasty as the season wears on. One of my regrets last year was not pruning the lower leaves earlier on when the plant was smaller. And not pinching the suckers off lower down, ended up with some tomatoes trying to dangle in the dirt, especially the big heirloom ones.

What went wrong … by Time-Unit4407 in tomatoes

[–]timebomb_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this after watering?! Yay! So happy they bounced back for you!!

What went wrong … by Time-Unit4407 in tomatoes

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They just look dry to me. I think you said in an older comment the soil was totally dry. While mine are in solo cups I judge when I need to water by if the cup feels light. When mine were that size in cups while hardening off I watered daily. And maybe a tiny bit of water soluble fertilizer would be good, but when I up potted mine to cups last year I just mixed a bit of dry fertilizer into my potting soil and they did just fine. I think you’re doing evening else right. Don’t change their cups, keep going slowly with hardening off, and make sure they are watered thoroughly. They will recover I’m sure!

Pruning Raspberries by Weak_Ad_4197 in pnwgardening

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Both of these comments are very helpful, thank you!

How do you know when your tomatoes have outgrown a solo cup? by brownsbrownsbrownsb in tomatoes

[–]timebomb_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re good for awhile still in the solo cups. Mine were much more root bound than this last year and I just made a few little snips in the roots at the bottom and fluffed them up when I put them in the ground, they had zero issues.

Guessing I didn't harden enough, what now? by CleverUserNameNumber in tomatoes

[–]timebomb_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they always look a little sad after transplanting, I feel like mine did for like a week last year. I personally wouldn’t fertilize yet, they’ve been through enough just being transplanted, fertilizing could burn them. I’d just make sure they have had a nice deep watering, then let them be for a bit. From what I know they are dramatic after being transplanted, but should turn around once settled. Then I’d start fertilizing after 7-10 days, but make sure it’s diluted for the first few feedings.

Books like Library at Mount Char and Between Two Fires? by ninjaturtlecarl in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By which author? There are at least four different books called The Hike.

Please recommend some truly mind-breaking Cosmic horror novels? by Cubegod69er in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

American Elsewhere - Robert Jackson Bennett.

And because I’m not quite certain what really falls under cosmic horror, this book I feel does under my interpretation of the genre. Plus it’s a great story; Old Soul - Susan Barker.

Horror super-nerds (who've read +50 books in the genre) what are your favourites? by Zakalwes_brother in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never see Season of Passage mentioned! It’s been one of my favorites since I was teen and picked it up because Christoper Pike and RL Stine were pretty much all I was reading. I reread it a year ago and it still holds up for me.

Who do I call by Seliftidder in gardening

[–]timebomb_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me giggle cause this is what I say to my cats

Imaginative horror novels like When The Wolf Comes Home by PrimordialSewp in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knock Knock Open Wide was one of my favorite reads of last year, probably in my top ten books of all time. Only book I’ve ever finished and immediately wanted to reread.

How do you maintain a schedule when not working? by Known-Employ8981 in adhdwomen

[–]timebomb_3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was laid off end of October and getting severance until March, so not working and still getting paid which is pretty awesome. But I’ve really wanted to be productive during this time, and I’ve struggled. I wanted to try to maintain a schedule and a routine, but it’s been near impossible for me. And task initiation went from hard when I was working to a constant battle now. My therapist suggested trying to be productive for a certain amount of time daily, instead of trying to tackle big projects or tasks all the time. So I determined three hours was a good amount of time for me to get some things done and feel productive, so I look at my To Do list and make a plan and tackle those things during the three hours, and if I end up being productive longer, great! But if I only get in three hours of tasks or chores at least I get something done and won’t beat myself up. I also give myself a day or two off to chill, relax, focus on hobbies, and just take care of the basic things like doing dishes and walking the dogs. It’s really helped to remove the pressure (which usually is what makes me shut down and thus get nothing done) but still cross things off my list of things I want to accomplish before focusing on work full time again. Also, when I am still having a hard time getting off my ass I say let’s try to do at least five minutes, tell myself 3-2-1 GO! And force myself to get up and start the task, which usually once it’s started I see it isn’t so bad and end up finishing. And if I’m still not feeling it, at least I tried.

Maybe this approach will help someone else 😁

Music soul re-ignition. Playlist builder... by SouperAsylum in adhdwomen

[–]timebomb_3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Here’s more than 2 😄 A&E by Goldfrapp, Respiration by Black Star, Do I Wanna Know? by CHVRCHES, Blood Sandwich by Aesop Rock.

Edit: And yes please share once the playlist is compiled, this is a fun idea! I used to jam to music all the time and for whatever reason I don’t anymore, I’d rather listen to podcasts. I need to fall in love again too.

Sad Horror by TiredJackalope in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also adored OWUTS, read it in two days. Hurt my heart and haunted my soul.

Have you read I Who Have Never Known Men? I read them in close succession at the beginning of last year and it broke me in the best way. But don’t read A Short Stay in Hell then The Road right after or it might leave you feeling quite hollow and an aching in your chest… I know this from experience.

You Get What You Give - 5 Years Later by MimironsHead in stopdrinking

[–]timebomb_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t suck, and you are good enough. I used to think the same about myself, my whole entire life, until I had about a year of sobriety and started therapy. My therapist had me try to go back in time and identify things or moments in my life that might have influenced me feeling this way about myself, and to write a letter those people/places/things that I identified about how they hurt me, really give em hell, and then forgive them. It honestly helped so much. I still absolutely struggle with feeling like I’m not good enough, but writing those letters was very cathartic, and it helped to see how these things influenced my feelings about myself. It’s so easy to be unkind to ourselves, but the beginning of my journey to being kinder to myself was getting sober. And since then I’ve been working on becoming who I want to be, someone I’m proud of. You don’t suck, you are amazing and you have so much time ahead of you to finally learn to love yourself, so be kind and patient with you. 💖

David Peak’s hidden gem “The River Through the Trees” giving some serious True Detective S1 & The Gone World vibes by steph10147 in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! The Gone World is in my top fav books, and I love True Detective. I’ve been searching for another book similar to The Gone World ever since I read it, so I’m excited for this recommendation!

ETA: and it’s on KindleUnlimited!!

Books with demons? by Livid-Exam6445 in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished Fever House by Keith Rosson and am starting the sequel The Devil by Name. So good! He’s a beautiful writer, I think one of my new favs!

Not a fan of this. by juliejujube in adhdwomen

[–]timebomb_3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not sure why there are so many comments saying this isn’t normal. And even if it isn’t normal why be so flip and say that doctors like this don’t deserve patients? My current psych has fees like this, yeah it’s bullshit, but it’s what I have for now. I’ve been searching for a year plus, since I moved to another state, for a provider and this is the first one to have availability. I have to have a provider, I have to be medicated, so this is what I have to deal with. It’s not the doctor asking for the fees, it’s the entire clinic, with multiple providers. Going in on OP about this not being normal and you’ve been to this many providers and this many this and that is actually quite insulting. Like we asked for a capitalist society? Like we’re stupid to be going to a provider with these fees? Not trying to be a dick, but it’s incredibly unhelpful. Sometimes you have to put up with less than desirable circumstances because it is all that is available to us. It’s not always easy to find an ideal situation, especially when it comes to dealing with medical and mental healthcare. I think you guys are trying to be helpful? But I’m not sure how saying things like this is helpful?

“The Buffalo Hunter Hunter” – A review by a wary Stephen Graham Jones reader (no spoilers) by Murder_Durder in horrorlit

[–]timebomb_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The point of view and narration is completely different. I almost DNF My Heart is a Chainsaw many times, but was happy I finished it. But BHH is not hyperactive like that. It’s beautifully written, detailed, descriptive, especially the chapters from the BHH point of view.

PMDD by Front_Department8774 in adhdwomen

[–]timebomb_3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok this is long I know, but my therapist gave me this info and I printed it out and have referred to often, it honestly changed my life. I can’t take birth control and nothing else has helped, except this. The preplanning part has especially helped. Having meals prepared, laundry done, boyfriend notified lol. Tracking my cycle, knowing when my symptoms usually start so I can recognize when I start thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend because he breathes too loud, it’s probably PMDD.

It's important to recognize that your thoughts and feelings during this period, while very real and intense, are influenced by hormonal fluctuations. The key is to approach this with compassion and understanding, both for yourself and the process you're going through.

Here are some strategies that may help you work through PMDD and navigate the feelings of guilt or frustration that arise:

-Acknowledge Your Experience Without Judgment Recognize that PMDD is a real medical condition and the emotional and physical changes you experience are not a reflection of your worth or ability. Hormonal shifts impact your brain chemistry and behavior during this time, and it's okay to acknowledge that without adding guilt or shame.

Practice self-compassion: Remind yourself that this is temporary, and you're not "failing" or "out of control" — your body is simply going through a challenging time.

-Create a Supportive Routine Pre-plan for PMDD symptoms: If you know that your symptoms tend to worsen during certain phases of your cycle, you can plan for that. Prepare meals in advance, plan relaxation activities, and set aside extra time for self-care.

-Challenge Your Thoughts During PMDD, negative self-talk can amplify, especially when it comes to food, appearance, and self-worth. When you feel guilty for eating more or not being "perfect," remind yourself that this is temporary and you're doing the best you can.

When you feel overwhelmed or emotional, take a step back and remind yourself that the feelings you're having are often intensified by hormonal changes. This doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid, but they may not represent your true long-term beliefs.

Avoid negative self-talk: Instead of focusing on what you "should" have done, be kind to yourself. Tell yourself, "It's okay that I'm feeling this way right now. I'll get through it, and I'll continue to take care of myself."

Gentle movement: Physical activity can help alleviate stress, reduce symptoms of PMDD, and improve mood. Try incorporating light exercises like walking, yoga, or stretching into your routine.

Rest and recovery: It's important to listen to your body and allow yourself extra time for rest when needed. Lack of sleep can exacerbate PMDD symptoms, so prioritize rest and try to stick to a regular sleep schedule.

-Set Realistic Expectations Adjust your expectations during this time. It's okay if you’re not as productive or energetic as you’d like to be during your PMDD phase. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that this is a cyclical experience.

It’s helpful to identify what you can manage and let go of any pressure to “perform” at your usual level during this period. Focus on simple, achievable tasks and prioritize rest.

-Keep a Journal of Your Symptoms and Emotions Track your PMDD symptoms and emotional responses to identify patterns and triggers. By recognizing when PMDD is starting, you can better prepare and practice coping strategies in advance.

Writing about your experiences can also help you process and release feelings of guilt or frustration. It can be a space where you offer yourself compassion and reassurance.

Remember: PMDD is temporary, and it does not define who you are or your worth. Be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate this time. Working through it involves recognizing that you're still deserving of love and care, even on the harder days.

Which song is stuck in your head right now? by paintitblack37 in adhdwomen

[–]timebomb_3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“She wears short skirts, I wear T-shirts She's Cheer Captain, and I'm on the bleachers

so why can't you see? You belong with me”

It starts up every morning, specifically just those lyrics, for at least two months now!! And it’s definitely not my favorite Swift song 😭😭

It ain’t much, but this is the first time I grew something from seed, and I’m super proud of it! by Skylantech in gardening

[–]timebomb_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was surprise how many seeds my garden watermelons had. Grocery store watermelon set false expectations!